Topic: Kids vs No Kids
Ava Adore's photo
Fri 12/10/21 01:44 AM
Would you be with someone who wants/doesn't want kids? Totally opposite of what you personally want?

Let's say you want to start a family/add more kids - but the person you have intentions of spending the rest of your life with doesn't want any children? Or they already have kids and don't want more? Would it matter to you?




SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Fri 12/10/21 02:08 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž on Fri 12/10/21 02:11 AM
I'm 55, my kids are adults. No more kids. Many men my age still have teenagers at home. A no-go for me.
No more family situation. I've had all freedom for near 10 years. Not going back into restrictions because the man was late to have kids.
If he has adult kids that have long left the nest like mine, fine.
If a man has no kids, not sure.

I've learnt that dealing with someone else's kids adds extra difficulty to a new relationship. The divorce rate of such relationships is much higher and in most cases has to do with the other's kids (yours or his).

Slim gym 's photo
Fri 12/10/21 02:14 AM
I have adult kids ..
If she has the same fine ...
No more kids and restrictions. I like my carefree life . And intend to keep it that way .
Now if there are grandkids , that's a different story . But acceptable nevertheless!!!

Ava Adore's photo
Fri 12/10/21 03:54 AM
I'm a mom of teenagers, and I don't mind being with a guy who has kids of any age. But, if he wants more, then I'm not sure if I would agree. I'm 37, and having a baby at almost 40 is not really something I'd want.

no photo
Fri 12/10/21 12:44 PM
No to kids, under any circumstances.....don't even think anyone would want to try with me anyway!

no photo
Fri 12/10/21 03:38 PM
I decided at the age of 17, I didn't want kids and I still feel the same. I don't have kids and that is by choice. I can't see myself being with a man who has younger children.

Rock's photo
Fri 12/10/21 04:16 PM
Grown kids, living on their own
would be acceptable.

Fathering kids now?
I'd be in my 70s, by the time the
little bastards graduate from
university.

JulieABush's photo
Sat 12/11/21 01:12 AM
I’m unable to have kids anyway but will accept his, if he has any at the time, as long as they know I’m not here to replace their biological mother(If she’s still alive). I’ve been told by friends that I’d make a good mother but must admit that I do get nervous around them at times since I’ve never had to raise any of my own so my interaction with them is minimal.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Sat 12/11/21 02:30 AM

I'm a mom of teenagers, and I don't mind being with a guy who has kids of any age. But, if he wants more, then I'm not sure if I would agree. I'm 37, and having a baby at almost 40 is not really something I'd want.

Yes, when I was with a new partner at 36 the thought and feelings briefly came up. Mostly since I'd always wanted a 3rd child.
But then... having teenage kids at the time, being thrown back into the baby to-do... feeding every few hours, broken nights and little sleep, and so on and so forth...
And then there's the huge age gap between the kids you have and the new one. That one weighed heavily for me!

Now, more than 10 years later, I'm SO happy we didn't go there!
But it's something you have to feel for yourself and decide. Without coercion.

Mike6615's photo
Sat 12/11/21 07:18 AM

I have adult kids ..
If she has the same fine ...
No more kids and restrictions. I like my carefree life . And intend to keep it that way .
Now if there are grandkids , that's a different story . But acceptable nevertheless!!!


But nowadays there's a greater chance of adult children having to come back to live with a parent (loss of job,, divorce, health issues, etc.)...and they may also have small children and possibly their childrens' mother or father with them. Hard if this wasn't the situation you planned on. Tough decision to go along with it (or not).