Topic: How do I take that first step?
JustWest's photo
Fri 09/22/17 10:00 PM
I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol

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Fri 09/22/17 10:07 PM
this could be a step but do remember to have fun first and not go straight to the very serious stuff...the more you look for it the more it seems out of reach. good luck meet real people in the forums and those that have been here longer i think are real .

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Fri 09/22/17 10:54 PM


I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol
separated ??? Does that mean you are not divorced yet ??

that one esacped my attention blondeywaving

JustWest's photo
Fri 09/22/17 10:58 PM


I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol
separated ??? Does that mean you are not divorced yet ??



We are not together and filing for divorce. She has moved on to another relationship and I wish her the best. But we are certainly not together just going through the legal parts of the divorce.

Stu's photo
Sat 09/23/17 12:38 AM

this could be a step but do remember to have fun first and not go straight to the very serious stuff...the more you look for it the more it seems out of reach. good luck meet real people in the forums and those that have been here longer i think are real .


Sound advice, take some time for yourself. Not sure how long you've been married, but do not jump at the first opportunity. Nothing wrong with dating. You can go out, have dinner, talk, get to know the person first, be friends for a while. A best friend can be better than the perfect wife sometimes.

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Sat 09/23/17 12:47 AM

I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol
..ummm.. First Step new wardrobe new clone new hairstyle.. second step.. join a local dating site.. third step first girl that pays you attention.. take her out for drinks.. compliment her lots.. take her back to your place.. have crazy monkey sex with her..
With a condom on of course..lol.. 4th step repeat process... until you can no longer.. have meaningless empty sex.. fifth step..
Now you are ready to find your soulmate..
Because in all those other steps you will truly learn a lot about yourself and other people..yup..

Stu's photo
Sat 09/23/17 12:57 AM


I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol
..ummm.. First Step new wardrobe new clone new hairstyle.. second step.. join a local dating site.. third step first girl that pays you attention.. take her out for drinks.. compliment her lots.. take her back to your place.. have crazy monkey sex with her..
With a condom on of course..lol.. 4th step repeat process... until you can no longer.. have meaningless empty sex.. fifth step..
Now you are ready to find your soulmate..
Because in all those other steps you will truly learn a lot about yourself and other people..yup..


After the vibrator post I'm not sure if I can take you seriously anymore. Still laughing from that onerofl

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Sat 09/23/17 02:13 AM
Where can I pick up a new clone? :P

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Sat 09/23/17 02:50 AM

Where can I pick up a new clone? :P

The clone shop is down the street on the left. In between pisces coffee shop and scoobs bar :thumbsup:

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Sat 09/23/17 02:50 AM

this could be a step but do remember to have fun first and not go straight to the very serious stuff...the more you look for it the more it seems out of reach. good luck meet real people in the forums and those that have been here longer i think are real .

Good advice as usual happy

JustWest's photo
Sat 09/23/17 07:02 AM
I appreciate all the grear advice guys! I deff want to have fun and not rush anything for the sake of rushing it. I want to be very careful and make sure it is a healthy relationship, ect. It is just odd to me having been in a serious relationship so long to stepping down a notch and dating people looking for a connection.

Has you guys had good results on mingle?

soufiehere's photo
Sat 09/23/17 07:09 AM

Has you guys had good results on mingle?

Yep.
He is snoring right next to me as we speak.

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Sat 09/23/17 07:18 AM


Has you guys had good results on mingle?

Yep.
He is snoring right next to me as we speak.

That was you who got that one!
Page 8 paragraph 2 of the mingle instruction manual.
Snoring, tilt head back so airways are clear.
If this doesn't work, pop a fly into mouth or apply for refund!
laugh waving

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Sat 09/23/17 10:18 AM



I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol
separated ??? Does that mean you are not divorced yet ??



We are not together and filing for divorce. She has moved on to another relationship and I wish her the best. But we are certainly not together just going through the legal parts of the divorce.

Nice attitude mate, I wish you well.

maybwecan's photo
Sat 09/23/17 01:19 PM



I am seperated from my (ex) wife and am past any kind of mourning stage. I have accepted everything and am more than ready to start fresh.

I am ready to take the first step to start dating again, well not dating I guess. I am not looking to date around but find a relationship. Anyone with experiance know how to make that transition to get back out there? Or am I already in the right place lol
separated ??? Does that mean you are not divorced yet ??



We are not together and filing for divorce. She has moved on to another relationship and I wish her the best. But we are certainly not together just going through the legal parts of the divorce.


i suggest the first step (or final step) should be - get the divorce done and behind you before you dive into the dating pool...And give yourself a cooling off period...that "rebound" thing can be quite real and you could find yourself in an unpleasant relationship...Separated means that you are still married and many women would not touch you with a ten foot pole...just thinking out loud...my nickel

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Mon 09/25/17 07:24 AM
Not yet:grin:

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Mon 09/25/17 03:45 PM
The first step is get a divorce.

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Fri 09/29/17 07:57 AM
See my first priority is how u talk to a woman that is approach helps u to make her mind set comfortable zone...... So be prepared for some proper communication skills.... If it will sounds great then half of the ur work will done........ So way of approaching is should gud then u may proceed further as all other told....