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Topic: moving on
Adamal29's photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:45 PM
How do you move on from someone you thought was the "one." Someone you shared every interest with you could possibly imagine. Are there copies of the same type out there, but actually are willing to love you back? This is about where I am at right now.

startattoo's photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:46 PM
i wish i knew....

no photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:47 PM
Don't even worry about it. Just live your life the only way you can and don't even think about the offending party.


livelife68's photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:49 PM
pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with life.

Adamal29's photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:53 PM
A may need to hit the bottle again for awile.

tngxl65's photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:56 PM
It will take some time for you to be ready to really connect with someone like that again, but it will happen. Right now all you see is what a great match you were and how you think nobody could ever be that for you again. And the truth is that nobody will be that same match again.

But eventually you'll become open to someone else... someone that's different. But you'll appreciate what she has to offer and the match you make with her just as much as you did with the previous. It just takes some time.

Adamal29's photo
Wed 01/21/09 10:58 PM

It will take some time for you to be ready to really connect with someone like that again, but it will happen. Right now all you see is what a great match you were and how you think nobody could ever be that for you again. And the truth is that nobody will be that same match again.

But eventually you'll become open to someone else... someone that's different. But you'll appreciate what she has to offer and the match you make with her just as much as you did with the previous. It just takes some time.


good positive answer! I needed that.

Jtree43's photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:08 PM
Just when you think nobody will compare to what you once had, someone will come along and outshine the last by so far that you will wonder what you were thinking and stop looking back...

Citizen_Joe's photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:25 PM

A may need to hit the bottle again for awile.


That's endearing.

Adamal29's photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:26 PM
I was half joking. :wink:

Tanzkity's photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:30 PM
Sometimes you dont move on and maybe that is good and bad...........it depends on the circumstances............I think if you think you tried your hardest to hold on an it wast reciprocated back then you should move on..............but if its external circumstances that ended the relationship then you just wait.....it can be had to let someone go but sometimes it is a positive thing if you learn form it............what is the problem exactly?

Adamal29's photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:40 PM

Sometimes you dont move on and maybe that is good and bad...........it depends on the circumstances............I think if you think you tried your hardest to hold on an it wast reciprocated back then you should move on..............but if its external circumstances that ended the relationship then you just wait.....it can be had to let someone go but sometimes it is a positive thing if you learn form it............what is the problem exactly?


Oh I went over this on some other threads, and people are probably sick of my whining by now but here is the extremely short version:

Met this girl and thought she was the greatest thing ever. She claimed I was the greatest thing ever also. Had her meet my parents and the whole bit. Found out she had been physically and emotionally abused by several men. After quite awile she just completely switched gears from me being the best thing that ever happend to her to her not even wanting to talk to me. At first she said she really wanted things to work out, but was never clear on what needed to be "worked out" even when asked. I saw the writing on the wall, but hung in there, and finally she gave me the boot. (and still managed to tell me how great I treated her) I was devestated. I have been through breakups before, but this one for some reason hit me like a ton of bricks.

gypsiegirly's photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:48 PM
yep you just have to get on with your life. pick yourself up and start over again, love seems to have a habit of creeping up on you when your least expecting it lol so just hang in there and learn from the experience rather it was good or bad.

no photo
Wed 01/21/09 11:57 PM
bro i am goin through the smae thing and all i can teel you is... just let time pass, start talkin to another chick, even if it is just talkin.... it will help.

keepthehope's photo
Thu 01/22/09 12:10 AM
First get it in your mind that the person is not what you thought or you would still be together. Then find someone else who will take your mind off of that person.

JoeW99's photo
Thu 01/22/09 12:14 AM

How do you move on from someone you thought was the "one." Someone you shared every interest with you could possibly imagine. Are there copies of the same type out there, but actually are willing to love you back? This is about where I am at right now.


OK TOUGH LOVE TIME.

Step 1: Stand up.
Step 2: Get a running start at the kitchen table so the corner hits your groin.

For at least a solid minute you will not think about her or the past. If problem persist after the minute time frame, repeat steps 1 and 2 till you pass out. That should buy you atleast a couple hours of rest!

Guaranteed to work.

Fit2bFunVB's photo
Thu 01/22/09 12:25 AM


How do you move on from someone you thought was the "one." Someone you shared every interest with you could possibly imagine. Are there copies of the same type out there, but actually are willing to love you back? This is about where I am at right now.


OK TOUGH LOVE TIME.

Step 1: Stand up.
Step 2: Get a running start at the kitchen table so the corner hits your groin.

For at least a solid minute you will not think about her or the past. If problem persist after the minute time frame, repeat steps 1 and 2 till you pass out. That should buy you atleast a couple hours of rest!

Guaranteed to work.


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Fit2bFunVB's photo
Thu 01/22/09 12:30 AM

How do you move on from someone you thought was the "one." Someone you shared every interest with you could possibly imagine. Are there copies of the same type out there, but actually are willing to love you back? This is about where I am at right now.


The great thing about time, is that it moves on. Who you are today is not going to be who you are tomorrow, or next week, or next year. The person who was the "one" today might not be the person who should be the "one" a year from now when you've grown and changed into a better, stronger, more loving person. You won't find a copy, what you'll find (if you give it to God) is the right one for the "who YOU are"... not the who they are.

My two cents. :-)

PacificStar48's photo
Thu 01/22/09 01:05 AM


Sometimes you dont move on and maybe that is good and bad...........it depends on the circumstances............I think if you think you tried your hardest to hold on an it wast reciprocated back then you should move on..............but if its external circumstances that ended the relationship then you just wait.....it can be had to let someone go but sometimes it is a positive thing if you learn form it............what is the problem exactly?


Oh I went over this on some other threads, and people are probably sick of my whining by now but here is the extremely short version:

Met this girl and thought she was the greatest thing ever. She claimed I was the greatest thing ever also. Had her meet my parents and the whole bit. Found out she had been physically and emotionally abused by several men. After quite awile she just completely switched gears from me being the best thing that ever happend to her to her not even wanting to talk to me. At first she said she really wanted things to work out, but was never clear on what needed to be "worked out" even when asked. I saw the writing on the wall, but hung in there, and finally she gave me the boot. (and still managed to tell me how great I treated her) I was devestated. I have been through breakups before, but this one for some reason hit me like a ton of bricks.
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I think girl probably got cold feet when she met the parents and found out about the daughter. It might have took a while for it to sink in. . If what she told you about her back ground was true she probably couldn't see her self in this pretty little family. Maybe she couldn't. If she had herself in several abuseive relationships maybe someone had something over her head such as being married.

This break up may be hitting you harder because you are stareing down dirty-thirty and more of your friends are settleing down.

What the other posters have suggested about how you will feel in a year sounds pretty on target so no need repeating.

What probably could be added is loosen up and broaden your definition of what is perfect. Sometimes when you try to nail down all the details of what you think is going to make the perfect person for you it ends up in passing up people that would make you so happy if you would just give them a chance.

no photo
Thu 01/22/09 01:20 AM
dude i will tell you something my ex-wife was the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I mean everything was perfect, her toes, her eyes, her but, her boobs, her smile, her teeth, just an absolute ten in my book and we got along great! great sex i mean i was in heaven! just my absolute soulmate and then after 16 years of marriage she cheated on me. i didnt get out of bed for a month...lol i was devastated!!!! The worst part is she begs me to come back and tells me she will wait forever. it sucks man it really sucks when you find someone like that and then it doesnt work out, but you just have to be determined to find the new her! I still love that woman but i will never go back and it took me a year before i even dated, and its been a year and a half since i had sex. Its the worst to lose someone special like that, its the worst!

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