I don't really think any of them ever did love me, or at least they didn't say anything like that...I'm with someone who does though, so I could really care less.

He probably found a new love by now in "prison"

Thankfully I was smarter than to be with him after we ended things. He was famous for calling and whining to me. Once the divorce papers came, I told him to leave me alone and figure out life by himself.

It is my personal belief that if you truly love someone then you always will love them. Trust might go, other things might disappear but love endures, it's unconditional and everlasting.

I agree with you on that - a true love will still beat deep inside of your soul despite whatever layers have been added to it over the years. Distance, inability to live together, inability to trust, dislike. You still had that connection with that person at one time. Death is usually the only way to eridicate that love completely.

That was the way my grandparents were. Both died within the last couple of years, and despite being divorced for over 50 years, they were still in love with each other until the day each one died.

I'm not so sure that even death eradicates it. It inspires other people, it becomes something passed on to others in a way.

I hadn't thought about it that way, but I think you are right. I would want someone to love me that way - and I have learned it from them. It saddens me that they spent so many years apart because of the issues they were unable to resolve. But, I do long for a love that transcends everything, including death. And I have learned that from them.

I can pretty faithfully say that none of my ex's still love me, nor have they EVER loved me. In fact, most of them probably saw me as a means to an end.

I am pretty sure she never did, so no. Even though she says it, but you learn quickly that actions speak louder then words.

I think she does but only out of spite or so she get the last word in or to make me feel guilty.

Nope. I think she will never love anyone. And she is cool with that. She just used me to see if she could maybe love someone now, and it scared the crap out of her.

yes my x husband was still kinda sorta in love with me i thought. but the booger was busy diddling his 5th wife, pamie, the hootch under my nose.

and i have talked about this before. keep ur eye on ur x, husband or otherwise, cause sometimes they come back to haunt u.

in my case, i let some time pass before i jumped back in the saddle.

well the x left, and pretty soon who comes knocking but an old ghost from the past, and i was tempted to try the saddle again.

however, for fun i thought i would scare him, and so i told him how i was going to tell his kids what a drinking whoremonger he was, which was kinda sorta true.
well little did i know i scared him so bad, he blocked me saying it was all a big mistake ever to get back in touch with me.

well he got that right. so DALE and GENE, if u r reading this, here's to u.here's to mistakes and how we learn from them....

To the three of you above - I am so sorry to hear that. It is their loss.

yes

I can totally identify with this. In retrospect, it's clear that they just wanted me because I'm good at fixing problems for people. Not that there's anything wrong with that, per se, but to pretend to "love" someone, when all you really want to do is use them, strikes me as a bit despicable.

Using u....is that what love is all about?

I hope not and I don't love them. I feel like if someone really love you, they will not do anything to hurt you. That is my opinion.

welcome to the site yes I agree actions speak louder than words

oh yes they will hurt u and say they love u. that is the hook...

I believe the two terms are basically interchangeable for a lot of people -- that's been my experience, anyway.