I am attempting to compile a comprehensive list of "clues" men could benifit from if given a bit of assistance from us. We all know we have a secret feminine language the guys are somewhat resitant to learning. Here's an idea of the type of things I am looking for:

When I am crying, turn and walk away while saying, "leave me alone," what I REALLY mean is: My feelings are hurt and I want you to care enough to follow me to try to find out what hurt me.

When we have been arguing and we are in different rooms, if you want to show me how much you want to make things right between us, come to me DURING the television program you are watching, NOT when a commercial comes on!

Have any "clues" to offer from personal experience?

clues for the clueless why bother???? it's too much fun just f*ing w/them

When ya say, Hunny, dont get me anything for my birthday, christmas, valentines, anniversary, what you really mean is... you better get me somthing or im gunna be pissed.

LOL! I love it~~~~keep 'em coming! (wonder why, as a newlywed, this idea has all of a sudden come to mind! LOL)

lmao, I learned that the hard way

When we say "don't worry about it everythings fine"- you better figure out what you did cuz its not fine and you better suck up

when we say that we are "okay" but you know something isn't right... don't just let it go... ask us a few more times :)

When you say Im fine.............means you really need a shoulder to cry into, and someone to listen

LOL i nevcer understood this... I thought they were serious =)

it's a trick man

No "Real Country Girl" says things she doesn't mean. If you tell a man not to get you anything and then going to be pissed at him when he doesn't deliver, then it's your own damn fault.

Bottom line, I'm a country girl too and I say what I mean and mean what I say.

Think about it. It's pretty damn dumb on your part to tell your man one thing and expect something else.

Be Real!!!!

Oh, these comments are PRICELESS! I just thought of one!!! (this one IS from personal experience!)

Don't ask me how my day was or what happened at work if you are not prepared to listen to my detailed, emotion-filled answer!

(someone once told me right in the middle of answering that question...."you were there 12 hours, please don't take 12 hours to tell me about it!") GRRRRRRRRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

not sure what you mean by real country girl, Sassie, but you're a rarety. I think for me, it's my way of avoiding what will inevitably be a frustration, since men don't usually understand and won't try to do anything but "fix" the problem, instead of listening and being thoughtful, which is what I think most women really want.

Unfortunately, I am afraid you are the minority here, girl. The "exception to the rule," if you will.

BUT....it is my hope to one day do just that, say what I mean, and mean what I say. Much to my husband's dismay, however, that day is not today.

Thanks for your input........

ladies thanks for the info keep it coming

I agree with the country girl, why not be real and quit sending out mixed signals to a guy. In my book is just game playing and if you young ones only knew that life is way too short and precious to play games, and messing with someone elese emotions does not give you the right to complain if they mess over you. Honesty is the best policy no matter what the relationship, would you like someone doing those things to you?:
Just my take on things. You don't have to like it and more than likely most of you wont.

Well, honestly I don't do what I do/react the way I react in order to play games. Only when I am removed from the situation or it has been worked through am I able to see my motive. Many times it is unclear to even me what would defuse the situation.

For me...........Tom can NEVER go wrong by simply puting his arms around me tenderly and telling me he loves me and that everything will be alright, that we'll work through it together. No matter how angry or hurt I am..........that melts my heart.........

(and YES, I've given the poor man this information and he's so smart he has begun to figure out it's true!)

I got the mixed signals, took action based on misinformation,and it may be awhile before it gets straightened out. Country girl you got it right.

And they wonder where all the nice guys went, hah! To think, most of you put honesty and no games in your profile. You should be ashamed. Imagine if we lied to you on purpose just to get a specific reaction... why do you think it's ok when you do it?

This topic should be called "Men should know when we are lying"