can anyone please advice some? thank you.

hi

Get laid

Some people sincerely believe this ...



... to be the solution for world peace.

Normal feelings after break up: light has gone out of life / pictures remain; etc.

Advise: meditation

Come out . ENJoy Life. !
#ItsnottheENDoftheWorld

I wouldn't know because I have never had a "relationship" with any woman in my life - I don't even know what it is or what it means and no woman has ever been able to explain it to me. I have no concept of it at all. I can tell you I was going to get married to a woman in Florida in the mid 80s and my mother called her the night before our wedding and confessed that she was an intravenous drug addict with Hep C. So my marriage never happened and I never got over it. I lost my job and home and everything. I couldn't even function at work. I've not had a single girlfriend ever since then. I don't think the damage will ever go away because my mom won't apologize and make amends. She is in complete denial about it. This is part of the reason I hate drug addict American women so much. My mother is one of them!

I found personaly that seperating negative feelings helped. i.e. how much of my unhappiness was due to me actually missing her and how much was due to me finding myself alone, cheated and hard done by.
I found it was mostly the latter. Took time to move on all the same, and took a while to stop having to force myself to be cheerful.
I eventually figured out that I only had to remind myself to let go of my own suffering. the past is gone. I put down that load and walked on... eventually lol
You should do the same Laurance. Maybe you've carried that load long enough. Go easy on your self. :)

How would you recover from getting fired from a place you enjoyed working.

How would you recover from a bad but non injurious car crash.

How would you recover from your dog dying.

How would you recover from any trauma or upheaval.


Find better crap to do than wallow in your misery or trying to get back into the routine (physical, mental, emotional) that was established with them.

A brilliant analysis,
Still sounds like a Hindu - brilliant minds, stuck in 'mothers' script'

And I was led to believe that Americans, when the music stopped, wrote their own music.

I like this quote about moving on

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us”
-Alexander Graham Bell

Maybe try this
http://lovesagame.com/free-breakup-course/

Welcome to Mingle2 and Good Luck in your search.

hi

what?

how do u know if someone u luv is start cheating of u

Just get another one, but be a bit more fussy each time.

find a new partner but for this time teporary

Get a new lover.

the memories will always be there the good and the bad but eventually the hurt and the pain will fade it will take time just depends on how deep the feeling where and how much damage was done took me almost 3 years to recover

If you were 'in love', it will simply take time.

If you were 'in love', then there are three things that will happen. You will have trouble falling asleep, eating, and looking at that other person.

If you were 'in love', find another mate to lend an ear and a shoulder to rest upon.

Hope this helps.

Ask your parents how they recovered when they were forced to face the idea that their child was no longer their child but a young adult or adult.

If these happened:
How did you recover from being a child living off your parents to an adult with your own place and responsibility for your own bills.

Or how did you recover when a family member or friend died.

How did you recover when you switched from grade school to high school or to college, or from college to working professional.

Or having a pet die. Or having to leave a pet behind when going off for work or school.

Or your mom getting rid of toys you don't play with anymore.

How did you recover when you had a friend in school and they moved away over the summer.

How did you recover when they closed your favorite restaurant or place you enjoyed going.

How did you recover when you had to get rid of your bike and learn to drive, or get rid of your old car for a new one or have to start walking/biking/riding the bus.


Everyone's gone through multiple (dozens, hundreds, thousands) "breakup" traumas in their life.

People tend to do 1 of 2 things to recover from them:
1. Act like a baby, just wallow in misery screaming or begging for someone to hand them an immediately gratifying palliative to make them feel better because they don't want to think, they just want the stress to go away, just "giving it time" until they just naturally get used to the negative stress and lack of being catered to.
2. Act like an adult, chose something to work towards using their own power and will to self motivate, focusing on a desired future goal (as opposed to trying to avoid a past hurt).

You need to focus on the things you love to do, get your mind going in the direction of the future, not the past. Take time to do something that you like to do that your ex-partner didn't like to do. You won't find peace in outside things like drinking or drugs, you'll only find it by taking time to explore the good things about yourself and decide what path you want to take now.