What do you do MORE in the "first dating" TO ASK or TO ANSWER??

Many people like to ask a lot
And many people don't like to answer a lot...

I ask questions...
Have you been a bad girl?
Who's your daddy?

i ask questions and i get questions as answers in return

Dude!

i dont ask questions neither i answer..i just enjoy the time..

On a first date, my parents would say if I'm not in bed by 10 then come home

I don't know, I don't bring a Ask-AnswerOmeter on dates. I just have conversations and see if her head has more than air in it. I listen a lot, critically. You'd be surprised what contradictions you'll find in their monologues when you REALLY listen.

Sometimes neither. Just see where the conversation flows

Hi just want to about her interests and about her life etc.

I like to ask ? in here first ...
to make sure we can be on the same pg.
especially if they don't put anything in their profile ...

if they go for her is my no. or get on this chat ...
or emails ... I say not so fast ...
only have to scam me once I am good ...
I can clear a rm in a NY min...

Neither.
I prefer conversations about things they haven't prepared for and neither of us has thought a lot about, but I think will probably interest us both.

I am a very curious person so I do a lot of asking.

On a more serious note, well not serious but not jokey.
Just have a conversation for a change. If you can possibly do that face to face instead of hiding who you think you are online!

I like to talk about our surroundings.
It gives me a chance to see if she is in the moment or acting a predetermined date. A chance to understand her affinity towards the world around her.

Living in the moment isn't hard but you DO have to let go of all the baggage you carry around so you can experience that moment as it is. Is she in the moment with me right now or is she off someplace else in her head? Is she 'seeing' me or some impression of me that she predetermined?

I try to "see" her as the person she is right now, with me. Those things are what I want to talk about. Dating is about the person as they are with you at the moment of the date. All the history can come naturally after we determine if we have an active connection.

Its like matching awareness with each other.
Some discusssion may even be obvious, just to understand how we each "see" the moments we share. Noting what catches each other's interests about each other and our surroundings. Establishes a baseline for future interactions.
As dates progress, coversations will get more and more personal.

A note about PHONES.
If the phone comes out during the date it signifies to me that the phone is more important than getting to know me. My phone stays off during a date. That is because if I am on a date with someone I want to know better then they ARE my focus.
Even if your phone is on silent you will get texts and missed calls.
When that happens you will be preoccupied with finding out what you missed.
Preoccupied is NOT in the moment.
If you just can't shut off your phone while you are on a date with me, I really don't want to date you. Later on in the relationship, not as important.

No, and what do you like in a bad girl?

Devilish red hair works for me.

asking questions helps you to get different answers...

I'm told it's best if I just sit there looking pretty and keep my mouth shut... seems to work best that way...lol

Well I like mystique on a first date....if she's available....

Seriously though... a nice quite dark place with nice ambiance.

I like to throw a couple of questions into the round robin of banter.. of which I will answer also.

1. Most fun thing you've ever done.

2. Greatest question to humanity.

3. Life in other worlds, dimensions, Florida??

4. What makes you laugh.

5. Most embarrassing moment in life.


This may help...I know I like this mix. Makes for a possible first and only date!!!

I ask questions and i love conversation