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Topic: lets talk real about dating
I_love_bluegrass's photo
Thu 02/21/19 08:52 PM

Do you have any scientific evidence that there is something wrong with dating today ??? Or is this just your subjective perception ?

Modern society is always evolving and this includes social relationships ., women now have more freedom and controls when it comes to dating and what they want .,

If you are finding women are just players . Then perhaps you are moving in the wrong circles and need to expand your social contacts . Dating sites only provide a snap shot of the global dating community . .. some view playing men as normal dating behaviour ., others view it as inappropriate . Your job is to align yourself with women who share your ideals . Best of luck waving


It's like those guys that say all the women they meet have a drug or alcohol issue..
Dude, I don't know what circles *you* hang/ move in, but..I don't know anyone in my age bracket with either an alcohol *or* drug dependancy/ addiction issue...

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 02/21/19 09:25 PM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Thu 02/21/19 09:28 PM
Its like the assumption that all women are liars (or men for that matter).
Just because I hadn't met any women that didn't turn out to be liars doesn't mean all women are liars.
I just hadn't met the "Right Woman".
It doesn't matter what stereotype you class others as much as accepting someone as they truly are.
In other words, until you meet and actually learn that person, any assumptions you might have about them is purely insignificant and it only hurts you in the long run.

If you assume, it makes an a*ss of u and me.

The best thing to do is to use your wisdom but also give a person the chance to be themselves. Yes, you might be right but what if you're wrong?
The surprise will override the expectation, hopefully.

Rock's photo
Thu 02/21/19 09:42 PM
Edited by Rock on Thu 02/21/19 09:43 PM

would love to get all your ladies point of views on what do you see or feel is wrong with today's dating.My 2 cents and just my experience seems lot of people just looking for hookups nothing more.Seems lot of people dont even know what they want i need consistancy i need banter


Always get the report from her psych. history, up front.

:thumbsup:

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 02/21/19 10:21 PM
She came over today.
She arrive looking disheveled and complaining of a stress headache.
I gave her two ibuprofen and told her to lie down on the sofa on her tummy.
After a few minutes, I sat at her feet and started rubbing them.
After a few minutes I suggested she get on her knees and allow her head to sink into the sofa pillows.
Then I suggested that she move her behind in a slow circular motion while I rubbed her feet.
After a few minutes I started giggling. Couldn't help myself.
She was laying on my sofa, behind in the air moving it round and round as she had her head buried in the pillows.
She heard me giggling and looked back at me and realized why I was giggling.
The point is, her headache from her stress was gone. She too started giggling.
Once she realized what I was doing.

You can be a jackass to someone or you can make them feel special and wanted, there is nothing wrong with making someone feel wanted.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 02/21/19 10:30 PM
Later on we decided to go get a sub.
We went to Subway (no big deal).
On the way and while there and all the way home again, everytime she uttered the word "I" i responed with "Oggy"
So she said I and I said Oggy.
By the time we got home she was laughing so hard she was crying, real tears in her eyes. All because I was paying attention to her and pushing nonsense.
Towards the end of the trip tho, she was saying "I" more than she needed but I kept it up anyway, for her. She knew I was doing it for her benefit but as long as she kept saying "I", I kept saying "Oggy".

If you need established protocols to have a relationship, yer not having a relationship. Yer having a scripted encounter.

Tempestt's photo
Fri 02/22/19 11:55 AM
I have a question...I am pretty new to internet dating...Is it ethical to date more than one person at a time? If so...Do you tell the men you are dating that you are dating other men?? I'm confused...

Toodygirl5's photo
Fri 02/22/19 01:07 PM
Sex is a part of intimacy but intimacy is far more than sex.

Most mature men know that ! Online is difficult to find. That.

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