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Topic: Annoying relationships
Niiiiina Joined Fri 05/26/17 Posts: 3	Fri 05/26/17 10:40 PM
I've been in a massively dramatic relationship it's really interesting to say the least

Unknow Joined Sat 01/11/14 Posts: 23369	Fri 05/26/17 11:09 PM
Interesting in what way? Really I'm thinking your so young. don't put with drama, life's to short, save the drama's for later years when they are justified Good luck

Niiiiina Joined Fri 05/26/17 Posts: 3	Sat 05/27/17 06:44 PM
I guess your right from your perspective:) I'm in a relationship with someone I have deep respect for and I love him completely.... we've had huge mountains to climb and wide valleys to cross to be together...we're still strong . I guess it's interesting because we're both 21 and this guy ive put my all into has just found out hes a father to two children to two different ex partners and there both staying with him in his home as well as his mum and dad and older siblings and im supposed to be going over to meet them all this evening for dinner he comes from a well put together family base , I come from a family base that once was put together it's nerve racking to be honest :) ....its annoying to me that I'm not 100% well to meet his entire family

whattheheywastaken Joined Wed 11/30/11 Posts: 1058	Sat 05/27/17 08:00 PM
This sounds like a great idea for a sitcom. I think there's money to be made here.

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Sat 05/27/17 10:21 PM
Perhaps you need to look at the facts and see if this is really what you want in life. He's fathered children with 2 women that you know of. He lives with his parents so maybe has no visible means of support. What are you looking for in a relationship and what does he bring to the relationship?

Unknow Joined Sat 01/11/14 Posts: 23369	Sat 05/27/17 10:32 PM
I guess your right from your perspective:) I'm in a relationship with someone I have deep respect for and I love him completely.... we've had huge mountains to climb and wide valleys to cross to be together...we're still strong . I guess it's interesting because we're both 21 and this guy ive put my all into has just found out hes a father to two children to two different ex partners and there both staying with him in his home as well as his mum and dad and older siblings and im supposed to be going over to meet them all this evening for dinner he comes from a well put together family base , I come from a family base that once was put together it's nerve racking to be honest :) ....its annoying to me that I'm not 100% well to meet his entire family Respect? Sounds like he has you just where he wants you and you believe everything he says. how can it be a surprise to him both girls have children? He'd obviously been doing both of them? Don't try and make your relationship sound romantic with bridges and mountains, get out of it before you're the third one single and with a child! !!!

Midcoast_Guy Joined Mon 05/22/17 Posts: 96	Sat 05/27/17 11:12 PM
Annoying relationship? That's, er, a nice way of putting it. Made me think of the ancient Chinese curse, "May you live in interesting times." Many women would have kicked him to the curb after the first "surprise" pregnancy was revealed. I agree with those who have already suggested you should find someone better. This is just one more free opinion; the choice is yours alone. Either way, good luck.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4661	Sun 05/28/17 01:37 AM
At least you know that should you become pregnant in this relationship you can go live with him, based on the fact two of his previous girlfriends already have done so. Good idea to meet all the family, maybe he is thinking of asking you to move in with him right now which is why he wants you to meet them all, so don't be annoyed it could be your lucky day.

Niiiiina Joined Fri 05/26/17 Posts: 3	Sun 05/28/17 05:42 AM
I came into this knowing what i wanted and it was him and a stable life i could build with him i still want that and ive accepted He is now fathering two children ...ive met the both of the mothers of these children and both of them spoke to me on how we're in this situation.... and no he didn't have prior knowledge of them , he doesn't live with his parents... his parents have moved here from Spain recently and are living in HIS home aswell his older siblings. He offers a full on lifestyle but we've spoken and I decided I'm going to give this my a good go .

IgorFrankensteen Joined Thu 10/01/09 Posts: 5444	Sun 05/28/17 06:42 AM
I'm not clear on why you titled this "Annoying Relationships." The only other observation I have is that I have been fascinated most of my life, at the great and inexplicable differences between how people get together. Some of us who have even a tiny not-so-great habit (such as rattling on too long in forum posts) can't find anyone who DOESN'T lose patience with us, while others with somewhat more "involved" social challenges, have a line of people outside their door, begging for a chance to commit to them forever amen.

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Sun 05/28/17 06:43 AM
This sounds like a great idea for a sitcom. It reads like a Thursday episode of Jerry Springer catfish.

Hatesusernames2 Joined Fri 05/26/17 Posts: 93	Sun 05/28/17 07:47 AM
I think I should go over to the New Members and reintroduce myself before commenting.....safer there I will say, we have choices that we have to live with. I do not like frequent drama either so I avoid it. Just a thought

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Sun 05/28/17 09:49 AM
I came into this knowing what i wanted and it was him and a stable life i could build with him i still want that and ive accepted He is now fathering two children ...ive met the both of the mothers of these children and both of them spoke to me on how we're in this situation.... and no he didn't have prior knowledge of them , he doesn't live with his parents... his parents have moved here from Spain recently and are living in HIS home aswell his older siblings. He offers a full on lifestyle but we've spoken and I decided I'm going to give this my a good go . There might come a time when you think back and kick yourself for making excuses. You have a boyfriend who had unprotected sex with at least 2 different women. He claims not to have prior knowledge of the children he fathered. If the children are close in age, that indicates lack of gidelity on his part. If tge children were conceived during the time you have been with him, you can see he has no respect for your relationship. You talk about wanting stability. I'm not sure how this is going to happen as he has 2 children to care for plus his parents and siblings. I'm not sure what you hoped to gain by posting this. I wish you all the best

howed Joined Tue 04/12/16 Posts: 466	Tue 05/30/17 01:59 AM
I came into this knowing what i wanted and it was him and a stable life i could build with him i still want that and ive accepted He is now fathering two children ...ive met the both of the mothers of these children and both of them spoke to me on how we're in this situation.... and no he didn't have prior knowledge of them , he doesn't live with his parents... his parents have moved here from Spain recently and are living in HIS home aswell his older siblings. He offers a full on lifestyle but we've spoken and I decided I'm going to give this my a good go . Oh my goodness I think your out to LUNCH! Let us know how it works out!