Nothing wrong with being nice, but don't be a doormat, wimp, or anything like that.

Women do like to know that a man can kick some ass IF he NEEDS to, if you're too nice to kick some ass, then you're probably "too nice".

very true. there are women out there who want a nice guy and they are very hard to come by. we just want a guy who romances us but can kick the other guy's ass if necessary

Are those really the type of guys you want to be dating then?

actually i like how you say your nice cause i think by looks you seem like you might be mean lol

but im glad your sweet

Someone else had started a similar thread but it got hijacked by some illiterate who made fun of my picture.

keep this woman as a close friend. she is one of the most honest women you will ever know.

http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/56322

Well there is nice and then there's being a push-over or a doormat...that gets old and there's no challenge. At least the lady was honest, gotta give her that.

It is much better to be to nice than the opposite.
I do agree with some of the posts here, however. You cannot let people walk all over you. Maybe that was HER problem. If she was nice...she would not have left.

To me the "nice" comment, is a polite way of saying; it just doesn't work for her. I wouldn't worry about it. Be yourself & be nice.

A litte bit of bad makes a guy interesting. Someone that is nice all the time is boring. I'm not looking for a raging madman, but I like a guy with a little kick, some sarcasm, and a bit of an edge. You can still be a good man and be a bad boy sometimes. The other thing is that someone who is nice all thetime seems fake or like they are putting up a front. Either that, or like a robot with no emotions. I'm not saying you should turn into an asshole, but some women like a little adventure and don't want someone that is too predictable and safe.

that's pretty much it.

honestly, i think there's some deep rooted submissive/dominance thing inside their brains or something. not in all, but it seems like some just need it to survive.


funny how everyone here is nice(cept one). cmon now, there's not a single butthead here? meh, i'm nice but not completely. that being said, i'm still too nice for many. life goes on

Ha.

It's much better for the girl if the guy is too nice than if he is a complete asshole.

Why? A guy who acts like an asshole is more sexually attractive to her than a "nice guy," and she doesn't like the fact that she's drawn toward a negative influence.

It's "better" for a guy to be an asshole than a to be a nice guy if he just wants sex...that elusive connection that nice guys almost never experience...

...but forget these polar opposites. Screw the extremes. Don't be a doormat and don't be a douche. Instead, find balance. Being a "nice guy" is just as bad as being an asshole. From the female perspective, she invests no feelings of attachment to the nice guy so it seems like its better for him to be "nice" ...when in reality both of those extremes are self-destructive to the male, where the "nice guy" doesn't get what he wants while the asshole does.

What passiespel said is an example of a tiny piece of social programming designed to bring down innate male aspirations (having sexual opportunity) by promoting that which can never be potentially sexually attractive behavior, which gives women the illusion of choice... when in reality its just degrading masculinity and therefore ultimately lowering society's propensity for sex. Yeah, that kinda pisses me off.

Women who tend to promote "nice guy" behavior are unfortunately oftentimes victims of past abuse - whether it be physical or emotional - from "assholes" they have been sexually involved with. However, that's no excuse. By trying to promote nice guy behavior, they're just trying to control men for their own percieved benefit. Don't yall know that the harder you try to control something outside of yourself, the more it shall resist and the bigger of a problem it shall become? The harder you try to grip something, the more likely it will fly out of your hand to make a mess.

All the women out there who promote the behavior of the "nice guy" should do both men and women a favor by promoting the behavior of a happy medium. What is this happy medium? It is a man who respects others because he truly knows how to respect himself.

The "nice guy" is under the illusion that he only respects others but he doesn't really... because he doesn't respect himself. The "asshole" is under the illusion that he only respects himself but he doesn't really... because he doesn't respect others. Why not have a taste of the best of both worlds? Something that attempts to exist without combining with its opposite element fails to exist with stability... or fails to exist at all. A coin without its two opposite sides cannot be a coin.

I'm just ranting, by the way. I didn't sleep last night. BUT I STAND BY WHAT I HAVE SAID.

It's all good. I have seen it work that way also.
People get all confusing en chaotic that way. I am in to simple...out there kind of just be yourself life! I appreciate those who can handle that en do the same.

Well i don't think you should let people take advantage of you but I love guys who know how to be a gentleman. I think that is a lost art. There are a rare few guys out there that know how to treat a woman like a lady. After you get to know the other person well what goes on behind closed doors is up to the two of you. Be yourself. If someone doesn't like you for that then they're not the right person to try to establish a relationship with. Good luck to you.

I'm too much of a nice girl too.

I HAVE BEEN TOLD I WAS TO NICE, by many. (Just look at my main picture.) IT IS A GIFT -- TO BE NICE. The ladies I want to date are ones who enjoy being treated NICE. P.S. CAN YOU GUESS HOW MANY PEOPLE just do not want to be treated nice?

ugh.

ladies, LOOK AT HOW MEN DEFINE "NICE" AND REALIZE... that it's not the true definition. and stop telling men to be "nice guys."

It's nothing short of prostitution.

Men are brainwashed into thinking that they have to be nice by sacrificing resources by giving gifts to women in exchange for EMOTIONS.

Can your true feelings be BOUGHT? No! You can buy that simulation and stimulation off the street from a hooker.

To attract real women, be a real man.

I have been told nice guys come in last and you know I belive that now days after all woman dont want a nice guy thay want some one whos a ass hole thay like truble are well as we all no woman are after looks and mony thay all say thay want a nice guy but its all lies

Depending on the situation, the people involved and their individual perceptions I can range from a kind and giving person to a complete turd. Sometimes in the same moment! I’ve been accused of being too kind as well as absolutely utterly selfish… Sometimes by the same individual! Does that actually give you much of a clue as to my over all character? Probably not. Are they right or wrong? Nope… it is a perception. Does it hurt me to hear these things? Not really.. So long as I am being true to myself.
Sometimes life can demand some selfishness. Not only to save me from damage. but because often enough.. being kind and giving just is not an appropriate response to the situation at hand for anyone involved. In other words.. My being kind is enabling someone else’s bad or self sabotaging behavior. If it is somebody I respect and care for, I’m certainly not demonstrating it by giving them permission to self destruct or hurt others.

This is the problem I see with these threads. I have met very few single dimensional people in my life.. and this topic is talking about life in one dimension.

Guy’s… If you are really living life like that.. Either just nice or just evil… You pretty much deserve whatever you get. You are not being responsible to yourselves or what you care for. Actually you are just really trying to control and fool the world around you. Which really? Is not all that nice.

im a very nice woman i have a big heart love to find a man with the same and who loves to laugh and have a goodtime