I can't be bothered looking up the dictionary definitions....
You know which you are.
I think you are born a leader or follower, it is in your make up/personality.
I also think you can be both, I can follow, but I will step up and lead if the direction is wrong.
In relationships this can be difficult. Do two leaders work?
Who would lead the relationship of two followers?

Naturally a leader, but I don't always present myself that way. Also bear in mind there's different types of leadership.
It also depends on the situation, I can follow too, although if I don't like something and cannot take leadership role either, I just withdraw and do my own thing. Not always the easy approach but I also cannot force myself to do something that I don't feel good about or simply don't want to do. If people then try to push me.. well, doesn't work so well, hihi.

Two leaders in a relationship can work just fine provided you complement one another. In my experience you're not leaders at the same time, not even always with the same activity. And you can talk about things as you do them too, so you're cooperating leaders.

I think I'm a coaching-style leader. When I read the description I can really relate to that. My ex was like that too, and we worked really well together.

I'm a neither(er).
I tend to do my own thing.

Depends on the situation, what's being asked, what's necessary, time requirements, potential conflicts, how much I'm being paid, many many things.


Sure. Why wouldn't it? Leader does not necessarily mean megalomaniac.


1. They both would.
1a. Passive aggressively.
2. Neither, they'd just react to circumstances.
3. They'd seek external direction to tell them what to do (religion, cultural icons, movies, tradition).

I can be both. People often look to me to take the lead, sometimes
I do, sometimes I just say go away :) For real real though, I don’t
try to do either most times I just do my own thing.

I think in a relationship two leaders can work, but two controllers,
probably not. Two followers may just just run around in circles. lol

A good leader is a good follower.

Two leaders does work as well as two followers.
Good communication is the secret.
When I was teaching my employees teamwork I explained that it is important for all to learn leadership qualities to better understand the goals of the team.

In a strictly leader/follower arrangement if one component is missing the goal does not get realized.
But, if all team members understand the leadership and the followership, absence of one or the other does not usually result in failure to attain the goal.

People seem to have a strange understanding of marriage and relationships.
First, you have two adults. Two people that existed by themselves before they got together. Making their own decisions, experiencing their own failures and victories to gain their own wisdom.
For some reason, people think a relationship or marriage is an ownership. Somehow by default, one has power over the other.
However, relationships and marriage is based on sharing each other.
You become a couple.
It requires equal validity and good communication.
Each person must be flexible enough to lead when needed and follow when needed.
If one person asserts leadership and demands the other submits to their authority, it doesn't work very well.