Would you ever consider having an affair, if
you were already in a marriage or living with
a romantic partner?

Nope. If I got such strong feelings for someone else it'd be time to review the relationship I'm in.

Not at all.

I was perfectly happy with my wife until she passed away and we both knew we would never cheat on each other.

Absolutely not .
You need to end things with the first one before you start anything else up with anyone else

No!

Absolutely

Sometimes a person finds themself in a love relationship
with someone but didn't know that person was already
Committed to someone else.

Then what would you do?

Wish them well and say goodbye!

Love attraction is not easily forgotten.

End it, however difficult it may be. I couldn't live with that situation, the fact that it could not go anywhere would be a constant factor of pain, and I'd also be angry that I was lied to.
None of these are things I could forget, nor live with.

I'm, with Crystal. I'd be super pissed I was lied to. The attraction would be over the second I found out

Yeah, it'd do a quick job of killing romance and feelings, AND trust, wouldn't it!

"Consider?"

Sure. Could be fun roleplay.

You ever see the movie "Big?"

You know when Big takes Elizabeth Perkins back to his apartment, and it's got bunk beds and a pepsi machine and a trampoline?

I would love to have like a separate apartment.

We'd keep it mostly empty, and when we were feeling stressed and needing release we'd go there, decorate it with whatever idea we're wanting to explore.

Like I would "consider" having an affair, go to the apartment, set it up as a bachelor pad or something, then start texting and calling my wife, treating her like a stranger, and hopefully she'd reciprocate, act like different people to fulfill the idealized fantasy, have fun with it.

Get fantasies out there, explore how we're changing our desires, relieve stress.

Just like kids play alone or together with toys and blanket forts to work out how to communicate, how to interact in society, their place, all that development stuff, only an adult version.


If what you're asking is "would you stop openly communicating with your partner, have conversations in your head regarding fulfilling your own selfish desires, making a meticulous and planned conscious effort, trying to hide or keep your wife apart from that," then no.
Commitments have meaning.


If you're asking "in the realm of an infinite universe, is there a theoretical point, or hypothetical conditions, that potentially exist where you 'cheat' on your spouse, have an ongoing affair after making commitments to the contrary, or seriously and thoughtfully consider having an affair in general or with someone specific?"
Then sure.

If you're asking "have you ever seen/met an extremely attractive person, whose personality and beauty was just a complete and utter match to your biggest fantasy of a person, and had passing thoughts/desires of an affair like fantasy?"
Then sure.

An Affair could be non sexual. You agree?

Emotional cheating, is still cheating.

Depends how you define non-sexual.
But I think for me the answer is, no. Non-sexual is friendship, not an affair.
An affair is where there are feelings of attraction, lust, desire to have sex, kiss etc. etc.
It it's non-sexual it could become an affair but it can also be avoided by not going there.

Some people have sex with a person they call
Their friend.

They don't claim it's a relationship.

My friends pay me so really they are my clients...


OT: some people also have open relationships. It all depends on what that 3rd person knows and agrees to.

Why are you calling it an affair in your posed question?

No. This is cheating and it’s BS. Can’t you just have a monogamous relationship? Just be faithful to your partner.