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Topic: why do people cheat
chairman_z Joined Sun 07/15/18 Posts: 596	Mon 07/30/18 05:48 AM
I think the spark or whatever got us together dies. And unfortunately, now a days it's easy to give up and move on. JohnnyS1029 except they are not giving up and moving on they are staying and cheating and possibly exposing their partners to STD's if they cheat with the wrong person.

Aroundtheworld37 Joined Tue 09/05/17 Posts: 4122	Mon 07/30/18 05:52 AM
I think the spark or whatever got us together dies. And unfortunately, now a days it's easy to give up and move on. JohnnyS1029 except they are not giving up and moving on they are staying and cheating and possibly exposing their partners to STD's if they cheat with the wrong person. Well I agree with what you are saying but the question was why do people cheat...I thought he gave a very honest answer

chairman_z Joined Sun 07/15/18 Posts: 596	Mon 07/30/18 05:54 AM
perhaps ATW...he might be right, but it now begs the question does every relationship lose that spark that initially attracted each other?

Aroundtheworld37 Joined Tue 09/05/17 Posts: 4122	Mon 07/30/18 05:58 AM
perhaps ATW...he might be right, but it now begs the question does every relationship lose that spark that initially attracted each other? Well ofcourse not ...there are different reasons people get divorced not always from that lack of spark for instance my marriage to the man that was older than me who I had a child with the spark never died we were together 10years sex 2-3times a day playfulness and fun all the time I divorced for different reasons....

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1713	Mon 07/30/18 06:36 PM
oldkid46, are you attempting to justify cheating ? it sounds like you dont believe in monogamy? I believe there is a significant difference between love or emotional bonding and sex. Sex is a physical act that brings pleasure and is normally between opposite sexes. Emotional bonding between two or more people (such as in a family) has very little to do with sex. If sex required an emotional connection, prostitution and hook-ups would be non-existent. It seems that the problem in society is the belief that having sex with someone other than their SO is an emotional connection with someone other than them. You do realize that at one time in history masturbation was considered a breach of fidelity? News this morning - some lady shot and killed her husband because he was watching porn and probably jerking off.

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Mon 07/30/18 06:42 PM
News this morning - some lady shot and killed her husband because he was watching porn and probably jerking off.

chairman_z Joined Sun 07/15/18 Posts: 596	Mon 07/30/18 06:45 PM
sex with an emotional love is amazing that is why its called love making, sex for pleasure is fun dont get me wrong but eventually it fizzles out. I worked with a guy a few years back and he met some of the hottest women that makes most men go how in the Phuck did you meet that one.. wow,Ive never seen this guy with a woman below a 9, mind you he was extremely good looking himself. Ive asked a few times why he broke up with this girl or that one, and its was the same answer, boredom, eventually the sex fizzles out. Ever seen good looking men with good looking wives or trophy wives and then they are caught cheating and usually with a woman who you swear can crack a mirror and scare Godzilla. why do you think that is?

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1713	Mon 07/30/18 07:07 PM
sex with an emotional love is amazing that is why its called love making, sex for pleasure is fun dont get me wrong but eventually it fizzles out. I worked with a guy a few years back and he met some of the hottest women that makes most men go how in the Phuck did you meet that one.. wow,Ive never seen this guy with a woman below a 9, mind you he was extremely good looking himself. Ive asked a few times why he broke up with this girl or that one, and its was the same answer, boredom, eventually the sex fizzles out. Ever seen good looking men with good looking wives or trophy wives and then they are caught cheating and usually with a woman who you swear can crack a mirror and scare Godzilla. why do you think that is? I agree with you about sex and the emotional connection being the best. Unfortunately in many marriages and most divorces, the sex disappeared first and eventually the emotional connection dies too. Very few relationships will survive on the emotional connection only.

chairman_z Joined Sun 07/15/18 Posts: 596	Mon 07/30/18 07:16 PM
I agree with you about sex and the emotional connection being the best. Unfortunately in many marriages and most divorces, the sex disappeared first and eventually the emotional connection dies too. Very few relationships will survive on the emotional connection only. oldkid46 One of the problem is We also tend to have a rather idyllic vision of how marriages used to go. The truth is that not everyone ended up blissfully happy after 10 years of marriage, The reality is that people grow and mature differently, and just because you were in sync 10 years ago, it doesn't mean you will still be today. It's no one's fault: life happens, experiences happen, kids, finances you name it. Those the grow together generally stays together but as soon as one grows and the other doesnt, the countdown starts.

