I don't know if people are being shallow or just dealing with human nature. For the most part men are visual and an attractive women is a hard to resist. But, what is on the inside is important for the long term. I guess in a perfect world we want both.

Sex is what brings men and women together as mates. Without sex and attraction doesn't that just make us friends?

The whole relationship issue can get quite complicated.

Yeah, plus I'm super cute, inside and out

You obviously don't marry "based" on looks. But c'mon, be real. 'Romantic' is an attractive woman and no matter what age you are you can still be physically attractive. i see grey woman alot and think "it would be nice to keep up my looks throughout life. It helps you feel good.

Nothing set me off...I am just stating how I feel. I don't let anything here set me off!

Beauty fades...inner beauty can keep on growing!! Have you ever met someone that was not so pretty when you first looked at them, but the more you talked to them...the more beautiful they became? Thats inner beauty!!! I go for personality every time, I would rather have someone with inner beauty then beauty on the outside!!! Looks fade fast!!

on the note of children, if there's going to be regular interaction w/ children, expected or unexpected, regular interaction eventually builds a roll of one type or another, and a situation w/ children is one that at 23, i'm not looking to jump into... you can't hold that against me. OF COURSE inner beauty is more important, whoever i believe a good outter beauty is not only a physical thing, but a way to see that a person takes care of themself.. Someone who weighs 400 pounds has a lack of care SOMEWHERE there when it comes to maintaining themselves... and YES, i am takeing my own advice on that, i can't say i'm good looking or not, that's for other people to make up their minds on, how ever i am striveing on many things, one of which is to become more physically fit. and i plan on obtaining that goal, and keeping it.

further more what do i have to offer? i have personality, honesty, loyalty, financial stability, i'm a non smoker, i don't drink but once in a RARE BLUE MOON, i've never dried a smoke or any drug in my entire life. I DON'T lie to ANYONE... EVER, i don't beat around the bush, and i don't let things go unsaid, that need to be said. I can communication openly and calmly, and i am good at solveing problems, even in a stressfull manor...

and is it too much to look for someone who can do the same?

you know what you want and you shouldn't question your reasons why with other people. Everyone is going to have a different opinion of why which will just confuse you more. Your not being shallow your being you! love yourself for what you are and who you are. Screw what everyone else thinks of you. I am the same way you are and I'm notashaned of it. I like to be wit a guy that im physically attracted to and mentally attracted to. I tried a relationship wit a guy i was not really physically attracted to and trust me there was dust piling up in the bedroom. I couldn't get myself to have sex with him. I obviously told him it wasnt working and that im sorry but i just couldnt do it. It made me realize and learn something about myself that i do need to be physically attracted to the person too in order for me to be with them. It's who you are and you know that about yourself. I see people post comments and if it's something you don't like your posted comment is right under there's defending why you are the way you are. LOL just stop it already you know what you like what you don't like so accept it. SO what if people call you shallow or not shallow. IF i invested my time "listening" to what others thought about me or my ways or what i believed in or not" I'd be 1 miserable girl!!! My advice to you stop worrying what others think of you and worry about what you think of yourself!!!

I see you ladies post and swoon over Johny Depp and george Clooney, Don't play coy

It's not shallow, it's just male....statistically men are attracted to females due to physical characteristics more than anything else (something like 60% to 80%), where women are more attracted to communication skills ( 40% to 60%). This is not to say that men can't overcome this, just that it's instinctual. And when you realize that beauty can be found in other areas that make up someones whole persona, hopefully you will overcome that instinctual behavior...I'm not trying to be rude, just think your limiting yourself. Very few people are both beautiful & honorable, or sexy & intelligent, or your idea of perfect (which could change from day to day). BTW, I want the same things , too, but I just am being realistic.