Topic: Is flirting on a dating site cheating?
Winx's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:35 AM



If you are seeing someone and you find out that person is carrying on an online flirting relationship with some other person 500 miles away is that cheating? If your dating partner doesnt get sexual but just keeps the flirting to the forums does that make a difference in whether or not its cheating? If cows could fly would you have to scrape cottage cheese off your car after parking under a tree?

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All right Im going to add more to this op question.
I travel a lot and I have a couple of boyfriends that are far away. We met in person while I was traveling not on a dating site. I am curious if I flirt with guys on mingle forums if my boyfriends might get offended. Should I tell them I an here? I am afraid they would make an account and start drama. Is online forum flirting even real?


Flirting with anyone when the first party thinks you are in a relationship is wrong. You not only hurt everyone involved by breaking their confidence in themselves, their trust in you,
and your credibility as being an honorable person you are betraying your self respect. Don't expect to end up with a good mate if you can not BE a good mate.

Do I think talking in forums on a date site is flirting? Depends what you say and how you say it. I do think it puts the burden on you to prove that is is only fellowship and not flirting.

I am not sure I would mess up something promising by just proveing you can get attention.

They are not serious relationships you have to read the follow up post to see me saying that. The men know that I see other guys and they knew it when I started the relationships. What they didnt know was that I was going to get online.


No disrespect but ...sheesh..how many are there?!

OrangeCat's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:35 AM
every one has there own thing

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Thu 11/27/08 12:36 AM
(two up) Two

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:37 AM
flowerforyou You have such a pretty smile Stacybigsmile

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Thu 11/27/08 12:40 AM
I don't think flirting online counts as cheating.

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Thu 11/27/08 12:40 AM
I am really surprised that a dating forum has so many closed minded people. None of you ever heard of a young woman dating 2 or 3 men at once? I bet you hear the men bragging all the time about dating many women. Men are studs but women are what orange cat edited out of his post a moment ago. I think I might need to find a more hip forum.

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Thu 11/27/08 12:41 AM

I don't think flirting online counts as cheating.

If I was in a serious relationship I would think its cheating but these arent serious.


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Thu 11/27/08 12:41 AM

I am really surprised that a dating forum has so many closed minded people. None of you ever heard of a young woman dating 2 or 3 men at once? I bet you hear the men bragging all the time about dating many women. Men are studs but women are what orange cat edited out of his post a moment ago. I think I might need to find a more hip forum.


It's the double standard, I've gotten used to it, you will, too. Someday.drinker

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Thu 11/27/08 12:41 AM

I like turtles.


Caught a 7 inch snapper this summer and man are they mean.

Depends what kind of flirting.

SharpShooter10's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:41 AM



I like turtles.
Me toobigsmile indifferent they have orange meat when you cook 'em bigsmile


Ewwwww, Sharp.rofl
I really don't eat em, anymore, I tried it once, not for menoway kinda like sushilaugh

DTHRomeo's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:43 AM
I think if you are talking to someone for a while

Then that someone ends up talking to the other person

And drop you like a bad habit might be cheating

Cuz reading between the lines

They were talking behind your back


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Thu 11/27/08 12:43 AM
I think Ive talked this topic to death and now Im repeating my earlier post to new people who have not seen the earlier post in the thread. All your answers are posted somewhere in this thread so I will say good night again. Its 2:45am and I need some sleep. waving

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Thu 11/27/08 12:44 AM


I don't think flirting online counts as cheating.

If I was in a serious relationship I would think its cheating but these arent serious.




Well, I define cheating differently than most people, I guess. To me, cheating is when you have a bf/gf, wife/husband and then you go out and have sex with someone else. To me, talking to someone on the computer, no matter what the conversation is about, is not cheating. I guess it might be "tacky" to spend online time with another man/woman if you're in a committed relationship, but to me, since there is no physical contact, it doesn't count. JMO

OrangeCat's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:44 AM

I am really surprised that a dating forum has so many closed minded people. None of you ever heard of a young woman dating 2 or 3 men at once? I bet you hear the men bragging all the time about dating many women. Men are studs but women are what orange cat edited out of his post a moment ago. I think I might need to find a more hip forum.




you hear just as many woman bragging about it.
its wrong either way.but to all there own.

if your happy with this then thats all that mattera

SharpShooter10's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:44 AM
<-- flirts on here

<-- yep

<-- married, happily

<-- she's on here

<-- big flirt too

<-- doesn't cheat

<-- it's a southern thang

bigsmile drinker smokin


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Thu 11/27/08 12:44 AM

I think Ive talked this topic to death and now Im repeating my earlier post to new people who have not seen the earlier post in the thread. All your answers are posted somewhere in this thread so I will say good night again. Its 2:45am and I need some sleep. waving


Have a good night.

OrangeCat's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:45 AM

I think if you are talking to someone for a while

Then that someone ends up talking to the other person

And drop you like a bad habit might be cheating

Cuz reading between the lines

They were talking behind your back





Romeo how ya doing bro ??

Winx's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:45 AM
Edited by Winx on Thu 11/27/08 12:47 AM

I am really surprised that a dating forum has so many closed minded people. None of you ever heard of a young woman dating 2 or 3 men at once? I bet you hear the men bragging all the time about dating many women. Men are studs but women are what orange cat edited out of his post a moment ago. I think I might need to find a more hip forum.


Well, yes, some people date 2 or 3 at once. But they are not called boyfriends. And yes, some people have FWBs. But...I don't know many that have done it multiple partners. And you're so young.



SharpShooter10's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:45 AM

I am really surprised that a dating forum has so many closed minded people. None of you ever heard of a young woman dating 2 or 3 men at once? I bet you hear the men bragging all the time about dating many women. Men are studs but women are what orange cat edited out of his post a moment ago. I think I might need to find a more hip forum.
I think it's great, enjoydrinker

DTHRomeo's photo
Thu 11/27/08 12:45 AM


I think if you are talking to someone for a while

Then that someone ends up talking to the other person

And drop you like a bad habit might be cheating

Cuz reading between the lines

They were talking behind your back





Romeo how ya doing bro ??


Waz Up OC? drinker