let's face it guys say date which means looking for sex with different women and women let's be honest we say relationship which means we really want to date different men...

Well I gotta say Age doesn't define Maturity but your actions and ways does. Some older men and women never grow up regardless of their past experiences. In my opinion a mature person knows how to deal the uncertainties. Maturity starts the minute when a person decides they are in control of their thoughts and actions and how they react in any circumstances

Guys don't really want to date.
"Date" is a social construct meant to limit behavior as to mitigate the consequences of what men want.

Guys want to be around desirable women. Guys want to have sex with desirable women.
Desirable meaning physically, emotionally, socially, and mentally attractive to them. A natural and socialized set of conditions that represent the easiest, most comfortable, and convenient means a man can perpetually be around a woman, and get to have sex with her.

"Society" set conditions for that.
Traditionally speaking it was marriage. Through negotiation with parents, having to focus on something other than the pleasure and wonders of being around a woman to come up with a dowry, rigid codes of interpersonal behavior.

Men didn't really like those conditions.
In comes the industrial revolution and people flooding to cities where family's and small communities cannot control the individual as much through social pressure, forced marriages.

This leads to the creation of dating.
Where before it was "in order to be around and have sex with a woman, you have to marry her, or no women for you," as the spectrum, it then became "you must date, follow the dictates of dating, or no women for you."

So men dated.

Marriage has fallen even more out of favor. With more people in their prime mating years forgoing marriage to be single.

Men do not want to date.

Now instead of the spectrum being "marriage, or no women for you," or, "date in public and act appropriate, or no women for you," it's "hangout, just be around each other, have sex if you want to, or no women for you."

Now the burden is more on the individual woman than it is on social constructs and social rules enforced by society (as opposed to government or the individual alone).

Men do not want to date women who are older than them.
Men do not want to date.

Men want to be around women to elicit the mating chemical highs, and have sex with women in order to release the stress those mating chemical and hormonal highs create.
Just as always.
For some men, "older women" represent the easiest, most comfortable, most potential for long term satisfaction compared to alternatives, than other women.

Men want women. Men separate women into labeled categories depending on potential fulfillment, effort, compatibility. Older, younger, hotter, butterface, supermodel, 10, Ohio 6, girl next door, take home to mom, freak in the sheets, nice girl, bad girl, slut, virgin, church lady. Whatever.


By how well they listen to what you say, pick up on what you aren't saying, and respect and validate what you do, especially things you might not even realize or recognize you're saying, aren't saying, or doing.
The more focused, cognizant, and observant on what you do and who you are, than what you can do, or are doing, for them.

A related danger is if you are the type of person who thinks "I know who I am, and what I want!" then the less likely you are going to be able to spot actual sincerity on their part, as it's not going to validate who you think you know yourself to be, or what you think you want.


That's the irony of online forums.
You shouldn't really trust anything where all you have is what they say.