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Topic: Maintenance Agreement
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Thu 05/24/18 01:48 PM
slaphead How do I get myself into these things? (How do I keep this brief?)

A platonic friend posted something about going "all natural" (no not nekked, it's about female grooming). I replied, "I know it is not easy and sucks, but I will do 100 situps a night if you will deal that s#!t!"

The Beeeach called me out!oops

Now this is honor system between friends. They don't have to be 100 in a row but between 4P..12(effin)A...I have to do 100. (She was never going to stop grooming anyway.....BEEEEEACH!)

Would this (with some forgiveness) ever work in a romantic relationship?

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Thu 05/24/18 01:54 PM
I don't understand your question. Could you get your partner to improve their appearance with a deal like that? Try it and see.

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Thu 05/24/18 01:58 PM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Thu 05/24/18 01:58 PM
I know of a few marriages that are nothing more than a sexual maintenance agreement.

I think personal hygiene and fitness is just something any person does and isn't usually subject to an agreement with anyone else?
Maybe I'm wrong but that just...weird?

That's like saying
"I'll brush my teeth everyday as long as you use underarm deodorant"

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 05/24/18 01:58 PM

I don't understand your question. Could you get your partner to improve their appearance with a deal like that? Try it and see.


I'm just exploring the slippery slope of this kind of agreement and asking about it HERE first.
laugh No, YOU try it.flowerforyou

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Thu 05/24/18 01:59 PM
aah

no

more like Hell no.

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Thu 05/24/18 02:01 PM
Edited by lu_rosemary on Thu 05/24/18 02:03 PM
Always a thinker. Such a blessing.

It’s a no no.

Solitude is the best.

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Thu 05/24/18 02:09 PM

I know of a few marriages that are nothing more than a sexual maintenance agreement.

I think personal hygiene and fitness is just something any person does and isn't usually subject to an agreement with anyone else?
Maybe I'm wrong but that just...weird?

That's like saying
"I'll brush my teeth everyday as long as you use underarm deodorant"


All valid Tom. We take care of ourselves as self respecting individuals.
....but I haven't been doing 100 situps a day in quite some time.

I'm (vaguely) aware of the challenges you have. How far would you go out of your comfort zone for a friendly OR romantic pact?

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Thu 05/24/18 02:12 PM


I don't understand your question. Could you get your partner to improve their appearance with a deal like that? Try it and see.


I'm just exploring the slippery slope of this kind of agreement and asking about it HERE first.
laugh No, YOU try it.flowerforyou



In the past my partner just did maintaince on their own. I tried to get a platonic friend to diet and exercise with me without any luck. I think it's a good idea though.

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Thu 05/24/18 02:14 PM
I'd not get involved, well, unless the maintenance on the windows and roof is included laugh

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Thu 05/24/18 02:20 PM
Edited by Beachfarmer on Thu 05/24/18 02:22 PM
I guess it's the same ole generic answer.

If 2 people are into it and agree, go for it.

...It depends on the situation,,,yada, yada, yawn



EDIT: Except for Mikey's angle LMAO!

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Thu 05/24/18 02:23 PM


I know of a few marriages that are nothing more than a sexual maintenance agreement.

I think personal hygiene and fitness is just something any person does and isn't usually subject to an agreement with anyone else?
Maybe I'm wrong but that just...weird?

That's like saying
"I'll brush my teeth everyday as long as you use underarm deodorant"


All valid Tom. We take care of ourselves as self respecting individuals.
....but I haven't been doing 100 situps a day in quite some time.

I'm (vaguely) aware of the challenges you have. How far would you go out of your comfort zone for a friendly OR romantic pact?

I have.
Excessive heat makes me sicker.
I braved the heat and humidity of the day to spend time with her. Feeling literally awful but not complaining about it because I wanted to be with her.
In my younger, healthier days I have participated in competitive sexercise. I would again if it was a slow buildup in the competition.
My body isn't what it once was. Hers probably won't be either.

A challenge of wit and intelligence is my best hope. Nothing wrong in my brain yet. I am still good at grace and balance too so that might prove to be a fun competition.

My doctor told me not to do any sit ups or anything that could stress my abdomen excessively.

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 05/24/18 02:26 PM

Always a thinker. Such a blessing.

It’s a no no.

Solitude is the best.


Yours is not to seek for love but rather to find and destroy the barriers you have built against it. Rumi

(I told you that you would see this quote again)flowerforyou

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Thu 05/24/18 02:26 PM

I guess it's the same ole generic answer.

If 2 people are into it and agree, go for it.

...It depends on the situation,,,yada, yada, yawn



EDIT: Except for Mikey's angle LMAO!

Lol
Do you mean like the movie 'friends with benefits '?
Or is it written in a kinda contract?

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Thu 05/24/18 02:31 PM
i'd offer to eat all the sweets in the house so she wouldn't be tempted to fall off her diet plans

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Thu 05/24/18 02:41 PM

i'd offer to eat all the sweets in the house so she wouldn't be tempted to fall off her diet plans


smitten A hero to a woman who loves to bake bigsmile

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Thu 05/24/18 02:42 PM


Always a thinker. Such a blessing.

It’s a no no.

Solitude is the best.


Yours is not to seek for love but rather to find and destroy the barriers you have built against it. Rumi

(I told you that you would see this quote again)flowerforyou


Ill OPEN up someday.

I died to the mineral state and became a plant,
I died to the vegetal state and reached animality,
I died to the animal state and became a man,
Then what should I fear? I have never become less from dying.
At the next charge (forward) I will die to human nature,
So that I may lift up (my) head and wings (and soar) among the angels,
And I must (also) jump from the river of (the state of) the angel,
Everything perishes except His Face,
Once again I will become sacrificed from (the state of) the angel,
I will become that which cannot come into the imagination,
Then I will become non-existent; non-existence says to me (in tones) like an organ,
Truly, to Him is our return.

Do you read him? He is very Smart. I bought His book.(just one).
flowerforyou

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Thu 05/24/18 02:44 PM


i'd offer to eat all the sweets in the house so she wouldn't be tempted to fall off her diet plans


smitten A hero to a woman who loves to bake bigsmile

will she promise to keep his cup full while he suffers thru all this eating

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Thu 05/24/18 02:46 PM



i'd offer to eat all the sweets in the house so she wouldn't be tempted to fall off her diet plans


smitten A hero to a woman who loves to bake bigsmile

will she promise to keep his cup full while he suffers thru all this eating


Of course! Will he promise to get plenty of exercise so a wheel barrel won't be necessary

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Thu 05/24/18 02:48 PM
he already gets plenty of exercise pushing his luckslaphead

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Thu 05/24/18 02:49 PM
laugh


Beach, I think somewhere in the agreement there has to be an agreement to not keep adding more to the original agreement, lol.

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