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Topic: break up via email
DMACKD83's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:03 AM
Edited by DMACKD83 on Fri 03/28/08 06:11 AM
what do you do when something like this happens to you. i was floored and still am. i really do not know what to do.



On a serious note
Body:
Ok, I really don't know how to write this email. You are the most wonderful person I have met in a really long long time. I knew when I met you that if this relationship doesn't work out, it's because of my issues and I am not meant to be in one. I want to be fair and honest with you so that's why I'm writing you now. To say things I have trouble verbalizing.

When I said I loved you, I truly meant it. And I feel like I need to be honest with you about some other things. I don't know why I have trouble with relationships. Sometimes I think I have been alone too long and I will never be able to let someone into my life again on a permanent basis. Sometimes I think I am having trust issues based on my past couple of years.

When I get involved with someone I care about, I feel bad right away because I know the odds are that I will end up hurting him. But I have been holding out hope that when I meet the right person, I will be able to do it. The problem is, I have met the right person, you, and I still can't do it. And I have no idea why or what is wrong with me.

In a lot of ways I feel like you don't even really know me and I feel like I barely know you. I think part of it is that I miss the freedom of being alone. My family adored you as I knew they would (what's not to love) and I can't believe I'm doing this. I'm so disappointed with myself.

There's more too. I go to see a therapist since my accident. That is where I went this morning and I didn't want to tell you. But she told me I should not be dating right now. That I need to work some things out before I can try to have a healthy relationship. She told me I need to break it off with you. That it is best for both of us.

I know you will probably hate me after you read this and I am SO sorry. I have some of your things and I need to give you the ring back too. I can put them in a bag on my front porch if you want to pick it up. Just let me know when.

I guess I don't really expect you to understand. I'm ridiculously complicated under the surface and I'm trying to work all that out but at this point, this is for the best.

The nicest thing you can do for me is to not try to talk me out of my decision because I won't change my mind and that will just make it all the harder.

Dave, please believe me when I say I'm sorry. I would never ever hurt you on purpose.




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no photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:04 AM
Ouch

Issues - Yeah

itsmetina's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:06 AM
could be worse

no photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:07 AM
I know we all hate to hear it, or READ IT.... But, like she said, it's NOT YOU!!!!!!!! flowerforyou

no photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:08 AM
I would tell them that if they truly felt that way...they would tell you in person. Not over an e-mail where you can hide your true emotions.

mommyof1's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:08 AM
been there, dealt with that!


It sucks!! the pain involved with a break up via email...how heartless can one person be?? Especially if you're talkin on the phone!


anyway...best thing I can tell you is...give her time, didnt really sound like she was saying goodbye to me

no photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:08 AM
You never said how you feel about her

Did you (do you) love her as well???

JaceKnows's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:09 AM
What other things was she "honest with you" about?

I'd say you probably dodged a major bullet somewhere down the road, and whether rightly or wrongly, she saved you a lot of heartache and trouble. . .

Jack_5150's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:10 AM
Personally, I have no problem with the email. Some people will never say what they truly feel in person and will sugar coat things so if it is easier for me to get the truth via email, I'm fine with that. That said, it sucks and I feel for you bro. Hang in there!

wanttachat's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:11 AM
I would rather be broken up with then lied to

unsure's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:13 AM
If she has to break up with you in an email then she has problems with communication....communication is a big part of a relationship!! I would just move on! Obviously she can't care to much or she would have came and talked to you face to face and maybe you both could have worked something out!!
Good luck flowerforyou

brooke007's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:15 AM
IF i got that i would RUN to anything..

she cares to explain herself, but

those DAMN issues!!

forget it...
get sneakers??
beer??

no photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:18 AM
Hey

He added more

Okay

Lemme read it agin

DebbieJT's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:18 AM
sounds like you had a lucky break to me hun

krazykitty323's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:19 AM
the issue is with her. Just pick up and move on. I know that easier said then done, but you are better off without her

mommyof1's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:19 AM
WOW! you added more to it



I'm sorry that happend to you, sounds like you get a second chance to find happiness.

JaceKnows's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:21 AM
Ouch. Now that I read the whole thing after you posted the rest of it, there's, well, a lot she said.

Dude, that really, REALLY sucks. You gotta let this one go, though. She obviously is going to listen to her therapist (!) above anyone else.

Best of luck!

drinker drinker drinker

DMACKD83's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:21 AM
yep i love her and its hard to shut that out on a dime but it is what it is and it sucks. its just not knowing that REALLY BOTHERS ME ALOT.
explode
its kinda embarrising truth be told blushing blushing

LightVoice's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:22 AM
(((((( David )))))))

While an email is not an ideal way to have a conversation, I can understand that she chose to write it all out... many folks find it easier to express themselves that way. And based on the things written, I think she is doing the right thing by you.. she is obviously NOT in an emotional state to be in a romantic relationship.

extra hugs & blessings,
Light :heart:

RJR1's photo
Fri 03/28/08 06:23 AM
The issue is with her. She needs to heal before she can give her whole self to someone. Better you found that out now.

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