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Topic: 19 year old lazy child!!!!!
checkinout42's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:35 PM
I am sick of yelling at him to find a job. He has responsibilities, he got a loan for a truck so has pick up payment and insurance coming due. He won't look for a job. Said no one will hire him, has no experience. He has no self confidence at all. He worked when he was in high school. But now he just??? mad I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIM! explode Says all I do is nag nag nag.....

gdr441's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:36 PM
threaten to kick him out of ur house, thats what parents do lol, ur the boss now show him who runs things

polaritybear's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:37 PM
Sounds like hes on the drugs. Reminds me of my last roomate.

Derekkye's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:37 PM

I am sick of yelling at him to find a job. He has responsibilities, he got a loan for a truck so has pick up payment and insurance coming due. He won't look for a job. Said no one will hire him, has no experience. He has no self confidence at all. He worked when he was in high school. But now he just??? mad I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIM! explode Says all I do is nag nag nag.....

You could pretty much right off this generation. I share your frustrations.

livelife68's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:37 PM
do what my father did with me. WORK OR GET OUT!

Gumbyvs's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:37 PM
Bullet to the back of the head will work wonders. But if you don't want to get the harsh, let them repo the truck and strand him at home. Nothing worse to a 19 than not being able to go out whenever you please.

no photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:38 PM
Does he go to school or anything?? Maybe it is time for him to spread his wings and learn what responsibilities are.

pre3bllr's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:39 PM
take him down to the Mrine Corps recruiter

checkinout42's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:39 PM
As far as I know it's just cigarettes and chew. I think having a a**, alcoholic, drug using father made him not want to be like him as far as that goes.

itsmetina's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:40 PM
look up a goverment place that helps with job search make him go

checkinout42's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:41 PM
I tried the military route with him, he says he does not want to go to IRAQ. (Don't really blame him there). He graduated from Job Corps in November and has been kinda loafing since then.

gdr441's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:41 PM
chewing tobacco thats nasty as hell, ewwww no way would i ever d tht shti lol, just kick him out of ur house legally u only have to take care of him till hes 18 so

polaritybear's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:46 PM
Its strange to have such a lack of motivation at 19, maybe theres something happening in his life that you dont know about, but who knows. I blame Mtv, that crap ruins kids.

checkinout42's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:46 PM
If it wasn't winter here, I would give him a tent, sleeping bag and show him the door!

itsmetina's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:47 PM
Edited by itsmetina on Sun 02/10/08 05:48 PM
download some applications make life at home hell wheres he getting money for cigs and chew

Totage's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:48 PM

I am sick of yelling at him to find a job. He has responsibilities, he got a loan for a truck so has pick up payment and insurance coming due. He won't look for a job. Said no one will hire him, has no experience. He has no self confidence at all. He worked when he was in high school. But now he just??? mad I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HIM! explode Says all I do is nag nag nag.....


Keep nagging him. Nag him about every little thing until he gets tired of it and finds a job to move out.

Don't help him pay his bills, tell him to figure out how he's going to pay them with no money.

checkinout42's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:51 PM
He had a final check from Job Corps, he has enough $ to make this months insurance payment then he is broke again. He has always been kinda shy, but he seemed to be more outgoing in high school and he absolutely hated job corps but I made him stay and finish a welding program. Which he now has no desire to do. I thought I raised him to be more responsible than this. Being a single parent really sucks sometimes.

wilkit's photo
Sun 02/10/08 05:56 PM
I have always told my boys that as long as they are in school/college I will support them. If they are not they will get a job and contribute to the house or they will get out. IMO it is time to put your foot down and tell him to get a job or get out. Anyone can find a job even if it's just a fast food joint.

Who ever said that this generation is a write off I strongly disagree. Yes there are many that are so indulged by their parents that all they want is a hand out. However there are many who are not like that, my three and others I know fitting into that category

Good luck!

itsmetina's photo
Sun 02/10/08 06:01 PM
Edited by itsmetina on Sun 02/10/08 06:02 PM
wake his but up 2morrow give him a pop tart and tell him leave for the day come back with applications do this every day on wkend have a list of chores for him

oldsage's photo
Sun 02/10/08 07:49 PM
Send him on an errand & CHANGE THE LOCKS.
Put his stuff on the street.
TOUGH LOVE.
Either take action or live with the results.

INTENTION = RESULTS

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