Topic: I miss my Applesauce
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Mon 02/04/08 05:47 PM
Edited by calovebuggie on Mon 02/04/08 05:49 PM
Okay- so crazy me met a guy- I know, strange. And I really liked him- I could feel myself falling head over heals in love and he supposedly felt the same (or so he said). We met and to make it short-- we got really close really fast- too fast I am sure but we got wrapped up in it all and I felt fireworks and those butterflies in my stomach.

So, I am not one to open my heart easily and I try not to get too close to people but I did to him- it felt right and he made it clear that he was in it to stay and I jumped in feet first without any worry of falling.

But then I get the call- and he makes excuse after excuse and his friends said this and his dad said that about me-- excuses of what I don't even really know- I could barely hear through a bad reception on our phones and I got defensive and hung up- bottom line: he doesn't want to see me anymore.

I don't know what I did wrong. And I feel so utterly stupid for believing in someone. I let myself think for just one brief moment that someone as amazing as him would care about me. And I was left feeling alone, used, and broken.

What's the point of it all? I mean, The J. Geils Band really knew their stuff--- Love Stinks. We always want what we can't have. There is no point to the madness. And I will never know what I did wrong...


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Mon 02/04/08 05:49 PM

Okay- so crazy me met a guy- I know, strange. And I really liked him- I could see myself falling head over heals in love. We met and to make it short-- we got really close really fast- too fast I am sure but we got wrapped up in it all and I felt fireworks and those butterflies in my stomach.

So, I am not one to open my heart easily and I try not to get too close to people but I did to him- it felt right and he made it clear that he was in it to stay and I jumped in feet first without any worry of falling.

But then I get the call- and he makes excuse after excuse of what I don't even really know- I could barely hear through our phones and I got defensive and hung up- bottom line: he doesn't want to see me anymore. I don't know what I did wrong. And I feel so utterly stupid for believing in someone. I let myself think for just one brief moment that someone as amazing as him would care about me. And I was left feeling alone, used and broken.

What's the point of it all? I mean, The J. Geils Band really knew their stuff--- Love Stinks. We always want what we can't have. There is no point to the madness. And I will never know what I did wrong...



honey ive felt like this for about three months.
maybe it wasent your fault.

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Mon 02/04/08 05:52 PM
You know, I know how you feel and only time can really help you feel better. Just try to think things like he doesn't deserve you...your to good for him...etc...

Because in all actually you are to good for him! People should not lead people on, but sometimes they do, just be happy you found out early on. You will find someone much better you just don't know it now. flowerforyou

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Mon 02/04/08 05:52 PM
Edited by MsTeddyBear2u on Mon 02/04/08 05:53 PM
You did'nt do anything wrong by the sounds of it.
Hes missing out on getting to know love...
Sorry this happened to you.
Keep fishing girl- take it slow next time! flowerforyou

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Mon 02/04/08 05:53 PM
Sweetheart i doubt you did anything wrong.. and that's a horrible feeling i know but it does eventually waver.. it'll take time but you'll be back in the boat getting ready to fish for some new men.. just give it time and hang out with friends alot to distract yourself and stay as happy as possible. =]

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Mon 02/04/08 05:54 PM
Don't let it get you down :)

Think of it as his loss, since he couldn't even tell you what bothered him, you deserve better.

flowerforyou

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Mon 02/04/08 05:56 PM
It's his loss really. I think it's so hard not to fall fast and hard when you think you've found "the one". I am 100% honest and upfront and sometimes that is to my detriment. But I wouldn't be any other way. Easy to say, not so hard to do...but, pick yourself up, brush yourself off and realize that not everyone is as nice as you are! Keep looking "HE" is out there somewhere, just waiting for you to find him!!

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Mon 02/04/08 06:02 PM
First, want to say sorry you had to experience such a thing. flowerforyou

I understand this "catch 22" hell bound situation that screws everything up for anyone looking for a good person and good relationship.

But what I don't understand is why people make it so damn hard to FIX!???

Just like in this situation, you have been hurt yet again in your life...so you still hope and go on to the next guy to see what happens. But when things go bad time after time, many can get jaded, put up too many walls and over protect.

By then, the GENUINE ARTICLE can come into thier life, but they push them away with those walls and suspicions, so then they miss out on what could have been so wonderful.

What a tragic situation we can create for ourselves due to the bad actions of others.

I wish you better luck in finding the man you are looking for. flowerforyou

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Tue 02/05/08 07:04 AM
Oh honey- you are too good for him- you know that. A LITTLE boy only runs to his friends and his daddy when there is a problem, a real man would have come to you and communicated. We have all been hurt and at the first sign of distress he ran instead of putting his faith in you and trusting in your loving nature. You dodged a bullet with this one-- if he is going to leave so fast now imagine how fast he would run if there was ever a real issue. flowerforyou :heart:

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Tue 02/05/08 04:21 PM
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!! to all those that had kind words for me. He is still on the site and still meeting others so I guess it is time I pick myself up off the floor and get over it. It doesn't stop the pain but me hurting and me putting my walls up so high doesn't effect him at all, right? :-) Thanks!!! :smile:

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Tue 02/05/08 04:22 PM

Okay- so crazy me met a guy- I know, strange. And I really liked him- I could feel myself falling head over heals in love and he supposedly felt the same (or so he said). We met and to make it short-- we got really close really fast- too fast I am sure but we got wrapped up in it all and I felt fireworks and those butterflies in my stomach.

So, I am not one to open my heart easily and I try not to get too close to people but I did to him- it felt right and he made it clear that he was in it to stay and I jumped in feet first without any worry of falling.

But then I get the call- and he makes excuse after excuse and his friends said this and his dad said that about me-- excuses of what I don't even really know- I could barely hear through a bad reception on our phones and I got defensive and hung up- bottom line: he doesn't want to see me anymore.

I don't know what I did wrong. And I feel so utterly stupid for believing in someone. I let myself think for just one brief moment that someone as amazing as him would care about me. And I was left feeling alone, used, and broken.

What's the point of it all? I mean, The J. Geils Band really knew their stuff--- Love Stinks. We always want what we can't have. There is no point to the madness. And I will never know what I did wrong...




eeek!

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Tue 02/05/08 04:22 PM
I am so disappointed this was not about food.

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Tue 02/05/08 04:27 PM
OK, I'll say it. People tend to rush into things before they have a chance to really get to know someone and decide if this is THE person for them. I know it's difficult to fight those feelings of lust and infatuation but the saying "fools rush in" didn't come about for no reason.