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I mean, seriously, ur only 23 and u already have a receding hair line... you have no room to be picky...
oops, was that mean or shallow? |
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Edited by
fortsmithman
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Mon 11/26/07 04:35 PM
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Hard to say if you were mean or shallow. ir ciuld we make a new word to mean both mean and shallow meshallow. How about that.
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Or, how about, "ANOWSALLMESH"?
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Kind of harsh there Jayme
 , though I understand the frustration. If you're hot, you can decide you want your mate to be just as hot. But don't go thinking you're in the major leagues when you're just a bat boy. |
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You guys are young, and you will learn that beauty is only skin deep. Sure you can have a beautiful girl on the outside...but what if she is ugly on the inside? What would you rather have..inner beauty or outer beauty?? You can only parade a woman around for so long!! How do you know that these single women with children are even looking for someone to raise their chilren? I am sure that right there is going to offend a lot of women with children! I myself do not want someone to raise my boys! My boys do have a father...why do they need another one?? Please explain this one to me!!! I do think both of you guys are shallow...all you talk about is looks. Let me ask you this...what do you have to offer that beautiful woman? Do you think you have good enough looks to keep that woman interested in you?? With age comes wisdom...don't worry, you will get wiser!!!  This is so well written and true down to every period and comma!!! |
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Take your beating Dude. Ever look at a bride smiling at her wedding? I don't care how 'Unattractive" she might be, with that smile she is beautiful. My first wife was breathtakingly beautiful. Platinum blond(natural) green eyes, petite, a real knock out. She was a liar, thief and is now a convicted felon. Ugly can go past the bone right to the heart. But without the benefit of in the skin meeting, yes I pass on mutual matches based on photos too. But I am not really here looking for my next ex either.
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AMEN! My brother
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What would you rather have..inner beauty or outer beauty?? both yeah. its possible. yall should stop looking at this from a "one or the other" kind of mindset. If you find someone attractive in MANY ways rather than one, you will be happier with that person. Looks aren't everything, but they are indeed SOMETHING. Saying that doesn't make me shallow. It makes me well-rounded and with potentially high standards. I say it's OK to have high standards sometimes as long as theyre realistic. |
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I dislike how this sort of discussion always devolves into an either/or proposition. I'm with ChiefPUA. I want my wife to have both inner and outer beauty. She has to have traits that I find emotionally and spiritually fulfilling, but the fact of the matter is, I intend for her to be the only woman with whom I ever have sex. It would be very disappointing if I did not also find her physically attractive.
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"I mean, seriously, ur only 23 and u already have a receding hair line... you have no room to be picky...
oops, was that mean or shallow?" that might be harsh but it was what I was thinking too LOL. There just comes a point where one has to be realistic about their choice of mates. Just as you have your preferences others have theirs. If you look like George Costanza but will only date Angelina Jolie...well you might have a harder time. I guess I'm a little picky too though. But I try to be nice to people I email or who email me. I have a picture of one of my exes and that picture is a terrible picture of her, if I saw it online I might not want to click on her profile, but she looks a lot better in person. I wish I could say the same about me, but I'm just fugly haha. 
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" If you look like George Costanza but will only date Angelina Jolie...well you might have a harder time. Or if you look like Dudley Moore and want to date Susan Anton no wait they were married OK how about if you're Lyle Lovett and you want Julia Roberts no wait they were married too. |
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I haven't read everything but I'll explain my experience...
Probably up until very recently.. I was very shallow. I would go into a party, look around and decide on the hottest guy, I would then proceed to get that guy, and once I had him, he would be the biggest jerk in all the world. I've dated a lot of jerks. I've dated a lot of good looking guys. I then tried to date a guy who wasn't necessarily good looking, but average and to me he was gorgeous and his spirit and good nature was more attractive to me then any of the good looking guys I have ever been with. I do agree there has to be some level of attraction, but it doesn't have to be physical. We're all going to become wrinkly skin peeling old people someday. Then what good will be someone who you have been physically attracted to and yet have nothing in common with, and probably they treat you like crap. But I do get pissy when someone messages me out of physical attraction. There is so much more to people. It took me a while to really understand what I was doing and I think it all is part of maturity. I actually wish this world didn't look at a persons appearance, rather there heart. It would be a better place. |
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I haven't read everything but I'll explain my experience... Probably up until very recently.. I was very shallow. I would go into a party, look around and decide on the hottest guy, I would then proceed to get that guy, and once I had him, he would be the biggest jerk in all the world. I've dated a lot of jerks. I've dated a lot of good looking guys. I then tried to date a guy who wasn't necessarily good looking, but average and to me he was gorgeous and his spirit and good nature was more attractive to me then any of the good looking guys I have ever been with. I do agree there has to be some level of attraction, but it doesn't have to be physical. We're all going to become wrinkly skin peeling old people someday. Then what good will be someone who you have been physically attracted to and yet have nothing in common with, and probably they treat you like crap. But I do get pissy when someone messages me out of physical attraction. There is so much more to people. It took me a while to really understand what I was doing and I think it all is part of maturity. I actually wish this world didn't look at a persons appearance, rather there heart. It would be a better place. The above makes the most sense.
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Edited by
ephraimglass
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Mon 11/26/07 06:42 PM
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I agree and I disagree. Yes, everybody's going to be old and unattractive someday. Therefore, there must be a component of the relationship that has staying power. The relationship does not take place entirely in the distant future when you and your spouse are both 70-something, though. Part of the relationship occurs when you're 25 or 30. During that period of the relationship, the physical component is important too. I think it does a disservice to romantic love to downplay the relevance of a mutually enjoyable sex life.
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I mean, seriously, ur only 23 and u already have a receding hair line... you have no room to be picky... oops, was that mean or shallow? That wasn't shallow...that was actually kind of mean!!! |
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Hmm.. maybe you just want a relationship based on infatuation.. And for some people that's okay.
Some people want a deeper connection and to achieve that I think you really got to go beyond the skin level |
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well seeing as i can get any woman i want. i go for the hotter women cuz i know i can get them. i find it hard for a guy to be on a dating site and be shallow.
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mrosebro doesn't last night mean anything to you?!
  
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wow that player you must be really good
because women love a man who thinks he can get it anytime  
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well seeing as i can get any woman i want. i go for the hotter women cuz i know i can get them. i find it hard for a guy to be on a dating site and be shallow. If you can get any lady you want why don't you have a picture of yourself up. I wonder if you're all talk and no substance. Ladies what do you think of thatplayers statement. |
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