Just be you honey.....I have dated women who are quite similar to your approach...it was a blast!

I have no regrets.

I did the same thing for about 15 years. Still no regrets.

Just a lot of pleasant memories. If people can relate...great...if not....oh well.

I am just traveling and having fun. I always go with a girlfriend friend or two so I know how to play it safe. I thought it would be interesting to meet people before I went to a new city. Did you see that I never mentioned having sex with my boyfriends but some have already assumed I am loose. many think they know everything when really they know nothing.

Now Im not saying I dont have sex but no one here knows they are just ass uming.

It would be kind of a turn on for me

Yes it is. Flirting is fun if the boyfriend knows and is cool with it. Not cool if he does not know.

Honey...if you have sex or not is no one elses business.

Traveling and enjoying yourself is priceless.

I say, more power to ya.

It is cool that you seek others perspectives...I think you know that the only one who can really judge your morality is you.

That is how I apply things to myself.

I like to watch my girl with other dudes

Admittedly, I lack the patience
to sift through 5 pages of posts
this afternoon.

But, rather anyone wants to admit it,
I believe that everyone flirts to an
extent. Some without even realizing
that they're flirting, and generally,
nothing is really meant by it. To some,
it's just a way of being friendly.

yes

It depends on the person. Some people are weird about flirting. I've even heard of people saying that watching porn was cheating.


I feel, as long as you are not physically intimate with the person you are flirting with, then there is no real problem.

Ok after reading more of your posts it has become a bit more clear to me the word "BoyFriends" threw me for a curve. You are young and you are nogt exclusive with anyone. So therefore no problem. I still am a bit puzzled by why you should be worried about them coming in and raining on your parade here. If you aren't exclusive with any of them why does it matter if they have a problem with your behavior.

As far as your sex life is concerned that is NO ONE'S business but yours. I have always believe in keeping mum on the who's, where's and why's.

If I do mean IF you were exclusive with anyone of these guys then absolutely you would be cheating for example.

I am a flirt, I have been since birth. I am not a tease. I never ever promise something I won't follow through on. So therefore the flirting I do I would have no problems doing it right in front of any guy I was with.
But then again I have a very low jealousy factor in me.

Yes (addressing one above me) I agree that it would be cheating if I were exclusive. Im unsure about telling them about the forums because it wasnt one of the preconditions when we started dating. I never mentioned forums and I dont know how they will react. One guy is a little hot headed and he might come in here and spill out all my secrets, at least the ones he knows about anyway.

Ahhh now coming closer to the heart of the matter LOL... I hope you take this next piece of advice very very serious since I am speaking from experience on this one. Live you life like it is on the front page of the newspaper since once day it could be. I mean think about never be a shamed of anything you do and then you never worry about what someone can say or do about you.
Also I am not sure if I would be with someone that has that type of jealousy issues. I am sorry but how does he handle knowing full well that you date others.

Let sleeping dogs ly. No need to share any information with either of them. Not only should you feel no obligation (in your case), but sharing this info brings potential drama that's unnecessary. You have an arrangement that's working great as is.

Addressing the two above me. (I dont like over quoting it makes the page too long)
The reason the guys put up with me dating others is because that is the way it is and they dont have a choice. I tell them up front that I travel and see different guys. Some are just friends and some are friends with benefits.

Ive decided not to tell them about the forums. No reason to bring my personal drama here and thats what I know one of them would do. He already gets huffy if I dont respond to his emails in 10 seconds. He has great skills so I put up with his flaws and he is so cute when he gets angry.

i would even say that she could be(or is)

i think we need to hide our bfs or the guys were dating...

Loose implies Im having sex with the men and have you seen me post such information or are you just ass uming?

Short, simple, and to the point. I guess it really depends on the personalities of the two people involved. There are some open relationships where they don't care what each other does as long as they always come home. On the other hand, some people fly into a jealous rage if just speaking casually to someone of the opposite sex. I myself would not want to have a gf that flirted on a dating site. For one thing, it takes time and energy away from our relationship and for another it misleads the people she is flirting with, making them think she is interested. If she isn't interested she is just toying with them and if she is then we have a serious problem. I wouldn't want a gf that thought it was ok for me to flirt online. I would take that as a sign that she really did not care about me and our relationship.

oh my bad.....yea I ass ume boyfriends and girlfriends DO have sex. You're still a virgin...that's great!

If you have more than one boyfriend, what does it really matter. Aren't you already cheating on them already with each of the others. What's the difference. Do they know about the other men in your life?

Your questions were already answered by me 2-3 times in this thread. I guess you didnt read all the post.