I've been away from the whole dating scene for quite sometime. What should you say when you approach a woman, so that she doesn't think your a fool?

I've been away from the whole dating scene for quite sometime. What should you say when you approach a woman, so that she doesn't think your a fool?

I think one of the most effective openers during Day Game (approaching women during the day that isn't a bar/club/party scene) is asking for her opinion on something because we all know women LOVE to voice their opinions on things that they can relate to...well actually that's pretty much true for all people lol

I posted this in a different thread:


Mystery, one of the most well-renowned pickup artists, developed the M3 model for pickup and seduction. he said Attraction + Comfort = Seduction. The OPENER, which is what you initially say in order to HOOK, is the first stage of Attraction, or A1 for short.

What you say as an opener in A1 doesn't matter as long as you hook her attention and are able to progress forward onto A2, which is developing female-to-male interest.

The standard type of opener that PUAs mostly use is the Indirect Opener. Don't get this confused with the Situational Opener. A Situational Opener is the LEAST effective type of opener and "nice guys" or AFCs (Average Frustrated Chumps) use these most. An example of a situational opener would be "So...you come here often?" or some kind of comment or question on the surrounding environment. These openers dont HOOK and telegraph too much hidden NERVOUS interest. It's also to fall into the trap of "interview mode" after a situational opener, which is when you barrage the girl with question after boring question. bad bad bad...

The Indirect Opener is an opener that does not telegraph too much initial interest. A common way to deliver an idirect opener is to ask the girl's opinion on something, but make sure you have a ROOT so she doesn't think youre some random guy taking a survey/poll. For example, "Hey I was having this discussion with my friends and I need a female opinion on something. blah blah blah." The first sentence was the root.

Now that I'm done explaining all the textbook material, let me tell you something that dawned on me as I was chillin at a bar one night (New Orleans is awesome...I'm only 18 and I can get into bars). Being a PUA (pickup artist) requires a positive energy and involves bringing happiness into other people's lives. I realized that most indrect openers present some sort of PROBLEM in one way or the other and it's almost as if you are seeking some sort of SOLUTION from the target girl. I think this puts forth somewhat of a negative energy which isn't perfectly appropriate for a bar/club/party setting. So, I just turned my head to a girl at the left of me and asked her, "If you could have any superpower, what would it be?" That led to an excellent conversation without any negative energy at all.

If you want to approach women during the day outside of a party scene, however, it's definitely OK to bring forth a topic that requires some intelligent thinking. Play around with this and have fun!