shaking my head today, after speaking to a woman that shops where I work.

last week I gave her my phone number to call or text me, she has flirted with me for well over a decade, but I never flirted back as I had a GF until recently. she has talked a lot over the years, and spoke everytime seen me there. so I thought I was safe to give my number to last week.

well she was back tonight shopping, so I asked, why she hasnt called, she isnt interested in me, OK, but has flirted probably a decade or more, seems she wanted closure? yeah closure? apparently in my youth we went on a date? I dont remember, I was a heavy drinker, and chased lots of women, and I mean basically hundreds of women. she described the motorcycle I had that she rode on, and where we went to eat, which closed many years ago, and that Harley which I stopped riding in 2003.

she was stil upset I took her on a date, took riding, went out to eat, then never called her back? apparently she waited & waited for me to call her? then tonight I pissed her off with my answer, as I really do not remember her, but if she was out with me from 1997-2001, which I was drinking my heaviest, I told her if thats all we did, and she didnt put out, of course I never called back, I had several women every week back then. then I asked if was going to call me, lol. but really holding a grudge for 25 years because we went on 1 motorcycle ride and a dinner date, and never had a second date.

oh well I thought at least I didnt get involved with someone mental, good grief! still mad for 25 years, she said I didnt say or do anything wrong, just never called back. but I remember a time when I met first wife, I added to all I was dating, fell for her & dropped everything, stopped dating everyone, then 6 months later got married, but I dont remember who all I dated, or just quick dates? that was summer of 2001

so totally back to drawing board. I am no spring chicken anymore. life has took a toll on me, and not looking to play field anymore. really enjoyed just having same partner. but I am thinking if my past will haunt me more? as I really do not remember going out with this person ever. but I can say I really went out with a few hundred in a few years.

No reason to let the past haunt you or anything, but you may want to find a way to gracefully deal with it if it does surface like it did now.
After all, you don't even know exactly what happened back then, you don't know how badly she could've gotten hurt.
You could've now eased that pain, acknowledge it at the least since you are responsible for your behaviour of using women like old socks. Instead you diminished it, didn't take it serious (from what I gather), and instead continued to push through with trying to get a date.
What do you expect?
Now you call her mental while you behaved like an a-hole, back then and now too.

I'd go back to the drawing board for sure and learn to treat women with more respect.

Precisely what Crystal said...!

Acknowledge it and do go back to the drawing board, no one likes to feel disposable. I heard someone say that pain is a time traveller. So, perhaps be a little more accountable in the present than blaming her and calling her names that are unkind.

So, a little introspection might help here. Beyond that "good luck and move on"

when I tried to continue with a date, I wouldnt have, yes I was being an ***, but her hitting on me for over a decade, and knew I had a gf at the time, & I never cheated while I was in relationship. then her saying not interested, just pissed me off.

I slept on it, and tried to remember, and still no memory of her at all, but I believe her. I am a different person now, but I do live by a code, "I can be your best friend or your worst enemy" & I live that 100% when she was pissed at me from that all those years, and started going off, yes I got defensive. but wiped my feet of her, and if had said would go out, i would have found excuse to not to, I would be fixing someones car, & trust me, I do body work, mechanic work, metal fab & welding for side money, & people hound me all the time, had 2 requests in last few days.

as for letting my past haunt me, yes it does, on death of street racers that died racing me, and one in particular, where I kept egging guy on, and he raced, lost control, he was winning, but he had wife and son with him, all 3 died, I see the kid waving at me every day, and have for many decades, that was also my last street race. I built engines for other racers, but I gave up that life. all racers that died, I never stopped just read about, all were "single car wrecks excessive speeed" where they drove above their abilities, and lost control. I never did 1/4 mile, I liked 5 miles to 10 miles 100% flat out racing on streets in my youth

That's not a code to live by, that's a dictatorship, an ultimatum. There's no kindness or care in that, only 'me me me me me'.
It's 'if you P me O you're going to have a problem!!" Very aggressive, a threat basically.
The woman dodged a bullet, that's clear.
Hope she realises that and will be able to move on from whatever happened.

And me being kind; there's friends, acquaintances, and people you just don't resonate with.
Nor reason to treat the last group as enemies. We're not at war. The mature way is a shrug, agreeing to disagree -even unspoken- and simply not engage with these people.
A lot healthier than going to battle with everyone.

if you dont like my code, so what, a person has to earn respect, so far only a very few have. I have lived as a Biker for 40 years, most people are here to use you! very few people want friendship, they only want what you can do for them, but not willing to help when you need it.

even with whats left of my family, my moms side I wiped my feet of that trash, however my dads side has been wonderful all my life.

1 of my best friends was killed in a car wreck, 35 year friendship, true friend, guess what, his wife and son doesnt have to worry about anything, I help with needs beyond what can imagine. the young man isnt like most, but I help him and teaching him skills. I plan to give him a pickup and he will be able to make money doing work for people as he gets older.my former friends wife still cant hardly believe my generosity, but she remembers hanging out as teenagers with her husband and me building cars, before she ever got married, and seen first hand I didnt allow his death to stop friendship, but took care of his family, and being a father figure to his son to some degree.

