Topic: How can we keep up through distance?
Alvin's photo
Fri 06/02/23 06:54 PM
What are the actions and steps we are to take to maintain a healthy and long lasting relationship Through a certain distance of communication.

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Fri 06/02/23 07:12 PM
Nothing.

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Fri 06/02/23 07:56 PM
Long distance is hard and rarely works out. But it can, if both people are really committed to making it work. What that looks like is different for everyone. For me, my partner and I video call on Zoom or Google Meets twice a day, in the morning and at night. We also watch movies and series together while we are on Zoom. We text a lot as well. Even though we are in different countries right now, we have regular visits. Both of us take turns traveling to see the other. Because of my work, I get a week off in October, 3 1/2 weeks off in December, 2 weeks off in Spring and 7 weeks off in the summer. We spend most of that time together. We sometimes travel on vacation together a well. He also visits me even when I'm working. This part can be tricky, because international flights are expensive, and 20+ hour journies are not fun. The jet lag is ROUGH, and it is always difficult to acclimate to an 10- or 11-hour time change (depending on daylight savings time). Although we can't be together for every holiday, we make sure we are together for Christmas and our birthdays. I also think you have to have an end game in the works. How will you end up together? Will one of you move to be with the other? If both partners are not equally committed, it will fizzle out. Physical touch is important in a relationship and it can be difficult not being able to reach out and touch your partner whenever you want. Make sure you're both all in before you do it. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!

Duttoneer's photo
Mon 06/05/23 12:51 AM

I have been on here a good while, and although it's not common place I have seen a few success stories here, where two people living very far apart are eventually together, so a long distance relationship can and does certainly work. Lots of good advice given above, I wish you every success in yours.

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Mon 06/05/23 02:34 AM
Hi Alvinwaving if you are serious about a relationship , my advice would be to make it a priority to meet in person as soon as possible and establish there is mutual chemistry . It is easy online to become attached to the idea of being in love but sadly such connections may not always translate to enduring love in the real world . Be sure of your connection before investing your heart :heart:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 06/05/23 03:53 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Mon 06/05/23 03:56 AM

Long distance is hard and rarely works out. But it can, if both people are really committed to making it work. What that looks like is different for everyone. For me, my partner and I video call on Zoom or Google Meets twice a day, in the morning and at night. We also watch movies and series together while we are on Zoom. We text a lot as well. Even though we are in different countries right now, we have regular visits. Both of us take turns traveling to see the other. Because of my work, I get a week off in October, 3 1/2 weeks off in December, 2 weeks off in Spring and 7 weeks off in the summer. We spend most of that time together. We sometimes travel on vacation together a well. He also visits me even when I'm working. This part can be tricky, because international flights are expensive, and 20+ hour journies are not fun. The jet lag is ROUGH, and it is always difficult to acclimate to an 10- or 11-hour time change (depending on daylight savings time). Although we can't be together for every holiday, we make sure we are together for Christmas and our birthdays. I also think you have to have an end game in the works. How will you end up together? Will one of you move to be with the other? If both partners are not equally committed, it will fizzle out. Physical touch is important in a relationship and it can be difficult not being able to reach out and touch your partner whenever you want. Make sure you're both all in before you do it. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!

You two are certainly doing a great job!
And what you said that I feel is extremely important: you need to have an end game in the works.
It's impossible to keep the long distance going without that. Knowing you're working towards the agreed end game will do the trick. I think it's imperative to know and feel it's not an endless long distance to-do.

Nothing but respect for you two for how you make it work!