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Topic: Being the other woman or man.....
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Wed 12/26/07 12:59 PM
I was dating a married woman not too long ago (I feel horrible about it) and it seemed like she just took me for an emotional rollercoaster ride. Have you ever been the other person? Does it ever pan out or is it best to not even go there?

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Wed 12/26/07 01:00 PM
well this is a silly question... stay away!noway flowerforyou

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Wed 12/26/07 01:01 PM
if you knew about it then i think thats a pretty f*cked up thing to do. i've been cheated on many times and i wouldn't wish that on anybody. so if you got taken for a ride you probably deserved it.

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Wed 12/26/07 01:02 PM
I have been the one at home waiting and wishing i knew who the other person was. I think that ppl that have affairs on the side on their own emotional roller coaster.

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Wed 12/26/07 01:02 PM
I only went there under the understanding that her relationship was over. She had already moved out but was still "married".

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Wed 12/26/07 01:04 PM
very rarely does it ever pan out............you are the toy something to escape reality with........why should they leave their real life when they can have both the reality and the fantasy..........not only that if they'll cheat with you then they'll cheat on you...........JMO

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Wed 12/26/07 01:05 PM
it's your own fualt. thats all i have to say or i'm gonna get really pissed.

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Wed 12/26/07 01:06 PM

I only went there under the understanding that her relationship was over. She had already moved out but was still "married".
I feel for you.....because of this statement...you thought it wa over..she was seperated.....but maybe you should just let her get her "divorce" first and see what happens after that...its hard but in the long run..better for you and her...Good luck!flowerforyou

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Wed 12/26/07 01:06 PM
Married is married. Sometimes even if someone is divorced they are married, in their heart.

Don't date people who are seperated or recently divorced. This is an absolute!

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Wed 12/26/07 01:07 PM

I was dating a married woman not too long ago (I feel horrible about it) and it seemed like she just took me for an emotional rollercoaster ride. Have you ever been the other person? Does it ever pan out or is it best to not even go there?


I Think your a Selfish...Irresponsible A**e ....Fancy admitting online that you have no morals...grumble

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Wed 12/26/07 01:10 PM
I guess I made a bad choice getting involved with her in the first place. I thought maybe others on here had been in the same situation before.

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Wed 12/26/07 01:15 PM
TPeters, it takes a lot of courage to ask for advice of this nature.

There's a whole heap of people whose relationships ended, because of another party, their partner cheated.

It's an emotional trigger, as you noticed by some of the replies to your thread.

It's a messy situation to discover someone you care for has misled you, and has a partner, whether in the legal, or the emotional sense.

Take time out for you, and figure out what it is you require.

I can imagine it would be hard to trust, to accept what someone says after this point.

I wouldn't like sharing my time, my heart, my space, with someone who is married, whether legally, or emotionally.

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Wed 12/26/07 01:19 PM
I think everyone makes mistakes and I hope you have learned this lesson. People play games from all kinds of stations in life, married, not married, semi single, etc....... it is still a game to play with another and the other will always get the short end of the stick. Good Luckflowerforyou

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Wed 12/26/07 01:19 PM
It depends upon how much money is involved!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Just joking.

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Wed 12/26/07 02:10 PM
I don't think anyone has the right to judge anyone or to call them names. Hopefully you learned and move on. We can't all be perfect can we.

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Wed 12/26/07 02:17 PM
I have had more married men hitting on me then single. I get very angry just thinking about it, how they could do this to their spouse they married and chose to love. Well, it is beyond me why they do it.

My advise is NEVER EVER get involoved with a MARRIED PERSON.grumble

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Wed 12/26/07 03:08 PM
Edited by Hawaiigurl on Wed 12/26/07 03:10 PM

I don't think anyone has the right to judge anyone or to call them names. Hopefully you learned and move on. We can't all be perfect can we.
I agree with you....things happen and no one needs to be called names for making mistakes..noway noway

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Wed 12/26/07 03:15 PM


I was dating a married woman not too long ago (I feel horrible about it) and it seemed like she just took me for an emotional rollercoaster ride. Have you ever been the other person? Does it ever pan out or is it best to not even go there?


I Think your a Selfish...Irresponsible A**e ....Fancy admitting online that you have no morals...grumble
thats just yur opinion, you dont know him to be that judgemental, like if called you a "biotch" jmo

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Wed 12/26/07 03:19 PM



I was dating a married woman not too long ago (I feel horrible about it) and it seemed like she just took me for an emotional rollercoaster ride. Have you ever been the other person? Does it ever pan out or is it best to not even go there?


I Think your a Selfish...Irresponsible A**e ....Fancy admitting online that you have no morals...grumble
thats just yur opinion, you dont know him to be that judgemental, like if called you a "biotch" jmo
You go SEa!!:wink:

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Wed 12/26/07 03:19 PM
I don't think it is ever a good thing to date someone who is seperated. You always have that risk that they might try to make things work out with their mate! I believe in always cleaning up one relationship before you start another one. If not, you might end up hurting more then just one person!!
I do think its kind of funny how people on here say that you can't be married in order to contact them...and then when you look on their profile, they are seperated?? How can they demand someone be single when they are not single themself?? This is why I have decided its best to only look for friends, people are so strange on here!!
I think that you should never put yourself in a situation to where you are considered "the other person." I myself have been cheated on...its not fun to have to go through that!! I am assuming that you have never had your whole life ripped apart and had to start over? Trust me, if you were married and your spouse cheated on you...this topic would have never been brought up!!!

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