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Topic: we are pregnant!
SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Wed 03/10/21 03:57 PM
How do you feel when a couple says that?

Pregnant means to have a baby growing in the uterus.
So a man/a couple saying 'We are pregnant' doesn't make sense. It's not like the woman's uterus is suddenly his too.

Now if they'd say "We are expecting a baby." That's different.

I think if I was preggers and my partner would say "We are pregnant" I'd correct him. It just feels off, and personally I find it weird to hear people say that.

How bout you?

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Wed 03/10/21 04:09 PM
I like it because they both did the work to get pregnant.

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Wed 03/10/21 04:11 PM
we are pregnant!... How do you feel when a couple says that?

Depends on my relationship to the couple.
A simple equation of my annoyance being inversely proportional to the depth of the relationship.

So a man/a couple saying 'We are pregnant' doesn't make sense.

I know it's crazy, but language is a multipurpose tool.
Words, sentences, paragraphs, grammar,colloquialisms, slang, patois, etc.

People use language for something beyond simply remitting factual information.

I realized this a couple of years ago when someone had the audacity to steal my nose. We were having an enjoyable evening of strained peas and carrots and all of a sudden I just hear "gotcher nose!"
I simply stared at her, carefully removed my bib, leaned back in my high chair and with a tenuous hold on equanimity calmly queried in an attempt at implied social manipulation "how then will I smell?"
Her reply: "Terribly!"
After checking my diaper I found that while I was distracted she had, in fact, returned my nose, to my great relief, despite my most recent activity.

Now if they'd say "We are expecting a baby." That's different.

Based on being pedantic that sentence would scare me.
Who is expecting something other than a baby?
What are the other options?


Bastet127's photo
Wed 03/10/21 06:04 PM
It’s not on my list of things that annoy me. But, I do think the reveal parties have
gone too far lol.

I_love_bluegrass's photo
Wed 03/10/21 06:15 PM
I think it's dumb..
SHE'S the one that is pregnant, carrying the child, will deliver it..
He's just there....did minimal work in the process...

I think saying "we're going to be parents" makes more sense and is more accurate.

Laska Paul 's photo
Thu 03/11/21 12:26 AM

How do you feel when a couple says that?

Pregnant means to have a baby growing in the uterus.
So a man/a couple saying 'We are pregnant' doesn't make sense. It's not like the woman's uterus is suddenly his too.

Now if they'd say "We are expecting a baby." That's different.

I think if I was preggers and my partner would say "We are pregnant" I'd correct him. It just feels off, and personally I find it weird to hear people say that.

How bout you?


Every Womens dream is to become a "Mother" , Do You have any Doubt about this.
Now , I'll twist this Question a Little . " If Mens were to Become Pregnant? What would Happen ? The Earth would be Up Side Down . That's why God has Given this Biggest task to a Woman ! We say, She is Pregnant !

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Thu 03/11/21 12:45 AM
I prefer that to couples having a common account on facebook

CuteGirlsOnly's photo
Thu 03/11/21 01:37 AM
good for them

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 03/11/21 01:48 AM

It’s not on my list of things that annoy me. But, I do think the reveal parties have
gone too far lol.

Reveal party? I had not heard of that yet!

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 03/11/21 02:17 AM

I think it's dumb..
SHE'S the one that is pregnant, carrying the child, will deliver it..
He's just there....did minimal work in the process...

I think saying "we're going to be parents" makes more sense and is more accurate.


Indeed. It is too unisex for my taste. That trends seems to come up again of late.
Saying "OUR boys still swim!" is along the same vein.
I think that would get a woman or couple a lot of weird looks, hihi.

Men can have their swimming boys, being pregnant is a woman's thing.

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Thu 03/11/21 02:42 AM
I think this come from tens of years asking the man to be more involved, reaching the point where maybe now he's too involved.
I agree that pregnancy is a woman's thing, 100%. On the other hand, it depends on the couple, if they feel closer by considering both of them pregnant, it's fine... not the way I would see it but up to them.
But please do not consider man's role a 5 minutes job, that is rather offensive ... If my wife said anything like that I would reply 'ok, now my task is over, goodbye!" (no I wouldn't, but still...)

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Thu 03/11/21 02:56 AM
Good Job Hubby , use condom next time :grinning:

Fresh start's photo
Thu 03/11/21 03:25 AM
I am amazed at references to "work" while getting pregnant. I always find sex pleasurable, not work.......guess I'm doing it wrong. Lol.

Bastet127's photo
Thu 03/11/21 04:22 AM


It’s not on my list of things that annoy me. But, I do think the reveal parties have
gone too far lol.

Reveal party? I had not heard of that yet!


