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people make no sence lack of honesty and common courtesy
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would love to get all your ladies point of views on what do you see or feel is wrong with today's dating.My 2 cents and just my experience seems lot of people just looking for hookups nothing more.Seems lot of people dont even know what they want i need consistancy i need banter Try Off line dating, in person seems to work much better ! IMO |
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well most guys are scared of commitment they just don't wanna commit
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yes your def right about that my area seems like the woman are worst then the guys but cant lose faith I think that dating has lost itz spark due to casual hooking up |
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Dating has been something of a real mystery especially at this age... perhaps it's just that our standards are a lot higher when we get older.. or we get set in our ways.. and are unwilling to compromise...
. all I know!.. is it gets harder and harder to find the right match.. or at least what I think is a good match.. I never seem to be content with what is right in front of me... Or I end up trying to convince myself that what's in front of me...is good enough... even though there is some part of the other person that I'm not quite content with... which seems to always keep me from committing fully.. either that or I'm just not dating the right person.. or is there some deep psychological thing Within Me.. that keeps me from committing... or do I just want what I want but don't seem to be able to find it...don't know! |
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Well, it's hard to say in regards to this site. Most of the guys will not write a profile about themselves... they say... tell you later. And they wear sunglasses, 2 out of hundreds have a smile on their face. A few admit they are married or living with another woman. But the vast majority have not been here in months or years.
I did have a date with a perfectionist. Nothing special and it was Valentines day, which was a disappointment. There were things said that let me warned me he was type A. I'm actually glad there was not a second request  . And I had another a while ago from a guy who just got released from the psychiatric hospital.. that was interesting! I came home with a pretty red straw to remember the event at Wendy's  Sorry, what was the question  I'm looking for a long term relationship.. searching for someone who looks like Santa, teddy bear type.. perhaps an interesting guy will come along, even if he doesn't look the part |
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Edited by
T.Roy
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Wed 02/20/19 06:15 PM
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well most guys are scared of commitment they just don't wanna commit That's only partially true. If I spoke the truth, women would not like it...but here it goes, darling. 37 years of marriage to two women who walked on me once I committed to them for life. All I wanted was some affection. Now it's a catch-22. I'd love a long term relationship.....but..... I've raised two families so it's not about starting a family again. I've got friends so it's not totally about finding companionship either. It's more about an energetic partner which includes GREAT sex (or willingness thereof) than anything else, to be blunt. I don't want to ever feel like I'm forcing myself on a post-menopause lady who doesn't want a lot of that....and how am I going to find out? Talk? Oh, that's cheap and unreliable. Got that already. Everyone has a different frame of reference and you can ONLY find out what a person's definition of great sex is over time. It seems I will have to go against my own personal values to find out if I want to be committed. I don't like what dating has become, but women are now able to reject or flirt with a hundred men per hour with cell phones and dating apps. I've become merchandise they choose from a shelf based on the packaging, and they have hundreds of men vying for their attention. In the last year of trying to date again, I have found that the majority of women I am attracted to (and would therefore want to date) are not committed to anyone or anything but themselves. Period. So stop with the "men aren't committed" baloney already. Why should we be? |
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Edited by
No1phD
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Wed 02/20/19 06:08 PM
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well most guys are scared of commitment they just don't wanna commit That's only partially true. If I spoke the truth, women would not like it...but here it goes, darling. Don't hate me for being brutally honest and I will tell you what men are thinking. ESPECIALLY the ones who will now respond to show you they are "nice" guys who disagree with me. It's a bunch of hooey of course...we all want the same thing. Here goes... It's a catch 22. I'd love a long term relationship.....but......my libido isn't dead. I've raised two families so it's not about starting a family again. I've got friends so it's not totally about finding companionship either. It's more about an energetic partner which includes GREAT sex (or willingness thereof) than anything else, to be bluntly honest. I don't want to ever feel like I'm forcing myself on a post-menopause lady who doesn't want a lot of that....and how am I going to find out? Talk? Oh, that's cheap and unreliable. Got that already. Everyone has a different frame of reference and you can ONLY find out what a person's definition of great sex is over time. It seems I will have to go against my own personal values to find out if I want to be committed. I don't like what dating has become, but women are now able to reject or flirt with a hundred men per hour with cell phones and dating apps. I've become merchandise they choose from a shelf based on the packaging, and they have hundreds of men vying for their attention. In the last year of trying to date again, I have found that the majority of women I am attracted to (and would therefore want to date) are not committed to anyone or anything but themselves. Period. So stop with the "men aren't committed" baloney already. Why should we be? Well.. I don't know how much of a nice guy I am but I think I am a nice guy LOL.. But I don't think it's completely about sex I mean sex is great and lots of it even better LOL.. but even that can get boring after a little while there needs to be substance.. intelligent banter.. humor.. and yes a sense of companionship.. if not then a person might as well just go hire a hooker every now and then... if that's all there looking for is sex... and I am in no way bashing what you're saying I just think you need more than sex at least I do |