Aroundtheworld37 Joined Tue 09/05/17 Posts: 4122	Mon 07/30/18 07:48 PM
sex with an emotional love is amazing that is why its called love making, sex for pleasure is fun dont get me wrong but eventually it fizzles out. I worked with a guy a few years back and he met some of the hottest women that makes most men go how in the Phuck did you meet that one.. wow,Ive never seen this guy with a woman below a 9, mind you he was extremely good looking himself. Ive asked a few times why he broke up with this girl or that one, and its was the same answer, boredom, eventually the sex fizzles out. Ever seen good looking men with good looking wives or trophy wives and then they are caught cheating and usually with a woman who you swear can crack a mirror and scare Godzilla. why do you think that is? I agree...my last relationship the guy was a 10 everyone thought he was hot but...........I need more

BlakeIAM Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1140	Mon 07/30/18 07:51 PM
I agree with you about sex and the emotional connection being the best. Unfortunately in many marriages and most divorces, the sex disappeared first and eventually the emotional connection dies too. Very few relationships will survive on the emotional connection only. oldkid46 One of the problem is We also tend to have a rather idyllic vision of how marriages used to go. The truth is that not everyone ended up blissfully happy after 10 years of marriage, The reality is that people grow and mature differently, and just because you were in sync 10 years ago, it doesn't mean you will still be today. It's no one's fault: life happens, experiences happen, kids, finances you name it. Those the grow together generally stays together but as soon as one grows and the other doesnt, the countdown starts. Another chunk of truth.

GalaxyStarz Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 2697	Mon 07/30/18 07:51 PM
"why do people cheat" RATFINKS love to use that word

chairman_z Joined Sun 07/15/18 Posts: 596	Mon 07/30/18 08:12 PM
nah, I prefer to call them rat bastards

Aroundtheworld37 Joined Tue 09/05/17 Posts: 4122	Mon 07/30/18 08:34 PM
nah, I prefer to call them rat bastards I called my dog tha today 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Up2youandme Joined Sun 04/29/18 Posts: 1345	Tue 07/31/18 10:22 AM
I think the spark or whatever got us together dies. And unfortunately, now a days it's easy to give up and move on. Not necessarily true... you can be in love and all that but that's no guarantee you won't cheat . Morals have absolutely nothing to do with it. We are of the primate genome hence our proclivity for reproduction is ingrained in our DNA . No legislation can unhinged that process.

chairman_z Joined Sun 07/15/18 Posts: 596	Tue 07/31/18 02:28 PM
If someone is truly in love they wont cheat, not because its some moral thing or maybe it is, its because it doesn't enter in their minds. Temptation will always rear its head but they will never entertain it,its like kyptonite to superman . those that claim they are in love but cheated or it was an accident? I say do you really think we were dropped on our heads as a child?

Unknow Joined Sat 12/02/17 Posts: 196	Tue 07/31/18 06:51 PM Edited by Unknow on Tue 07/31/18 06:54 PM
There are lots of reasons, but the basic fact of the matter is choice and human nature. You can choose to be faithful or not. But also, be certain you're not hooking up with a swinger or prostitute. Which takes time sometimes to sort out if he or she is clever or too hot for their own good. Often as it has become self evident that from their teens and even their childhood they do not have role models and elders to teach them ethics, principals, the difference between good, bad, evil and wrong. So you get what there is in society today.

Robertcrna777 Joined Sun 08/23/15 Posts: 692	Tue 07/31/18 08:17 PM
People cheat for a multitude of reasons...... all selfish in one way or another. Real love : ... suffers long and is kind; does not envy; love does not parade itself, it is not puffed up. Love does not behave rudely . It does not seek its own is not provoked, thinks no evil. Love does not rejoice in inquity but rejoices in the truth . Love bears all things, believes all things endured all things. Love never fails.... why do people cheat??? Why do people get divorced????? ( abusive relationships do not apply) I would argue because one or the other or both people were never really in love in the first place!!

JimboDoe Joined Sat 05/12/18 Posts: 33	Tue 08/07/18 11:15 AM
Love is Blindness, i don't want to see. Won't you wrap the night, around me.

Majicfingers18 Joined Wed 07/25/18 Posts: 13	Sun 08/12/18 02:40 AM
there are many reasons .the men seem to think it's ok for him to get a little on the side .But get all sideways when she seeks attention. Men are to bust working to busy and just takes her for granted. some time they someone out side of the gives the married person the attention actually pays attention them .Gives the married person what they should and need to be getting at home .And some times people just suck .