I am not like anyone here, I lived a life most cant or wouldnt believe, but I do live by code, if you needed anything, how many would help you? how many would crawl out of bed for any real need to help you? I have 2 people that will, anything, any time. will anyone else make it to be my friend? who knows, there was 3 more, but those died. that includes guy with car wreck.

if a person approaches me politely, they get polite back, if a person cusses me or is a jerk to me, they get that back. and as for stantement about me, me, me? yes your life is about YOU! and who you are willing to allow around your life! how many "friends" do you have that would stab you in the back if they had a chance? or turn against you? they are not friends, & you need to wash hands of them, a friend will never turn back EVER! nor will you to them ever, call me at 10pm, after I worked all day, needing me to help get car fixed for work the next day, I will be there, and car will be fixed if it can be fixed. or I will loan you a car. simple.

I can understand that's a different world with different ways of dealing with things.
Might make it tricky if wanting to date outside of that world.
In any case good luck.

Thank you, I know I am a hard case, but loyalty is beyond belief, but I expect the same. I am looking for a Lady that behaves like a Lady, that is looking for a Gentleman, I will not accept less than I want, and attitude & clean speaking are top priorities.

Thank you, I know I am a hard case, but loyalty is beyond belief, but I expect the same. I am looking for a Lady that behaves like a Lady, that is looking for a Gentleman, I will not accept less than I want, and attitude & clean speaking are top priorities.

Regardless of any feedback you may receive, I enjoy your stories.

Some people hold on to grudges forever. Maybe she was hurt. Maybe if you see her again just apologize.

I think that's a matter of being from the south, correct?

In Toronto, you'd be looking a long time. Lol My mom is like that so sweet, but from Nova Scotia. She swears at me sometimes... Well deserved I guess.. Lol

Like yesterday. She told me some guy her age was staring at her at the park, so she said "you like me or something"... He said " yes I'd like to take you for coffee sometime". She said "I'll take a double double", he pointed at my great niece who's 4 and said "next time". I said "mom she c@ck blocked you" omg I laughed way to hard she said "stop it". I'm still laughing at my 75 year old mom getting hit on.

As for life We want what we want. Just try to be a little more flexable if the right one comes around. Someone will love you for all your good traits. I want stability, loyality, among other things and my picker is off...I'll wait. I do know my worth, but if he said act like a lady, man I don't how? I'm a tomboy that raised 3 boys and a head strong tomboy that would put any men is his place. I love her so much, I wish I could be as confident as she is. She just doesn't just two fawks.

double post

I do too.

yep, and couldnt delete, so I guess up forever?

yes from the south, and bonus if they have a southern drawl. lol

as for tomboy, and lady, yes, best friend is, as a teenager she got a motorcycle instead of a car, 40 years ago, but she isnt interested, I did ask after ex left.

but speaking proper all times is a must, & yes I know life is frustrating and words slip, but I will never date someone that doesnt have a clean mouth and speaks foul, I work with too many of those types, I would never go home to listen to that. and as for putting a man in his place, my ex feared what I would do to any person trying to harm her, think CHIVALRY, but with a BIKER! someone that wont put up with crap! I need honor, caring, loving, giving, helping others that need help. with a kind and giving heart. non alcoholic, no drugs.

so yeah tall order, so I figure will be alone long time, I know women exist that meet this, but very rare! my ex was, my first wife was. my best friend is, and a few relatives that are, or was.

To be honest lonely guy .. wanting a “lady” and bragging about past conquests seems incongruent to me . Not sure what your motivation was to post about your interaction with this lady . Do you think this encounter would somehow endear you to other women ? I am not convinced . Attraction is fickle and the things your ego feels proud about may actually work against you .

not doing to brag, only showing part of a bad previous life, so much I do not even remember, I have not been but with 1 person in last 18+ years. so for close to 20 years not bad, and no cheating, but go close to 25 years, and never took any relationship serious,

the customer was very cute, we have talked pleasantly for over decade, I looked her up on facebook, i only knew first name, but found profile, was surprised by all her accomplishments. then told off on my past with her, we never made out, just a motorcycle ride, and it was my former "usual" ride, i asked where we rode, so yep, was my normal, was rare I broke pattern for ride, i guess I deserve it? but if cops knew my real past, I probably would go to jail forever.

as for this forum, not used any coins since that started, not planning to, I basically given up. 100% sick of the scammers, few local people, no interest, and 1 was a real jerk, so I chave 510 and not got todays 30 yet, but wont be spending them, dontt see anyone from here having anything to do with me anyway, I talk to 1 real person, it will only wind up as a friendship? too far away, and has life there. I also work 6 days a week, already had vacations, so I cant be traveling to meet unless very close on my day off. as I get better financially, ill try other site, cant really afford, as ex cleaned me out, and left me 2 months behind, on all bills, she just walked away not caught up yet. friend told me she posted few days ago she bought a vehicle, as she walked away, we had 6 vehicles, but all were in my name. she never wanted responsibility, or paying insurance, so she was on my policy,