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well most guys are scared of commitment they just don't wanna commit That's only partially true. If I spoke the truth, women would not like it...but here it goes, darling. Don't hate me for being brutally honest and I will tell you what men are thinking. ESPECIALLY the ones who will now respond to show you they are "nice" guys who disagree with me. It's a bunch of hooey of course...we all want the same thing. Here goes... It's a catch 22. I'd love a long term relationship.....but......my libido isn't dead. I've raised two families so it's not about starting a family again. I've got friends so it's not totally about finding companionship either. It's more about an energetic partner which includes GREAT sex (or willingness thereof) than anything else, to be bluntly honest. I don't want to ever feel like I'm forcing myself on a post-menopause lady who doesn't want a lot of that....and how am I going to find out? Talk? Oh, that's cheap and unreliable. Got that already. Everyone has a different frame of reference and you can ONLY find out what a person's definition of great sex is over time. It seems I will have to go against my own personal values to find out if I want to be committed. I don't like what dating has become, but women are now able to reject or flirt with a hundred men per hour with cell phones and dating apps. I've become merchandise they choose from a shelf based on the packaging, and they have hundreds of men vying for their attention. In the last year of trying to date again, I have found that the majority of women I am attracted to (and would therefore want to date) are not committed to anyone or anything but themselves. Period. So stop with the "men aren't committed" baloney already. Why should we be? Well.. I don't know how much of a nice guy I am but I think I am a nice guy LOL.. But I don't think it's completely about sex I mean sex is great and lots of it even better LOL.. but even that can get boring after a little while there needs to be substance.. intelligent banter.. humor.. and yes a sense of companionship.. if not then a person might as well just go hire a hooker every now and then... if that's all there looking for is sex... and I am in no way bashing what you're saying I just think you need more than sex at least I do I’m not touching the above guys comment  but you have some substance that’s been in your inbox for a few days now...tick tok
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if not then a person might as well just go hire a hooker every now and then... if that's all there looking for is sex... and I am in no way bashing what you're saying I just think you need more than sex at least I do I'm almost at that point, bro!? I didn't say that was "all" I want but it's is the main thing now. Women just seem to forget after a while that men NEED affection from them. . |
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if not then a person might as well just go hire a hooker every now and then... if that's all there looking for is sex... and I am in no way bashing what you're saying I just think you need more than sex at least I do I'm almost at that point, bro!? I didn't say that was "all" I want but it's is the main thing now. Women just seem to forget after a while that men NEED affection from them. . Yes.. well in the era of online dating sites it's easy to be seen as a piece of meat are disposable... it's really a sad State of Affairs we find ourselves in.... men and women.. Back in the day you would meet them somewhere size them up get to know them a little bit establish a repore with them.. get to know them over a drink... get a real sense of who they are... online that is really hard to do... |
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Online dating gives you a lot of "product" to look at! Unfortunately, it is like seeing all that "product" in a brown paper package. You have no idea what is in the package until you start to unwrap it!!
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Online dating gives you a lot of "product" to look at! Unfortunately, it is like seeing all that "product" in a brown paper package. You have no idea what is in the package until you start to unwrap it!! |
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When I was dating my first husband, we knew each other in high school...life was fun, and we both had jobs when we married, and sex was a big part of it.
With second husband we spent 6 months just talking and holding hands, the first kiss made me tremble all over and I still have that feeling when I think of him. We were together 24/7 for weeks at a time, until i started working at the prison. I was so happy to get home and hold him. Now, it seems like the older the men are the more icky they get. I have a friend who works at a senior home and she freely uses the term "dirty old man" for many of the residents. It seems that thoughts of grabbing, mauling and hoping for real sex is all that is on their minds. I find some of those same thoughts from people in the forum community. I for one wish I could find a man who didn't smoke or swear, that I could have an INTELLIGENT conversation with, and who was willing to make some commitment with honesty, sex and affection, and enjoy the future. But the odds on that happening get smaller every day. |
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When I was dating my first husband, we knew each other in high school...life was fun, and we both had jobs when we married, and sex was a big part of it. With second husband we spent 6 months just talking and holding hands, the first kiss made me tremble all over and I still have that feeling when I think of him. We were together 24/7 for weeks at a time, until i started working at the prison. I was so happy to get home and hold him. Now, it seems like the older the men are the more icky they get. I have a friend who works at a senior home and she freely uses the term "dirty old man" for many of the residents. It seems that thoughts of grabbing, mauling and hoping for real sex is all that is on their minds. I find some of those same thoughts from people in the forum community. I for one wish I could find a man who didn't smoke or swear, that I could have an INTELLIGENT conversation with, and who was willing to make some commitment with honesty, sex and affection, and enjoy the future. But the odds on that happening get smaller every day. |
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Do you have any scientific evidence that there is something wrong with dating today ??? Or is this just your subjective perception ?
Modern society is always evolving and this includes social relationships ., women now have more freedom and controls when it comes to dating and what they want ., If you are finding women are just players . Then perhaps you are moving in the wrong circles and need to expand your social contacts . Dating sites only provide a snap shot of the global dating community . .. some view playing men as normal dating behaviour ., others view it as inappropriate . Your job is to align yourself with women who share your ideals . Best of luck 
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It seems that thoughts of hoping for real sex is all that is on their minds. I find some of those same thoughts from people in the forum community. Wait....there's something else? |
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I think the responses on this thread are from a wide range of ages and locations.
You look pretty young. Your generation has a different take on dating than mine. My kids are about your age. My boys have told me that when they were dating its seemed every girl just wanted something. I laughed. They certainly do. Their generation has a different take on sex and traditions. There is a lot of false posturing done but ultimately the majority of the kids want many of things spoken of in this thread's replies. I always told my boys to respect her as a person and understand that you will never own them. |
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very well said
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if not then a person might as well just go hire a hooker every now and then... if that's all there looking for is sex... and I am in no way bashing what you're saying I just think you need more than sex at least I do I'm almost at that point, bro!? I didn't say that was "all" I want but it's is the main thing now. Women just seem to forget after a while that men NEED affection from them. Affection ansd sex are not the same thing.... One can be quite affectionate, and uninterested in sex....and one can be quite sexual, and not affectionate at all... |
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