sounds to me bit feministic, i never met a woman who could cook, and even some didn't know how to real clean

Both my sons were involved in cleaning and looking after the household..Both learned how to cook..

seems one is better at it than the other

I found particularly European men tend not to do any housework... for example my brother did not have to do any housework.

I also prefer a man who is tidy and knows, and enjoys, cooking... I don't want to be his 'maid', but his partner..

I think it has to do with how they were raised.

I was with my ex for almost 40 yrs and in that time he never once cooked me a meal because he didn’t know how. He and his brothers were raised in an age when all domestic duties were done by mothers as they were, by and large, the homemakers. When we married he did help with household chores but he never learned to cook.

On the other hand, my best friend learned to cook and keep a tidy house from a young age. When his parents divorced he and his brother went to live with their dad who gave them daily household chores which included cooking. My friend now keeps a clean house and cooks wonderful meals which he enjoys doing.

I also think that times have changed from the 50s and 60s due to the majority of both parents now working and sharing household duties so children are now raised to help with the running of the house.

My mother made sure, I help in the house. But I didn't mind.

My Mom taught my sister and I some cleaning basics, and required us to participate in chores. Though, we weren't ever regimented or consistent with routine tidiness. I don't remember Mom instructing us in cooking when we were kids. We did sometimes participate in food prep and cleanup after meals.

I know how to clean and maintain a living space. But, I'm still not regimented or consistent with tidiness. I'm comfortable in the kitchen, and capable of preparing and cooking simple meals.

A man who cooks and cleans is very attractive!!

Then that makes 'me' absolutely stunning, notlooking.
Actually, growing up, my late Mother (who was of European extraction), wouldn't let me within a 'bull's roar' of the kitchen or a broom. In fact, I used to wonder how my clothes disappeared from the floor and then reappeared back into the closet and drawers?
During my marriage, I learned to cook and somewhat instinctively, shared with the household chores and gardens etc.
However, when Mum was visiting and should I be finishing up the dishes, the look on her face was 'priceless'.

DelightfulIllusion is right. Different times need different approaches.
I notice that we are an older group on Mingle and the majority of us are single. As I grew up my father's partner allocated the boys chopping wood, mowing the lawns etc ,(men chores) and the girls did the inside chores and cooking.
So now times have changed, but sometimes the old school mentality remains embedded in some men. No offense intended.

My dad died when I was 10yrs old in 1960 ,my mother had to work a few jobs to keep me and my 3yr old sister when there were few benefits and handouts , I think I became a man before I was 11yrs old , I quickly learned how to do many household things

I can cook and clean but I hate doing dishes.