I have a hypothetical to pose. IF you were dating someone that you thought was working for a living and found out later that they were actually quite wealthy to the point that they did not HAVE to work, would you feel upset with that nondisclosure? Why?


keep in mind, I am not applying this to a marriage, just a courtship.

hmmm guess it would depend on if u wanted to go do something and the person use the i have to work late excuse on u...for a courtship where someone works or how much they make is really no one business not unless it gets serious so many times i get ask that question and it drives me bananas lol

Depends on the relationship and how honest and open we are.

Key phrase is:

Obviously the relationship is not as intimate as it could be or you would know. If you just assume they have a good job that is on you, not them.
Did you ask?


There are people that do work and don't need to work for the money.
It is quite common. There are a lot of people that are inherently wealthy and money is never an issue. I have actually online dated one such woman.

It wasn't her wealth that didn't work for me. It was her twisted sense of entitlement and disregard for the lower classes. She treated others like shidt. She lacked empathy for the common man.

I don't know I keep my wealth to myself... money is a factor in any relationship both people should be working.... and sometimes the in balance of wealth can be an issue..
.. but if you were stinking rich !!..hot dog.. but you better still have a job..
Not going to put up with .. a couch potato...lol

Myself only requirement I have as far as a job, is you either better have a job or have means to support yourself.. Don't matter how they make their money as long as I don't have to look over my back...

I'm one that I'm more then willing to pick up the tab when I date someone here and there or even every other time...

If one just assumed they were working or if the other person played up what they did with a bunch of lies, it might sting a bit for that hits on the trust issue...

But if it had only been dating for a couple of weeks or so.. And they realized I was not after their money and told me.. Hum I would just say sweet that is great that is their business not mine. Heck I don't ask those that I date how much money they make.. most just volunteer the info...

If I'm dating them it is due to them as a person does not have a damn thing to do with what they make or what they can buy for me... I work and make my own living... And I'm content with what I have...

I don't talk about my wealth... with anyone. Fact is you would never know if I had money or not because I don't flaunt what I have. I drive a old pick up and a new Hyundai, and a Harley, because.. I like them.

I want the woman I am interested in to like ME. nothing affiliated with me.. just ME

what I have or don't have would come out later in the relationship.

Perhaps its a simple case of love me not my money.

I think finances don't come up right away in a dating situation do they? That would be rather gauche (bad taste).. I am sure as a relationship develops, the topic is probably broached..
I mean, you want to be loved for you, not your money.... weed out the gold-diggers, lol.

What would make a difference is the source of the money.
Was it ibtained by legsl ir illegal means by the person in my life?

it would matter to me if we have been close already and talking for weeks. it is a question of the trust he has for me and that its not sufficient enough for a real relationship to last. i know trust is earned and not given and if one is caught in a lie there should be a very good reason behind it and if its acceptable i think the relationship is workable still.

LOL, I had to chuckle at some of the replies.
People have great concern over their wealth when considering a relationship.
The "Gold Digger" lesson has been effectively taught.

Most of society operates in the motto of "Mine, Mine, Mine". I know that relationships need to be "Ours, Ours, Ours". Having lost everything I value I realized that material things like money and possessions are in a different classification than things like happiness and contentmemnt.

If a woman wants to know how much money I make or have, I'll tell her. If she is a gold digger she will reveal herself from her actions. Just because I have wealth doesn't mean I will waste it. I control my money it doesn't control me.

If you are an American citizen and you pay your taxes you can go to the Social Security website and sign-in. There, you can request a statement of your earnings for your lifetime. You can also view that statement on a secure webpage. I have exceeded $1 million dollars in my career. So in reality I have already made my first million. You might be surprised at your total.

Money and wealth are factors that affect a relationship. It is important information to share with someone you share life with. If Money and Wealth are deciding factors, the relationship will be based on a shallow foundation. If SHTF and all money is lost, will love persist?

He starts with a lie and you want to know if that foretells the future?
Yes.

No.
Their money, their life, their business.
Wealth, debt.
Their finances are none of my concern, nor mine theirs, until/if we plan on joining them.
I don't want to get married and all of a sudden fall into a higher tax bracket, or be saddled with credit card debt.
I don't want to move in with them to find out they can't get a loan, sign a lease, or want to buy a place that would be way out of my price range alone.

As far as choosing to work when they didn't "HAVE" to, that's part of their life and what they choose to do, their purpose or whatever.
I wouldn't really care if they chose to work but didn't have to.
I would care if they chose to work at a place they didn't want to, didn't have to, and did nothing but complain about it.

It would be somewhat relevant on how it was "disclosed" that they were wealthy.
Did they buy me a new ferrari? Did I snoop through their bank statements?
Did they magically transform one night from kmart nylon running shorts and flip flops to a solid gold tuxedo and start telling me I won the willy wonka prize of them for liking them for them and not their money and now they are going to shower me with wealth.
I wouldn't feel upset with the nondisclosure, but I would be upset with the "games."


Generally not directly.
Found on many profiles: "must have own place, must have own car, must not live with parents, must have job."