Topic: how to go from a DH'r back to Mingle
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Sat 04/28/18 11:08 AM
No need to 'splain. Looks like most of the Dhers are either gone or going. You all can reclaim your sand box. smokin

Fervid_heart's photo
Sat 04/28/18 11:10 AM

granted I have not been back in awhile..

only pop in now and again


always with humor

I sense some hostility around here


carry on
no way, who couldn't love us :wink:

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Sat 04/28/18 11:11 AM
well that sucks
late to the party as usual


back to our regularly scheduled program around here..

cue the crickets..waving

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Sat 04/28/18 11:13 AM
laugh

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Sat 04/28/18 11:17 AM


granted I have not been back in awhile..

only pop in now and again


always with humor

I sense some hostility around here


carry on
no way, who couldn't love us :wink:

hmmm..I dunno
I always found ya'll to be a pretty welcoming group laugh

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Sat 04/28/18 11:20 AM

well that sucks
late to the party as usual


back to our regularly scheduled program around here..

cue the crickets..waving
it dies seem really "slow" i rhink that is why i enjoyed DH so much (i mean other than being able to post my booty pics). For thw first few years it was always a chore trying to keep up ... then it became a chore trying to pass all the troll post ro get ro the good stuff


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Sat 04/28/18 11:23 AM
ya when I left it became more about who has who blocked
and the trolls had taken over the kingdom


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Sat 04/28/18 11:29 AM
hu·mor

1.
the quality of being amusing or comic, especially as expressed in literature or speech.

this one is allowed


in·sult
1.
speak to or treat with disrespect or scornful abuse.

this one is not allowed


sar·casm

the use of irony to mock or convey contempt.

that last one will get me everytime grumble

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Sat 04/28/18 04:40 PM

laugh laugh laugh Tmom





Yes they are hwre. We got it


laugh

Don't be jelli, YR...tongue2

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Sat 04/28/18 04:51 PM
Actually like seeing the forums active....

It is difficult for both sides to adjust~~~

Here it is about more or less keeping the post to how you would talk with a kid in the room...

All due to Sponsor's the reason the Sex Forum was removed...

It takes a bit of adjustment getting use to it..

There are Filters that will catch curse words..

But as long as ya play nice there is no issues..

If so just report it..

As far as those you get in your e-mails report those Mods don't deal with them Admin does.. And believe it or not they really do ban several hundred a day...


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Sat 04/28/18 04:51 PM
Edited by iam_resurrected on Sat 04/28/18 04:54 PM

Yes they are hwre. We got it





yellowrose seems like she has had enough of those DHers already laugh

I can hear her screaming, "they're like damn cockroaches, they're coming out of the woodwork from everywhere" sad

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Sat 04/28/18 05:20 PM
Each forum has it's pluses and minuses.

I've been on a couple that tried to have open rules on forms of expression, shall we say, and some tried to have open rules on subject matter.

The ones I've tried that had no or few rules, always suffered from human behavior that reminds me of a minor incident when I was in grade school.

One day, my fifth grade teacher brought candy in, and put it in a dish on her desk, for us to snack on during quiet reading assignment time. The moment she announced that it was there, a small hoard of about a third of the class, rushed to the desk and started grabbing handfuls. The teacher was dismayed greatly, and naturally opted never again to do such a thing.

The minority of complete Idon'tknowwhattocalltheminaPGenvironment people, made it impossible for us to have free interactions. I've seen the same thing on the less restrained forums. DH, for example, was overrun by white racists, when I first saw it. There were only a dozen or so, but they managed to infest almost every thread in the place. Until I learned that I could selectively block the worst of them, I found it impossible to say much there at all.

Another forum I was in for a while, allowed any profanity at all, and only restricted a few subject areas. At first it was fine, but eventually it devolved to the point where there were perhaps a dozen people who were in a single clique, and they indulged in profane insult fests for anyone who failed to praise their every post. So much for that one.

Now that Match owns POF and DH, they are all dying the exact same way. Too bad.

I very much like that one is not allowed to make ad hominem attacks against other members here. I wish it were not permitted in general, but that's as may be. I don't mind "colorful" forms of expression, per se. And I favor fairly open subject matter, though I have my limits there as well. Just not as tight a limit as some here seem to have.

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Sat 04/28/18 05:25 PM
shhhh ..I am reading the rules


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Sat 04/28/18 05:34 PM
WE luv it here on Christian Mingle...bigsmile

oh I better pipe down..The reading of the scripture rules^..

bigsmile

Oh god..laugh

iam_resurrected's photo
Sat 04/28/18 05:36 PM
thou shalt not oppose nor make fun of the mods.

you should know that commandment already, West laugh

TMommy's photo
Sat 04/28/18 05:37 PM
only natural at first
you will want to cling onto
anyone that looks familiar to you
but after the life jackets come off
you get a bit of hot soup
maybe sit by the fire and warm yourself


then lift your head up and look around
and MINGLEbigsmile


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Sat 04/28/18 06:03 PM


Enjoy! bigsmile

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Sat 04/28/18 06:12 PM
Edited by Fervid_heart on Sat 04/28/18 06:13 PM
does rule number one apply to everyone or just the invaders?

Asking for a friend :sunglasses:

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Sat 04/28/18 11:38 PM
You get use to posting with all the familiar faces .. it is hard to go cold turkey ....laughing with everyone for so long makes it hard to not do it anymore .
just have to tell yourself life goes on and moves on .... just find other ways to mix with people ... DH did become apart of our lives it's strange but true. :blush:

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Sun 04/29/18 02:26 AM
The rules used to annoy me too, then I got to appreciate them for the simple reason it makes people far more resourceful if they want to say something. And isn't being resourceful to get the message across much like flirting in real life? Almost a forgotten art as in society it's gotten so normal to be blunt.
BUt suggestion and innuendo hold far more appeal than the blunt, direct approach, whether online or in real life.
You can see that mirrored on a site like this too: the ones who are so blunt usually get a ton of interest for a very short while, then it dies down. It gets boring real fast. If you want to hold someone's attention you need a bit more substance than sexual bluntness.

What I do not like about the rules is that they don't allow certain art, because it means I cannot share some my latest range of paintings. Or Tarot cards.
In a way I get it, as I suppose there's also art that IS porn, but still.

Mingle is pretty cool :) To be honest, the one reason I'm still here is because there is little sexual bluntness. Isn't that amazing for a Dutch girl to say tongue2 :angel:
But I'm not always in the mood for that, and if I am, there's other places to go.