this I said so cuz you will check your inbox for reasonable quality chat but rather you find some shitty men sending and requesting you for nude pictures

If you haven't noticed there is an intimacy option here this site. that makeboth partied able to seek a sex partner. how about making it clear that you are not after that. that said women are not any better then males on this so that is said.

and to OP seeking sex don't make ppl perverts some are just more open to sex then others and then bash down on them is wrong. there is always the option to just ignore mails from them.

Dude, she doesn't say in her profile that she is seeking an "intimate" relationship.
Frankly, you have grossly misinterpreted lafea's comment.

I'm sorry to hear that this has been part of your experience here lafea. While I'd like to think that most of the men on site would not insult you with such requests, there are always going to be some who will. Best thing is to delete their messages, have a good laugh at their inadequacies and move on to better things.

And you can block them.

... and use a good friend called "Report button"

Not all men are perverts as a Christian Gentleman i don't won't sex before
marriage , i was brought up a Gentleman and i pay a Lady a compliment but not
in a perverted or sexual way , i'm just looking for a life partner and on this
site i've had females directing me too sex sites but i just block them , not
all men are bad and in not all woman are bad either but in this day and age it's getting harder to meet and honest partner but i hope you find someone that will treat you like a Lady and be kind , compassionate and loving towards you may God Bless you and good luck in your journey

"can some men stop being a pervert"

Yes, but that would take six months of abstinence and a willingness and a commitment on their part.

So, no.

Onwards...

But, you say "pervert", like it's a bad thing.

What do you expect when your profile says "Ask me and I gladly answer!"
You're inviting them yourself.

Second, you are inviting it with photos that show an awful lot of flesh. One is in bed with some lacy hemmed top.
And then you whinge about the messages you get? You've set yourself up as a girl who wants sex, not one who is interested in a serious date or relationship.
If that's what you're after work on your profile, a lot.

Take some of the "really bad, really gross" pics and send them back to the next fool that sends you these, and so on.... Eye for eye...

They can't "unsee" that.

They will ABSOLUTELY will leave you alone.

Of course.
But why should they?


Kind of like when people start threads with:
"women under 40 only respond"
or
"what do guys think about"
or
"(insert some quality chat topic here)"
and you get responses going off topic, or "I like turtles," or people that don't fit the limiting conditions.

Lots of people could "stop being a..." but why would they when there really is no incentive to do so and no real consequences to not doing so.
And if there's a reward, even as little as .01% of the population contacted or simply self gratification (stress relief via entertainment), to continue "being a..." there's really no reason to "stop being a...."


So you're stuck in the age old conundrum.
"Should I focus on how to change a bunch of other people to behave how I want them to? Should I focus on my own behavior and self and how to protect myself from behavior I don't want to experience? Or should I just do nothing and occasionally get mad once in a while and throw a tantrum, ejaculate my stress on others until I feel better, and then go back to the status quo and hope things get better while avoiding all consequences to my actions?"

Good luck with that!

If you mean to ask, will any of the guys who start things off by asking for nudes, evolve into the thoughtful, mature, serious potential mate you came here for?

Oh my no.

I suggest you think of rude messages as an "easy sorting tool."

Instead of having to wait through a series of carefully phrased flattery,hoping that you wont have that horrifying "turned over pretty rock number three, at it was all worms and nasty insects" gross out experience, you can delete and block the "nudies please" guys right away.

Swallowed by the deactivation doomsday machine