My wife and i separated a year ago. Over the year we've been seeing eachother off and on. We have a 4 year old together. I cheated on her. i confessed. we cried a lot throughout the year, just recently, she finally slept with someone else, then turned around and slept with me again. we still go out, hug, kiss hold hands, talk and i really really think about her all the time. i can't let go. she sort of has me on hold, and i can't really break free...what does it take to move on and quit with the heartwrenching pain of wondering what she's doing, and who's she's with?

# 1- Stop sleeping with her or you will never move on.

why dont you get back together and see if you can work it out? Especially since you have a young child. I separated from my ex when my son was very young and for his sake now I wish I hadnt been so selfish and had at least given it a real try with his father.
Maybe it would have worked out maybe not, but my son was worth more than the lame effort we both gave the marriage.
Just my opinion...

you guys have a past together. And unfortunately after the relationship is over, we tend to remember more of the good than the bad. It's called Nostalgia. What I would suggest to you is: make a clean cut. Don't call her, don't see her for a while. Otherwise you will never move on.

Good Luck!

Love is very confusing when things are good between 2 people, but if you really love her and you think she still loves you then start working towards renewing the relationship slowly. But if not then don't make it hard on you or her by sleeping together.

It is not easy to walk away from somebody that you have children and a history with. If you can have a healthy relationship than you should try to work it out, if not then you should keep it to co~parenting only and cut out all of the extra curricular activities.....JMO

First thing I can say is 'Ha!'...you are getting what you deserve...let this be a lesson to anyone that cheats....it will turn around and bite you on the a$$....now she's got you *****whpped...lol....

if you really want to move on then you have to stop seeing her & only communcate with her when its related to your child...you need to move forward and stop living in the past....start by working on yourself(this should take a long time)...get in touch with who you are as a person and make some plans for yourself that does not include your Ex....do these things if you are really serious about moving on...and if you choose to stay in the past, you'll continue to feel 'heartwrenched'...

wish you well

it sounds like shes toying with you now.
i will suggest for a while trying to keep the
relationship more about your child.
i think if you remove the focus from the two of you,
you might get a better idea of where you stand,
when that attention is not there.

if it was up to me, i wouldn't hesitate. but, she has a lot of doubts in regards to trusting me.

If either one of you has to wonder what the other is doing or who they are with, it is time to figure out why there is no trust in the relationship.

We may think it will help to seek out knowledge that has been kept from us - to be detectives. What we end up realizing most often, though, is that we feel worse after we try it....or even discover something harmful. I'm not saying it is best not to know. Hell no! However, trust is the real issue here. Whether that is trust in yourself, in the other, or in the relationship.

Why make yourself sick? Sure, it is easy for some to say, if you have any reason to doubt, kick them to the curb. If you have any reason to investigate surreptitiously, it means you already know they can't be trusted, so leave them. Lots of folks feel this way.

Does the reason for the deception or sneakiness on your part or theirs matter? Or is that deceptiveness or sneakiness reason enough to terminate your association with each other?

People lie and keep secrets for all sorts of reasons. Whether these are white lies or otherwise. People lie to themselves, too. The reasons for being false are as many as the individuals out there who engage in it. It is not always because of a need to have a secret, to get over on someone, because they need novelty, because of low self-esteem, lack of self-control, spite towards their partner, or unmet needs. It is not always because of poor communication or bad sex in the relationship, either.

True, not everyone is like that. How many of you have met someone like that who remained that way over the course of a life-time?

Now, think about it....

Is there a basic issue between the both of you that needs to be brought to light, worked through (even if painfully), and hopefully resolved? Or, is one or both of you lacking in honesty, loyalty, and personal integrity? Hopefully it is the first option, or I do not see much hope for this relationship or any other that the offending party (or parties) seeks to enter into. Fix the relationship and/or fix yourselves. If you can't, do yourselves a kindness and cut your losses and run like hell - now.

Move out of the country........it worked for me!!!

its not a good solution.
hmm...

Ahh, A stalker is born!! Hang in there bro....

Angledarkness...you're better than Dr. Phil....you should have your own show....

If you start living for the Lord it might be helpful. See a book called The Purpose Filled Life. Stop sleeping together and basing your relationship with your ex and your kid on biblical principals will give you a good start to straightening things out. God Bless You and good luck to you.

Revise that last sentence. Make that:

Stop sleeping together and start basing your relationship with your ex and your kid on biblical principals. That will give you a good start to straightening things out. God Bless You and good luck to you.

Just say to Michael, "she's back".

Well you are never really going to have a physical seperation from her because of your child. But you can work on the emotional sepearation from her as long as it doesnt hinder the child in any sort of way.

Miss know it all is back

She knows this, that and everything

Only if it pleases You, Michael.