Topic: dating advice from the opposite gender
QuintupleB's photo
Mon 09/17/18 03:51 PM
does dating advice mean much when coming from the opposite gender? does it mean more from the same gender? should it all be taken with a grain of salt?

My view is that both can be off the mark or on it. Some advice can be tainted with emotions that are destructive (and bad advice) or genuinely based on experiences in a good way... Some advice can be just plain manipulative. What's been your take and experience?

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 09/17/18 03:55 PM
I consider it all a learning experience about people's expectations and desires. Gives ya some understanding in the social complexities that are present beyond a marriage or relationship.

When married or in an intimate relationship with someone for a long period we tend to get lopsided in our views of others.
The interactions on dating sites helps put things back in balance a bit.
Even from things that are not directly said.

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 09/17/18 04:00 PM
As a woman, I usually ask a male friend concerning questions on dating.
I have had some Very intelligent male friends.

Women get too emotional about men, and usually. Have the man all wrong. When trying to figure him out.


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I_love_bluegrass's photo
Mon 09/17/18 04:28 PM

does dating advice mean much when coming from the opposite gender? does it mean more from the same gender? should it all be taken with a grain of salt?

My view is that both can be off the mark or on it. Some advice can be tainted with emotions that are destructive (and bad advice) or genuinely based on experiences in a good way... Some advice can be just plain manipulative. What's been your take and experience?


YES to all this..

Seems like some want to sabotage a person's luck by giving them bad advice/ erroneous advice....almost like they get a kick out of watching someone fail...
Or, they may be one of those that hate men (or hate women), and therefore their "advice" is tainted.


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Mon 09/17/18 05:33 PM
A few guys have written to me asking my opinion on How Mingle is. I don't know why they ask me, but I'll tell my experiences.

QuintupleB's photo
Mon 09/17/18 07:21 PM
A few guys have written to me asking my opinion on How Mingle is. I don't know why they ask me, but I'll tell my experiences.


Could be a few thing, might not be any of them too. Curiosity about the site, trying to get an insight on who you are... hard to say.

The reason I brought this up it all the Youtubers out there. Some who've "gone their own way," "Red pill" men... women coaches, those women who've commented on vidoes (usually then used to say that they've proven the point.)... I kind of feel the truth lies more in the middle of some of their various views. So, I thought I'd seek opinions outside of mobs on YouTube too.

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Mon 09/17/18 07:25 PM
I don't think there is anything wrong with getting views from the opposite sex on dating.

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Mon 09/17/18 08:01 PM
I don't ask men much of anything.

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Mon 09/17/18 09:06 PM
Getting advice from some my male friends did save me a few potential heartbreaks and from a few scammers/frauds here. Maybe they have more insights in some matters.

Duttoneer's photo
Tue 09/18/18 12:24 AM

A woman may give you advice, but will it be good advice , because she could have a sneaky agenda on you where matters of the heart are concerned. A guy's advice could be more genuine unless he likes her, then his advice could be to his advantage and not yours. Maybe best not to ask for advice from anyone and just follow your heart when dating.

msharmony's photo
Tue 09/18/18 01:19 AM

does dating advice mean much when coming from the opposite gender? does it mean more from the same gender? should it all be taken with a grain of salt?

My view is that both can be off the mark or on it. Some advice can be tainted with emotions that are destructive (and bad advice) or genuinely based on experiences in a good way... Some advice can be just plain manipulative. What's been your take and experience?


advice is useful from those who have achieved what you want to achieve, and not as useful from those who have not or do not wish to.

In dating advice, if it is from the type of person one would wish to attract or from someone in the type of relationship one would like to have OR if its advice of maybe what NOT to do from someone who has lost the type of relationship one would like to have, it can be very useful I think.

for instance, if one is not interested in a snob or a money obsessed partner, advice from such a person about dating is probably not useful.

or if one is interested in someone to enjoy outdoorsy stuff with, advice from a homebody about dating probably is not useful.

etc ... etc ....


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Tue 09/18/18 04:19 PM
does dating advice mean much

No.

when coming from the opposite gender?

Gender doesn't really matter.
Dating advice is mostly just like Dumbo's feather.

does it mean more from the same gender?

Maybe. What kind of relationship do you have with the person giving the advice?

should it all be taken with a grain of salt

I'd give it a more healthy shake.

What's been your take and experience?

If they're charging for it, you're getting ripped off.
If they're giving it to you for free, you're getting what you pay for.


Poetrywriter's photo
Tue 09/18/18 06:15 PM

As a woman, I usually ask a male friend concerning questions on dating.
I have had some Very intelligent male friends.

Women get too emotional about men, and usually. Have the man all wrong. When trying to figure him out.


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Bluecollar69's photo
Tue 09/18/18 06:35 PM
I've been attached majority of my adult life,even at the end of a relationship a female would grab me up never really been single,i guess because it's not me.this las one damaged me - how do i keep from inadvertently sabotaging "if lucky enough "a chance to be with the one for me and I her,because of my animosity i cary?I would like know on a womens perspective please

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Tue 09/18/18 06:41 PM
Edited by GalaxyStarz on Tue 09/18/18 06:42 PM

I've been attached majority of my adult life,even at the end of a relationship a female would grab me up never really been single,i guess because it's not me.this las one damaged me - how do i keep from inadvertently sabotaging "if lucky enough "a chance to be with the one for me and I her,because of my animosity i cary?I would like know on a womens perspective please



Let go of the animosity. Forgive it. Forgive yourself. Look forward, not back.

Don't be attached until you know who YOU really are.


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Tue 09/18/18 07:32 PM
I wish I could-

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Tue 09/18/18 08:24 PM
You can choose to.