if you only have one chance to impress a girl by taking her out on a date, where would you take her? how would you do it? when would be the right time?

And why do I only have this one chance? Am I dying? Is the world ending? Is she dying? Should I just move along to the next girl? Too many questions.

^^^^ that is so I wonder how you know when it’s the real thing. The thing that could make someone move heaven and earth just to have and not just settle for

It's something that you feel inside. It's something you know. You know it every time you look at them. Even when they are not around. No matter how near or far they are. When you meet that one, you will know it. That's the best I can tell you.

I honestly believe that if you go by anything besides who they are, and what they are, it only serves to put roadblocks in front of you. I believe that many people say they want to love and be loved. But then they will say, he has to be this. Or she has to be that. He has to have a very good job so I can live in the way I want to live. She has to be from a very good family.Blond and blue-eyed. I've heard it all. Many people are a detriment to themselves.

I believe that's why some people never find it. And it never finds them. At least not in their eyes. They've missed it many times and didn't know it. Because that man or woman didn't fit into the box they created.

So Charles you are saying we cannot really choose who to love coz it just happens regardless of our preference of who and how that person is going to be do you love then accept everything about the person or the acceptance come first before you can truly love thanks for your inputs and blessings to you .

My feelings about it, Sometimes we hinder ourselves. We keep ourselves from finding what we want and getting where we want to be. Not everything comes in the box we want it to fit in. We have to keep ourselves open to the possibilities that life sometimes brings. We have to remain open to what comes our way.

When you are truly open, when that right one comes along, you love who you love. You don't pick love. Love picks you. That's the way real love is. But, you can mess it up and keep it from happening by the standards you set. Don't misunderstand me, there is nothing wrong with having some standards.

Let's say, you're not a drinker. You don't want to be with a drunk. You don't want to be with someone violent. Yes, you have to have some standards. But at the same time, you don't want to set your standards so high that a potential mate can't get over them.

You have your basic standards. After that, you accept them right where they are. You can't love everyone. Not everyone is going to touch that part of your heart. But, When you accept someone for who they are and what they are when that right one comes along, you will know it. Because you are open.

I'm not saying just let everyone in. The world we live in today, you can't. You have to be smart about it. Be smart about it. But open too.

My mom married my dad and loved him for 64 years. My dad is deaf and no education. He was raised in a house full of drunks that didn't care whether he came or went. When he was around 13 he would leave the house and stay gone for days. No one came looking. When he met my mom, my mom knew all of this and more about him. She knew what kind of life he had lived.

She fell for him anyway. He didn't have a pot to p.i.s.s in or a window to throw it out of. But it didn't matter. She loved him anyway. Back then it was hard to get a job. Especially for someone deaf and no education. It didn't matter. She loved him anyway. Mom and dad had lots of ups and downs. Some really bad downs. She loved him anyway.

This is how I was raised. I was raised to have some standards. But not lofty standards. Accept people right where they are. Look deeper than there wallet or purse. Can I love this person for who and what they are? It's a lot simpler than a lot of people make it out to be.