They happen all the time here, the couple has family and friends gather
and they find some creative way to let them know the baby’s gender. In
several instances, the β€œcreative” way led to injuries of those in attendance.

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Thu 03/11/21 05:18 AM
It's just a hint of what's to come after their kid is born. New topics of conversation will come out of them. Like, baby Throckmorton hit his diaper when he took his first dump. He belched without spitting up, isn't that wonderful? He wanted to cuddle up to the dog, right after the dog went outside and rolled in something dead. How adorable! What life insurance plan should I buy for baby Throckmorton? We bought all of the baby's furniture at Ikea!

That's what I expect people to talk about when they joyfully proclaim-

We're pregnant!

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 03/11/21 05:41 AM



It’s not on my list of things that annoy me. But, I do think the reveal parties have
gone too far lol.

Reveal party? I had not heard of that yet!


They happen all the time here, the couple has family and friends gather
and they find some creative way to let them know the baby’s gender. In
several instances, the β€œcreative” way led to injuries of those in attendance.


I do know people sometimes organize a baby shower for the pregnant woman, not heard of reveal parties.
Not sure if I'd want to take away from the joy of being asked if you know the gender, provided you know of course. With the 1st I did, sheer coincidence I had to get a 2nd ultrasound made.
With the 2nd that need wasn't there and I didn't want to know either. That not-knowing all that time had it's charm for sure!
But I guess times change, and with that how people deal with things.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 03/11/21 05:50 AM

I think this come from tens of years asking the man to be more involved, reaching the point where maybe now he's too involved.
I agree that pregnancy is a woman's thing, 100%. On the other hand, it depends on the couple, if they feel closer by considering both of them pregnant, it's fine... not the way I would see it but up to them.
But please do not consider man's role a 5 minutes job, that is rather offensive ... If my wife said anything like that I would reply 'ok, now my task is over, goodbye!" (no I wouldn't, but still...)

The man's role is of being supportive. And I think much around pregnancy and child birth is a bit alien and also tough on a guy.
They can see it, and that's pretty much it.

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Thu 03/11/21 06:05 AM


I think this come from tens of years asking the man to be more involved, reaching the point where maybe now he's too involved.
I agree that pregnancy is a woman's thing, 100%. On the other hand, it depends on the couple, if they feel closer by considering both of them pregnant, it's fine... not the way I would see it but up to them.
But please do not consider man's role a 5 minutes job, that is rather offensive ... If my wife said anything like that I would reply 'ok, now my task is over, goodbye!" (no I wouldn't, but still...)

The man's role is of being supportive. And I think much around pregnancy and child birth is a bit alien and also tough on a guy.
They can see it, and that's pretty much it.


being supportive and go buy strawberries at impossible times and places is a lot more than a 5 minutes job though. I guess you did not mean it literally but it's a very common expression and it's rather offensive. I'm sure it was not your intention to offend 3.5 billions of people, but It's just like when people say that women can't drive... don't fall in the same mistakes men have made for centuries, be better than us...

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 03/11/21 06:12 AM



I think this come from tens of years asking the man to be more involved, reaching the point where maybe now he's too involved.
I agree that pregnancy is a woman's thing, 100%. On the other hand, it depends on the couple, if they feel closer by considering both of them pregnant, it's fine... not the way I would see it but up to them.
But please do not consider man's role a 5 minutes job, that is rather offensive ... If my wife said anything like that I would reply 'ok, now my task is over, goodbye!" (no I wouldn't, but still...)

The man's role is of being supportive. And I think much around pregnancy and child birth is a bit alien and also tough on a guy.
They can see it, and that's pretty much it.


being supportive and go buy strawberries at impossible times and places is a lot more than a 5 minutes job though. I guess you did not mean it literally but it's a very common expression and it's rather offensive. I'm sure it was not your intention to offend 3.5 billions of people, but It's just like when people say that women can't drive... don't fall in the same mistakes men have made for centuries, be better than us...

Maybe re-read the thread. I didn't say anything about 5 mins. No one did actually but you. One person mentioned the guys job was minimal.

When you want to make a point address the right person.

Totage's photo
Thu 03/11/21 06:33 AM

How do you feel when a couple says that?

Pregnant means to have a baby growing in the uterus.
So a man/a couple saying 'We are pregnant' doesn't make sense. It's not like the woman's uterus is suddenly his too.

Now if they'd say "We are expecting a baby." That's different.

I think if I was preggers and my partner would say "We are pregnant" I'd correct him. It just feels off, and personally I find it weird to hear people say that.

How bout you?


Who cares? I more concerned about how that person or people are going to be in society, so just don't be a shtiiy parent, and raise them right. I mean they'll go their own way and all, but at least teach them how to be decent people.

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