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Topic: Respectful, politeness to ladies or call it whatever term
mikaxel80's photo
Mon 09/16/19 07:41 AM
Just a couple of minutes ago, I was outside walking on an upward road. Three people were coming-two guys and a lady- in opposite direction.At the same time i saw a car pass them. (By the way the lady is not in the middle or to the safe side of the road, if you know what i mean)
When they reached to where i was, i told the lady to be on the safe side and the guys to change places with her. Then some men who were standing nearby yelled at me and said why favor the female genre? And they also said that we males are people. I ignored them and left. and the lady started walking on the safe side.

What do y'all think if you were in this situation?

You know for me ladies are precious. Its not being against males. Its just that ladies offer more and we should protect them

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Mon 09/16/19 07:47 AM
I know what you're saying and I'd be the same. But in these times of everyone is equal then in theory it shouldn't make any difference.
In fact many women would be offended by the thought of it!

mikaxel80's photo
Mon 09/16/19 07:50 AM

I know what you're saying and I'd be the same. But in these times of everyone is equal then in theory it shouldn't make any difference.
In fact many women would be offended by the thought of it!

Ya, I got you they might be offended and I dont blame them.

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Mon 09/16/19 07:58 AM


I know what you're saying and I'd be the same. But in these times of everyone is equal then in theory it shouldn't make any difference.
In fact many women would be offended by the thought of it!

Ya, I got you they might be offended and I dont blame them.


You don't know how they'll react until the event.
You get the hardcore that everything you do will be challenged as sexist then some who still like the chivalry.
Trouble is everything is based around sexism, where really it's just basic politeness which should be happening whatever sex someone is but I'm afraid that no longer exists along with respect!

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Mon 09/16/19 08:06 AM
People nowadays dont care about others. Just themselves. Whether its a woman, man, or children. We as a society have thrown kindness away. Its sad. But my words dont matter do they.

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Mon 09/16/19 08:16 AM

People nowadays dont care about others. Just themselves. Whether its a woman, man, or children. We as a society have thrown kindness away. Its sad. But my words dont matter do they.

:thumbsup:
You're words matter as much as mine and anyone else.
They will be challenged soon though I'm certain happy

delightfulillusion's photo
Mon 09/16/19 08:29 AM
I don't think it's sexist, I'd call it manners. Maybe because I'm old school but it could just be a generational thing too. It would rather depend on how one was raised also.

Unknown 's photo
Mon 09/16/19 09:39 AM

Just a couple of minutes ago, I was outside walking on an upward road. Three people were coming-two guys and a lady- in opposite direction.At the same time i saw a car pass them. (By the way the lady is not in the middle or to the safe side of the road, if you know what i mean)
When they reached to where i was, i told the lady to be on the safe side and the guys to change places with her. Then some men who were standing nearby yelled at me and said why favor the female genre? And they also said that we males are people. I ignored them and left. and the lady started walking on the safe side.

What do y'all think if you were in this situation?

You know for me ladies are precious. Its not being against males. Its just that ladies offer more and we should protect them


"And they also said that we males are people.." And they are 100% right.
They also should've told you to mind your own damn business but I guess they were kinder than I. You were just lucky I wasn't part of that group.

jaish's photo
Mon 09/16/19 09:51 AM

But the lady and the 2 guys did change places didn't they?:thumbsup:

When England is with you, why should you care.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 09/16/19 02:31 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Mon 09/16/19 02:33 PM
To be honest, if a man doesn't display the typical masculine quality of 'provide and protect' I'm not so interested anymore.
I think it's more about that than "we are people too".
I don't think an empowered male would say that.
Conversely women who are offended by such things aren't empowered in their feminine energy.
I love that sort of thing and I don't feel "less than" if a man does that at all. It makes me feel wanted, desired, treasured. All the things a woman wants to feel, and in turn I feel more love, respect, and adoration for the man to do that.
It's like chivalry, provide and protect, being a man.
I'd expect it to be a natural instinct of a man and if he's lacking that I will be disappointed. If it's a love interest, the interest will definitely suffer.

Example that I'll never forget: my ex's adult daughter came home from the bus late at night and had to walk through a dark section with no houses.
My ex went on foot to pick her up.
Then you can ask "WTF risk 2 people getting hurt?" And why shouldn't she be able to walk home on her own?
What can he do when there's let's say 3 men attacking them? Nothing much.
Yet, as a father and well empowered in your masculinity and loving your daughter you will do it.

Same thing. And in this case many adult men who are fathers will likely feel, "Yes of course I'm going to pick up my daughter!"
Then why is it so far fetched for men nowadays to extend the same curtesy to a woman?

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Mon 09/16/19 07:19 PM
I think the two men that we're with that lady needs a lesson about being considerate and respectful. They must have not been taught that as young children.

mikaxel80's photo
Wed 09/25/19 08:31 AM

I think the two men that we're with that lady needs a lesson about being considerate and respectful. They must have not been taught that as young children.

