Wat u gonna feel if someone ignore u in chat that u know they read it and they will say only they r busy

People have the right to ignore someone.

No response, IS a response.

Sometimes they really are busy. I know that many times, I want to think before I answer.

I hate to say it again. But, it is the truth.

This is a dating site. You didn't actually come here thinking that you would get dates or that people would talk to you? Did you?

Yes At least in the beginning

How do you know he read it?. Maybe he was busy.

I had one gal say that to me. And I am busy, I'm not always on this site. have a job and a life.

First time she said it, I ignored the comment, 2nd she said it.. then I did start ignoring her.

Give the guy the benefit of doubt and give him some room.

Even though I visit M2 quite regularly, often the real world takes over. I might read a message but have more pressing things on my mind. Unless you are physically in each others lives or a real commitment has been promised. Most online friendships usually take at least second place to every day life, especially in the early stages. Stop concerning yourself too much when you don't hear from someone.

Some people are here for the forum, some are truly busy and they can't attend to all the messages they receive. They will just answer at their own convenient time. We all have the right to reply or not. It doesn't mean that someone is ignoring you in a negative way if he or she doesn't reply. Can you imagine if you receive a lot of messages and you feel the need to answer all of them, do you think you can entertain all? No of course, even in real life... We filter the messages, we just reply to those we feel like worth replying to depending on your preferences and qualifications. I believe that not replying is a subtle way of saying he or she is not interested, it's perfectly understandable, don't wait for someone to tell it directly to you or wait to get insulted when he or she stops replying anymore:) just appreciate whoever replies to your messages and friendship could start from there

you can get used to be ignored i know i did or i am ? am i? was? is? just ignore this ok

You and I both. Many years ago when I first started doing the online dating thing, I thought that this would be a great way of meeting people. Maybe even find someone to date long term. Or maybe even marry. But, With what I've seen on dating sites, and the kind of dates I've had, NO! NEVER. So far all I've ever seen on dating sites, that I've dated, Has just really turned out badly.

Seriously, It's been other men's rejects. I'm not saying this to be ugly or mean. It just the truth as far as it has been with me. The weird and the nutty. And the overly medicated. Throw in on top of that a few schizophrenics, It finished me. I'm just not that lonely.

After many many years on social networks sites,
blogs and similar rubbish, I find that IGNORING
is a way of keeping SANITY with your soul

Best way to get used to live in a small world of
networking today is to follow the principles of
your/mine/his her, first computer



In simple words, KEEP ON TAKING NOTE/S & ACT ACCORDINGLY

You know what's worse than being ignored by a complete stranger..
Being ignored by somebody who knows you.... Like when somebody doesn't return your call... or text message..... funny how people drift apart... even after they say they'll stay in touch....hmmmm... oh well!!! probably for the best..

I like that...and I agree that ignoring helps with keeping your sanity...works well offline as well, co-workers, certain family members, etc..

Well, I'm sorry you had so many bad experiences. My sister and niece encouraged me to join, so I did with the idea that I would meet someone in my area. So far I haven't, and now I'm not so much looking for it to happen. I enjoy the friendships here on the site, and if more comes my way I'm open to it, if not, that's okay too.

A bit one-sided doncha think?

I know that I can't make anyone reply to me.
Just like I know I can't make anyone do anything.
I can give them the opportunity but their actions and reactions are entirely theirs.

As for replying to messages from women, I only reply when:

It is an open ended message.
It asks something of me.
It concerns something that I am interested in talking about.
I have the time and will to reply.

I don't respond to status messages.
I don't respond to contradictions.
I don't respond to ego fluff-ups.

If she can't take the time to create meaningful discussion or write out words I lose interest.

That is so true for me as well Tom. After a while, I get bored with simple small talk. I'll expand on something they say, and they respond with one word or a simple sentence. It feels like I'm talking to myself, so I figure I may as well go stand in front of the mirror and carry on the conversation. After a while, sometimes sooner, I get to the point of just wanting to ignore them. Sometimes small talk is okay, but not when that's all there is. For a relationship to grow and be sustainable, there needs to be substance in your conversation, at least for me.

With that said, "meaningful" is subjective. What makes a conversation meaningful for one person may not be meaningful to the other. I guess there are times when I get a little stumped on what to talk about or creating a conversation based on what someone else has said.

Wise Words

I believe that is why honestly filling out your profile and listing your interests are important and likewise, reading someone's profile and taking note of their interests is equally important.

Idle curiosity can be compelling for a conversation but will be short-lived because it lacks the interest needed to sustain repertoire discussion.

For instance; If a person lists camping, hiking and nature walks they may have idle curiosity about model building but not as much as talking about interesting National parks you both have visited.

Also, With this being a dating site and messages are used to understand someone you have an interest in, the things you say will have meaning when they reveal qualities about your personality. How you respond is just as important as how you instigate.

Good points Tom, and gives me some food for thought to consider. First to revamp my profile to reflect a little more about me. The other is to pay more attention to theirs. I have to admit, that although I read their profile, I tend to draw off the messages more so than what they have stated in their profile. I'm pretty guilty of waiting for them to initiate the conversation and drawing off that, rather than me initiating it to help the conversation move forward. So perhaps in some cases they get just as bored as I do.

No sir. I don't think it's one sided. That was my reality. That was what I encountered after several years of meeting women on dating sites. That's why I don't do it anymore. It seems to me, from what I've seen, dating sites attract every loose nut in the world.

From what I saw after several years of online dating were people who bombed out in real world dating. Men wouldn't date them. So, they turned to online dating. Where a lot of the men are just as kookie as they are. When a guy like me comes along that actually wants something lasting past the bedroom, that's when you find out that they are not really true to what they have written in their profile.

You also find out lots of other things. Like the son or daughter that lives with them that doesn't work. Or her X husband lives in the basement. And he doesn't have a job either. She's on several mind altering medications. And a whole host of other things that make a man want to run away as fast as his feet can take him.

So, no sir. Not one sided. It's been my reality.