Topic: Single Mom Problem
bobtail76's photo
Wed 10/07/20 08:21 AM
Edited by bobtail76 on Wed 10/07/20 08:23 AM
It's possible...anything is possible - but the reality is, there's a more likely chance that a kid would be in the way, and complicate things more than if the child wasn't there. I see a lot of women's profiles that say "my kids come first" (which should be the case) but that may as well say " any dude that dates me will always be, at the very best, 2nd banana".

I think it's also equally dependent on the dude and the child. I went out with a woman that I was really into, but one of her kids was a turd. Knowing it was a package deal, I was forced to walk away. I think complicated scenarios like that will come up, so it's best to take to your time getting to know someone. Chemistry might be there, but the time will allow you to know what position the dude will take

Lane's photo
Wed 10/07/20 10:45 AM
Edited by Lane on Wed 10/07/20 10:46 AM
Love, yes.
It would be hard to find someone who does not love you.

Trust, no.
Have sex? Not with love but no trust.

Dudes would be too afraid of what ever happened to the guy before.

An alternative? Find friends - of many different types of people, men and women, and be aware of people you respect and appreciate. Make several (more than one) close friendships, and be involved with a community that looks out for you.

Larry's photo
Fri 06/11/21 06:19 AM
Hello everyone amLarry from Nairobi Kenya. Am new here .Need to connect with a single mum in kenya with not more than one kid

ivegotthegirth's photo
Sat 06/12/21 02:40 AM
I'm afraid a large part of your problem is your age; you are far more mature than boys your age partly due to necessity. You'll need to find that unique one that thinks, not boys like this one ^^^^

Charie's photo
Sat 08/28/21 10:47 AM
I am s single mom with 1 kid too.
yeah it is really hard getting a partner when you already have a child. hopefully here i will get to connect

Icecream's photo
Wed 09/08/21 05:36 AM
I'm a mother of two boys once you mention to a guy that you have kids boom no more conversation funny enough I cannot hide my kids as their are pieces that make me a Complete Mother.I still believe in Love no matter what

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Wed 09/08/21 06:20 AM
Edited by Dramatic Muffin on Wed 09/08/21 06:21 AM
QUOTE:

It's possible...anything is possible - but the reality is, there's a more likely chance that a kid would be in the way, and complicate things more than if the child wasn't there. I see a lot of women's profiles that say "my kids come first" (which should be the case) but that may as well say " any dude that dates me will always be, at the very best, 2nd banana".

I think it's also equally dependent on the dude and the child. I went out with a woman that I was really into, but one of her kids was a turd. Knowing it was a package deal, I was forced to walk away. I think complicated scenarios like that will come up, so it's best to take to your time getting to know someone. Chemistry might be there, but the time will allow you to know what position the dude will take


This one. No one likes dating someone whose kid's a turd.

Mia 's photo
Fri 09/17/21 07:38 AM
can we chat? im MIA

no photo
Fri 09/17/21 12:24 PM
cool can we talk?

no photo
Thu 09/23/21 08:37 AM
It's very difficult to date someone ... Especially with children .. it's about safety.trust me I've been single for a long time trust and safety for you and your children...

Ava Adore's photo
Sat 10/16/21 12:32 PM
One thing I've noticed (for me, at least) is when guys find out you have kids, they assume you're some sex starved woman looking to get laid. It usually happens when I talk to local guys, or guys from certain countries.

I am NOT interested!

Laska Paul 's photo
Thu 10/28/21 06:27 AM


Dating a SINGLE MOM doesn't really means You will be Playing DADDY...
It just means that you are willing to become a Part of the Family and a role Model for child / childrens . In case if you aren't Ready to Step up , then don't step up to Her. Just leave her Alone ..

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 10/28/21 08:06 AM
Is it possible to find a partner here who will love you and your child?
Yes

Has anybody?
Yes

I've only been here for more than a week
No worthy relationship can develop that quickly.
It takes time, patience and honest communication.

when they learn I have a daughter the conversation just dies a sudden death
Mingle2 has people from all walks of life, each with their own goals and ideas of why they are here. The issue is not them its you.
You need to realize the ones you approach are not willing to adopt family responsibilities.
The solution is to choose the ones who demonstrate interest, maturity and responsibility.
Its a matter of choosing wisely.

Mingle2 dating side is a tool.
Like any tool, if you use it correctly it works well.
If you try to make it do something it is not designed to do it fails.

I suggest you include the fact you have a daughter in your 'about me' section of your profile. Just a mention is all that is needed. Your profile should be about you mainly. Try to keep it positive and try not to threaten prospective suitors.

Granted, not many people even read profiles. Pay attention only to the ones who meet your requirements and ignore the rest. Don't give them any of your energy.

While your child should come up in later conversations, you must first find the someone right for you. Most do not want to date the child, they want to date you. Seek someone for you and you for them and the children are part of what makes you, you.

If your child is a burden, and you treat her such, its going to translate as toxic to suitors. If your child is a happy part of you, that also translates but as a positive quality.
But...Your child should not be the tool used to find someone.
Only you can find the right someone for you.
Most of the time, if you choose wisely and achieve inner contentment, your child will also react favorably (unless they are spoiled brats with anxiety issues).

Its how you handle your search and your situation which makes or breaks your dating success. Again, Choose Wisely.

no photo
Tue 12/21/21 03:33 PM
I to am a single mother of 3 girls.
Over the age of 10yrs old.
I to believe it is hard to find a good man to love your children or child as there own. They are out there somewhere. I did give up hope years ago but decided to come on here as no harm done just talking as friends. I’m more for having friends to talk too, if I get a partner in life one day then so be it. I’ve done all the raising of daughters myself so the hard yards are done. I sure hope the single mothers out there find what there searching for .

Del's photo
Tue 12/21/21 04:05 PM
QUOTE:
Is it possible to find a partner here who will love you and your child? Has anybody? I've only been here for more than a week and I say that we could have the nicest introductory talk and then when they learn I have a daughter the conversation just dies a sudden death lol

No problem

Ryan 's photo
Sun 01/09/22 09:09 AM
I order for a man to accept both you and your child, he has to forge a relationship with both. And that is hard to do via the internet

Rico Tyler's photo
Sat 01/15/22 09:04 PM
QUOTE:
Is it possible to find a partner here who will love you and your child? Has anybody? I've only been here for more than a week and I say that we could have the nicest introductory talk and then when they learn I have a daughter the conversation just dies a sudden death lol

hey wassup cutie

Reche's photo
Mon 03/07/22 12:42 AM
waiting for the right time. having a job is better than having a man.
my son is my priority.
god bless us all.
to all single out there.

Teddy's photo
Sun 04/17/22 02:15 PM
I would marry you if you wanted to share her with me. Maybe have a kid with me too. Also a reason,they might not is her age. How old is she?:smile: :smile:

ivegotthegirth's photo
Fri 04/22/22 10:51 AM
QUOTE:

can we chat? im MIA




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