Topic: Play a little game? Want some opinions. "Wrong or not"
Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 05:32 PM
Ok so say you meet a girl. Your not officially together. But spending lots of nights together and yes your ****ing. Meanwhile she is on this site for the first 3-4 weeks having some pretty intense text sex with lots of pic swapping . And keeps popping on randomly to msg some people. And then yesterday msgs some guys trying to hook up, and that night sleeps at a guys house whome is just a friend apparently ... I found this all out this morning. So what do you think?

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Wed 05/15/19 05:35 PM
Edited by I_love_bluegrass on Wed 05/15/19 05:35 PM
That should should "cover your rig" when doing this girl...lord knows who ELSE she's doing that you don't know about.

Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 05:41 PM
Wish I know in December

FredoniaDaydreamer's photo
Wed 05/15/19 05:46 PM
Edited by FredoniaDaydreamer on Wed 05/15/19 05:47 PM
There are plenty of guys on here doing the exact same thing. To each their own. You have to figure out if you are just after sex or a relationship.

I think you already know the answer - just by posting the question on here.

Good luck in your search! waving

Patrick522's photo
Wed 05/15/19 05:48 PM
whats the game, again?

Poetrywriter's photo
Wed 05/15/19 06:18 PM
It's apparent this girl is having good times with other guys so the question is do you want to continue the way it is or do you want to find someone that is more serious about a relationship?

Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:06 PM
Lmao off not. That's dishonest, disloyal and shows no respect

Poetrywriter's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:08 PM

Lmao off not. That's dishonest, disloyal and shows no respect



Who are you replying to?

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:18 PM

Ok so say you meet a girl. Your not officially together. But spending lots of nights together and yes your ****ing. Meanwhile she is on this site for the first 3-4 weeks having some pretty intense text sex with lots of pic swapping . And keeps popping on randomly to msg some people. And then yesterday msgs some guys trying to hook up, and that night sleeps at a guys house whome is just a friend apparently ... I found this all out this morning. So what do you think?


I think I'll have another drink.



So, just what is the problem?

Rock's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:33 PM
With the layout of the original post,
it appears to be a casual sex thing.
Not a committed relationship.

The woman is somehow "evil",
because she moved on, before dood was ready? laugh
Really? laugh


You got dumped. Move on.

motowndowntown's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:42 PM
Is there any cheese to go with that whine?

Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:48 PM
we been together a couple months now

Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:48 PM
well not anymore :joy:

Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 07:52 PM
anyway I don't think of you got what the question was, and not really into breaking down the simplest taste of answering wrong/not wrong thanks for your time :joy:

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 05/15/19 08:08 PM
Apparently the woman doesn't think it is wrong for her.

Htjohn89's photo
Wed 05/15/19 08:19 PM

Apparently the woman doesn't think it is wrong for her.
Yea I figured that much out :laughing: oh well I moved out and she's asking me to come back. So pretty much I asked how exactly she that she would be trusted again (smh)

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 05/17/19 10:03 AM
What so difficult? You had a sex thing going on, she was also spending time with others, likely sexercising them too. So?? What's the question?
You knew it wasn't official, doesn't sound you have feelings for this woman other than sexual. If you'd be in love you wouldn't say ****ing.
Matter of a bruised ego. Is it wrong? No. Why should it be. You had nothing together other than casual sex, NSA.
Get over it.

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Fri 05/17/19 11:51 AM


Apparently the woman doesn't think it is wrong for her.
Yea I figured that much out :laughing: oh well I moved out and she's asking me to come back. So pretty much I asked how exactly she that she would be trusted again (smh)



According to what you've posted here about this, it doesn't appear that TRUST is the right or accurate word to use.

In your setup post, you say "Your not officially together." As in, you describe a situation where, without any discussion about commitment or of what kind of relationship you are in, you started regularly having sex with the woman.

Apparently from this "I moved out", you actually MOVED INTO HER PLACE at some point. Again, still without agreeing even on any vague guidelines. At least, so far as you've told us, you never even once brought up the idea of monogamy.

Logically, therefore, this doesn't have anything at all to do with TRUST, it has to do only with what YOU chanced to ASSUME, and what she did not.

The logical question is, do you think she WILL live up to a vow of monogamy, if you elicit one from her, and before that, are you capable of setting aside your emotional upset at realizing that you were just one of many guys she was "enjoying?"

If either of those answers is "no," then obviously the discussion is over.

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Fri 05/17/19 12:39 PM
Word of advice to OP Htjohn89..

Do NOT move in with ANYONE untill you know for sure and certain they can be trusted *and* that both of you are on the same page WRT what you expect out of the relationship.

I mean, the fact she was seeing other guys...d**m dude...at least that's *all* she did..she could have robbed your a** blind...noway