If there is any doubt at all, believe it.
Kids deserve parents who are 100 percent -and a home without strife.

Well it depends relationship is based on mutual agreement where the both partners agreed upon on anything they desire for, age differences does not matter where there is love.

I am looking to have children. I Hope they already have them, just not in their teens because I would not be able to really connect with them or ones in their 20's because having children that far apart is just messed up.
I have Friends My Age that have Children in their late 20's and Children who are just started to turn 12..
Problem is, if the MALE don't want Children, the Female can do things to get Pregnant by Him or by Someone else than say they are his.. Or if the Female don't want them and the Male does, the Male can do things to get her Pregnant..

I am in communications with a Female that has two Girls. That is Okay But at the same time, they are 11&12 at time of this. By the Time they get here, they will be 13&14.. And she probably will not want children by then even tho she is 32 and will be 35 by the time she saves enough to get here. But I would still want children of my own and would be 49.. All depending if she will still want to try to come here after two years.
I was hoping to find a Female that has children but that are under the age 5. But Not one that is Pregnant because then She would want me to PAY for the Delivery.. Oh Hell NO! Minimum Age would be 16months/1.5yrs old. No New Borns!

Adoption would be a Option but that costs Money I will never be able to have. At $20,000 Minimum US and for two to three children I would want to have.. Plus my Living conditions would be turned down, even tho, I have seen people Adopt or are Foster Parents in Worse Conditions than I live in.

Communication is Key about this. Right now the one I am in communication with is "Open to" but that could change.

Then you have the Child Support thing. The Guy does NOT want to Pay Child Support on Children that are NOT his but the Courts Will Make him anyway. See it happen all the time and has Happened to Family and Friends. Children were not theirs and were (example only) 9&11, the Female Left/Divorced the Male that Did NOT Adopt them, the Judge Still made him Pay Child Support because the Children needed a Father... and she was already getting Child Support from the Biological Father...

I decided to not have kids when I was in my teens. I've never changed my mind.It wasn't that I had bad parents. I wasn't abused, or ignored. I was reasonably free to do what I wanted, and all they really wanted to know was where I was. If I was late, I called. They never forced me to do anything, I had my choice.

Why I chose to not have them, was that I didn't want him or her to go through what I did. I never talked nasty to anyone. But it seemed like they had chosen to be nasty with me. It didn't matter what sex they were. They just did. What kept me wondering, was what they had against me. I never talked to them, never associated with them, yet I got jumped on for no reason that I knew of.

I wouldn't want to be a kid now for love nor money. The world is a pretty rotten place, and I don't see it getting any better. What my parents may have assumed about me, they never asked, and I never gave out any information to them.

Now, I'm glad I learned to be self-reliant. Saved myself a lot of grief that way.

Contrary to what some guys say, I always knew I wanted children, even as a young girl myself. Although it's difficult to tell if at that young age I really wanted that or it was more because it was the done thing.

But funny thing is, I never liked children. They scared me. They are brutally honest, blunt, and often disobedient.
Yet, I ended up doing the 3 year child & youth care study. With apprenticeships on kindergartens, toddler daycare, scouting, more kindergarten but then full-time (oh joy! ), and the swimming pool to teach swimming. THAT was great fun btw. You got a group for half an hour, teach from a distance, then they're gone for a week again.

It was an administrative FU and I was too shy to correct the situation. I'd actually wanted the pre-nursing education. (I was too young to enter nursing school)

Anywho... I still wanted my own kids. And I got them. I like them, loved them, still nuts about them even though teenage years weren't particularly easy.

And I still don't like children. Except for my own. And if I'm ever going to be blessed with grandchildren I'll love and like those too.
But not strange kids.
I still don't like the blunt honestly, disobeying and not being able to do much as they're not yours etc. etc.

I don't have kids and never wanted kids. I made that decision a long time ago. I've never regretted it.

You immediately put it back in its cage and move operations to a new street corner, before the cops get there.


Ohhhhh! Sorry, kinda misunderstood the title.

Scenario is a little confusing as to who is wanting what, when, or why.


Depends? Neither? Both?

If I don't know them, I don't really take them at their word. I don't assume they're lying. I just assume I don't really have enough information.

I mean there's a huge difference between me reading some random stranger's profile on a dating site where they've chosen from the drop down options "doesn't want kids," and someone I've been dating or committed to for years telling me they don't want kids.

If I meet a woman in my age group, who wants to
have a baby, I'm gonna follow the advice of the
great philosophers Slade, and Run, Run Away!

I knew I wanted my own since I was one myself. Went to work for my Local Amusement Park every Summer when I turned 16. Worked for them for 10+ years and another Larger One for 1year. Loved Every Minute of it. Had Children coming up (some Running up to to me and Hug Me. I could not Hug back. Parents would tell me that I was the Only Person ,that was Not Family and forced to Hug, they Hugged. They Could See the Real Me and I saw them.

Still have a Few Children that Try to Run up to Me and Hug me BUT the parents Freak Out more now about it. So Most just Wave and Smile and the Parents look Confused.. Again, because I am the Only Person, Not Family, they have done that to and they tell me. SOME Parents, back in the Amusement Park Days, Thanked Me.. Even had a Few Offer their Children to me for Adoption.. Joking or Not..

Then when they came back through out the Summer, the Same Child would Run up to me and Hug me. If I happened to be gone that day, the next time they showed up, They were upset but Still Hugged me. Parents Still saying I was the only person they would.

So Yeah, Children Love me and I Want a Few of my Own..

I was 30 and dating a guy who wanted kids. I told him in the first week that I didn't want children. I had to end it after 5 months because we were on a different page.

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