THANK YOU!smile2

Tom4Uhere's photo
Wed 09/25/19 12:42 PM


Just a couple of minutes ago, I was outside walking on an upward road. Three people were coming-two guys and a lady- in opposite direction.At the same time i saw a car pass them. (By the way the lady is not in the middle or to the safe side of the road, if you know what i mean)
When they reached to where i was, i told the lady to be on the safe side and the guys to change places with her. Then some men who were standing nearby yelled at me and said why favor the female genre? And they also said that we males are people. I ignored them and left. and the lady started walking on the safe side.

What do y'all think if you were in this situation?

You know for me ladies are precious. Its not being against males. Its just that ladies offer more and we should protect them


"And they also said that we males are people.." And they are 100% right.
They also should've told you to mind your own damn business but I guess they were kinder than I. You were just lucky I wasn't part of that group.

:thumbsup:

I'm with 'unknown' on this.

Think about it...

You decide the behavior of people on the street.
Granted, your intentions are positive but where is the end.
Ramp this behavior up.

Do you do into homes and tell people how to raise their children?
Do you lecture a local street gang on how to behave?
Who told you that you are the moral policeman for society?

In the grocery store, do you randomly take things out of peoples baskets because you think those items are bad for them?

What you did was assume your morals were superior to their and interjected yourself into their lives without regard for their own freedom of choice.
slaphead

Sir Dino One Love ☝️💚's photo
Wed 09/25/19 12:55 PM



Just a couple of minutes ago, I was outside walking on an upward road. Three people were coming-two guys and a lady- in opposite direction.At the same time i saw a car pass them. (By the way the lady is not in the middle or to the safe side of the road, if you know what i mean)
When they reached to where i was, i told the lady to be on the safe side and the guys to change places with her. Then some men who were standing nearby yelled at me and said why favor the female genre? And they also said that we males are people. I ignored them and left. and the lady started walking on the safe side.

What do y'all think if you were in this situation?

You know for me ladies are precious. Its not being against males. Its just that ladies offer more and we should protect them


"And they also said that we males are people.." And they are 100% right.
They also should've told you to mind your own damn business but I guess they were kinder than I. You were just lucky I wasn't part of that group.

:thumbsup:

I'm with 'unknown' on this.

Think about it...

You decide the behavior of people on the street.
Granted, your intentions are positive but where is the end.
Ramp this behavior up.

Do you do into homes and tell people how to raise their children?
Do you lecture a local street gang on how to behave?
Who told you that you are the moral policeman for society?

In the grocery store, do you randomly take things out of peoples baskets because you think those items are bad for them?

What you did was assume your morals were superior to their and interjected yourself into their lives without regard for their own freedom of choice.
slaphead

:thumbsup: Yep

no photo
Wed 09/25/19 01:00 PM
I was taught, as a boy, growing up on the extremely busy streets of NYC, that when a man is walking with a woman he should always walk on the side nearest the road.

It was etiquette where and when I was raised. I do it instinctively to this day. It's like blinking an eye. I've never been with a woman who was offended by this. In fact, most appreciate it and find it very amusing.


Sir Dino One Love ☝️💚's photo
Wed 09/25/19 01:15 PM
That's all good and proper, but some one telling you to do it as you walk blissfully down the avenue, that's a different story altogether..smokin

no photo
Wed 09/25/19 01:18 PM

That's all good and proper, but some one telling you to do it as you walk blissfully down the avenue, that's a different story altogether..smokin


It does fall into the category of mind your own business whether it was well intentioned or not.

Sir Dino One Love ☝️💚's photo
Wed 09/25/19 01:20 PM


That's all good and proper, but some one telling you to do it as you walk blissfully down the avenue, that's a different story altogether..smokin


It does fall into the category of mind your own business whether it was well intentioned or not.

That's what I'm saying..smokin , comes automatic to gentlemen like ourselves..drinker

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Wed 09/25/19 01:30 PM

I was taught, as a boy, growing up on the extremely busy streets of NYC, that when a man is walking with a woman he should always walk on the side nearest the road.

It was etiquette where and when I was raised. I do it instinctively to this day. It's like blinking an eye. I've never been with a woman who was offended by this. In fact, most appreciate it and find it very amusing.




In my opinion, this is appreciated. flowerforyou

Datwasntme's photo
Wed 09/25/19 02:17 PM
i agree with ya
females should be on the safe side
the reasoning behind that for me is

females where never suppose to do the things males do
females are going to do the things that we males never can

now before you go all Hillery on me
think about it

i am not saying i am not open to equal rights
we are all human after all

do what ever ya want : )

but while you lady's are in such a hurry to be equal to guys
i call it a down grade
<shrug>
you can still be a female and do what ever guys do and a whole lot more

guys are a dime a dozen , but females are golden
(guys dont kill me for that one , but ya know what i mean)
call me wrong guys , let me know how maken and carrring and giving birth to new life turns out for ya
and that is just the icing on the cake
i would go on , but i think i made me point

i say the safe side cause i think you are worth defending
not cause i think you have to be defended or are defenseless
i dont do it cause i think my reaction time is better , or that i could take the impact better then you
i do it cause i care
then again i do it for males to
<shrug>
its called being kind

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