ok here's the deal...its gonna be a long one here. i dont usually post my personal issues on here. but ive so many wonderful friends here....here goes...

i have been thinking of renting a room out in my house. i placed an ad a while back. a man answered the ad quite some time ago. he is from ohio. he wanted to relocate here to the area. he is an educated man and i checked him out. over the course of a period of time we talked alot. during our talks, things got more onto a personal level about friends, family, likes, dislikes, etc.... we found that we are so much alike it is scary. we then started chatting online via web cam and exchanged pics....WOW is all i can say WOW WOW WOW....this guy is HOT!

now, i am me. i dont pretend to be something im not and im very outspoken. even my profile here states what i am.

our conversations have turned into more than a "friendship/tenant" thing. he has made it clear that getting to know me over the course of time that his intentions have changed. i keep telling him that we need to keep it as friends and that let nature take its course. cam/pics are different than real life. i live in the real world. this guy is one that could have the 18 yr old barbie on his arm, no problem! i am what i am. im an overweight, middle aged woman. it is what it is. i dont not love myself. i love who and what i am, but again, i live in the real world. ive been honest and upfront with him about what i weight, etc... he says nothing to him matters. its me that interests him. looks can be changed but only if i want to change them not for him. ok...this guy has game...hahaha...i always say, when its too good to be true, it is!

anyways....he is to be here this coming tues/wed to move in. to the spare room of course, but i am nervous as hell!!! i too have really become "close" as far is it can be with him and do not want anymore disappointments in my life. ive tried to keep distance stating that we already know we are friends, lets leave it at that and see what happens, but he insists that he feels strongly about more than that. i dont know.... i hope ive explained well enough for some advice on the matter

sista's help me out here xoxoxoxoxo

All you can do is see what happens........relax.......be friends first!

It will be impossible to tell anything until he actually moves in and then it could go REALLY good or REALLY bad!! I will be praying for good for you!

yeh take your time hun..and be careful

Keep a knife under your matress and not somewhere that be seen easy(out n the open) just in case

You know K I talked to you about this on the phone. I think I would call and say I have found a woman roomate.....that it works better for me...I don't need complications in my life right now. But If your determined to let him come.......then just be careful....If he gets anymore controlling I think its a big huge red flag.........E-mail me his pic...I will do a read on him.....giggle.....

In all reality, some people are gonna say i'm shallow here but w/e i just call it how i see it,

*quote* im an overweight, middle aged woman. it is what it is. i dont not love myselfi live in the real world. this guy is one that could have the 18 yr old barbie on his arm

If he could why wouldn't he ? seems sketchy seems like one those cases i'll use her for what i can,

Controling??? Noway!! Don't let him in your house....you know better Chica!!

Like everyone says...be careful. I do hope all turns out well. Make sure he abides by your standards and not his own. Keep us posted.

Hmmmm



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Let me think on this some more and I will email.

PS
The BIG WHEEL IS OFF LIMITS TO HIM!!!!
VRRRRRRRRROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

we talked abotu the control issue and that im not havnig it. he was good. he didnt realize what he was doing i guess. he said that whatever i choose is ok with him. it me that he wants. he's been extremely apologetic. i really do like him...he's already in route here as of yesterday morning...

lmao i dont share the big wheel!

SUNSHINE ~ JMO ~ BUT HOPE IT HELPS
1 - there is absolutely nothing wrong w/u at all... so why doubt that he can feel for you???
2 - I truly think money is the root/major cause of problems between people; so I would just either become tenant/landlord or boyfriend/girlfriend not mix both.
3 - I truly hope you did an extensive background check (while I am an optimist) I am also a realist...

Kitt!!


First of all... take a deep breath...in thru the nose and out thru the mouth....ok do it with me... IN........OUT........ feel better??


Second...its gonna be okay!! move him into the SPARE room and lay down the RULES of the HOUSE. You can do this, you're a strong woman!!

third... keep talkin to him like you have been...and see where it goes...dont wanna cross that line and then things really change for the worse.. you'd be out a roomie then


fourth... send deb the pic so she can read him!!!



YA YA!!


xoxoxox

i dont call it shallow. as i said i live in the real world and my point exactly....why not have it if you can? he says that if he wanted 18yr old barbie thats what he'd be seeking but its not what he wants at this point in his life, he is lookin for stability. i dont know....im a very skeptical person especially when it comes to ME!

MsFeralCat ~
You got that tug as well??????

oh ruthie, you kill me...i started breathing!!! yeahhhhh lol

YA~YAAAA!!!!

Madam, boy, that's a tough one. Would it be possible for him to live somewhere else? I don't know, if it were me, that I'd want to be living with someone, having these feelings, right away. Too much pressure on you and any potential relationship. And, if things aren't right for whatever reason, then what? Something just seems a little off-kilter to me on this one, but can't really pinpoint it. But, I'm also thinking, if you're questioning it, something's not feeling quite right to you either and I'd go with your instincts.

Sending positive vibes and thoughts your way, my sisterfriend!

Your to funny chica ruthie.....I need to e-mail you too...lol