i am a young mother with a beautiful little boy he is a 1 1/2 year old we are goin through a rollar coaster with is father... his father and i were together for 2 years and he was with me up until a day before i went into labor and never showed up...now he came back and expects me to have a happy family..
i don't know if i can trust him or not

if he's done it once, chances are he'll do it again. Humans are creatures of habit.

maybe he wasnt ready and was to scared to be a father i know i would be at that age

agreed

He's the lad's father, and likely young like you. Give him another chance, and cut him some slack.

lol,no!kick his ass to the curb.

If he's willin to admit he's wrong then yeah give him a second chance but be on your toes.

So he disappeared for a year and a half and now he wants to see his child? Did you hear from him at all during that time?

I'll admit that at 18 I wasn't ready to be a father, but if he really left you and you never heard from him for over a year, then it might be best to find someone who can really be there for you.

Tough call...

dang. Thats a tough one. This will take some pondering.

Your feelings aside, what do you think is best for your son?

A very good point!

your both young and have some growing up to do! especially him, give it 2 yrs and see where your at. as long as hes not physically abusive to you give it a shot. 18 yr old boys don't want any responsibility and they sure as hell don't wanna play house so give it time and him time to grow up some.

give him another chance

Welcome I hope you have a great time and find what you are looking for.


Just an observation here, if your first post ever is more about your X or the “father” than yourself perhaps a “Dating site” is not for you right now. Just a thought.

There are a lot of cool people here. Me not being one of them so maybe you will make some good friends and of courser I hope you do find Mr. Wonderful….

Peace

keep in ind when I post my advise, that this is coming from someone who'e children's mother ran away, abandoning them, and has been in and out oftheir lives for the last three years.

I have done eveyrhting I could to assist their mother in being with them (supervised of course), to include letting her move in on a trial basis, more than once, only to be burned agai and again.

But this is a specific case. Yours is a specific case in its own right, as is everyone elses. You NEED to do everything yuo can to keep the father in your sons life. I do not mean take abuse and neglect and let him come and go as he pleases. If he does that then toss him over a cliff (and I mean that literally). However, give him that second chance to be the father ths little boy needs. It does not mean you have to be with the father. It does not mean yo ueven have to like the guy. However, your son has the right to a fair chance atknowing his father. And the father has the right at a fair chance of knowinghis son.
And remember we are all human and make mistakes. Some people are meant to be parents and others aren't. But htere isnothing wrong in giving a second chance (as long as violence was not involved in the first one).

You need to take it slowly and carefully. Whats the rush? Your young. Take time to weigh your options.

Life is Just. Just live it if he wants you back give him a second chance. His human and so are you. Thats the least anyone in this small world deserves is a second chance. No more no less.

Well thats my two cents... Take it or leave it.

Come on Ron, you know JSH isnt just a dating site!!! lmao. It is a full community. Come on in and enjoy yourself hun. Make yourself at home, and dont let Ron chase you away

And he is right, don't let me chase you away but do be aware and take your time.

Peace