Fall in love with someone who you were in love before?

I remember asking my ex-wife to stay and work things out

She said to me "You have to make me fall in love with you again"

I was like ... " Ok , have a nice life" then she left

Somehow i think if we fall in love with someone

Then we fall out of love , it's impossible to do it again

With the same person , what are you opinions


I don't post many threads but i was thinking about this :)

Whoops havn't done this in a while.

I think people change all the time and it is possible, maybe not probable but possible that you could fall in love all over again.

First thing that comes to my mind after readin ur post is that u shouldn't have to make anyone fall in love with u to begin with. They either do or they don't. People change an grow. Circumstances change. There are tons of reasons one 'falls' out of love with someone. I don't know that u could 'fall' back in love with someone. At least not for the same reasons as u did the first time around.

It's cool thanks for posting

I think it really depends on why you fell out of love to begin with. If it's something like one or both people got wrapped up in school/work/kids and the couple grew apart out of neglect, then yeah, I think it's possible. It takes work, which one or both parties may not want to put in, though. If it's something like cheating, drugs, alcohol, something where trust has been demolished, I think it's probably much harder and maybe impossible. But, again, I think it's all in the desires of the two involved. If both parties are determined to do whatever it takes to save their relationship, then I think it's doable.

I agree with you , that makes sense

Yea I think so. Sometimes with my ex the good memories come back....I start to feel fuzzy...... Then I run like hell!

With enough time and space btween the two people, I think it could be possible

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For me, there is still a part of me that would desire to be in love with my ex. For the kids first off and secondly, over half of my life was with him. During the begining of our relationship we were perfect. But as we grew older we changed, made mistakes and made decisions that drove us apart. If he ever came to me and wanted to make me fall in love with him again, he would have to quit drinking and open his mind to the possibilities that I am smart and worthy as a human being. That would never happen. I would always be on edge waiting for the other shoe to drop, since it has happened so many times before. So even though I can forgive, I am not a stupid person to ever forget a lesson learned. I guess my answer to your question is, for me, no its not possible to fall in love again with a person you fell out of love with.

no

YES!!!

Think if you never fell "out" but, rather, were torn apart by circumstances AND your love never morphed from romance to the friends only DEAD zone?

It COULD be doable, IF the conflict/communication issues that put the romance down for dead, are TRULY resolved.

If the 2 still make each others' hearts skip a beat, ANYTHING is possible!!!! Would take both's willingness and work and compromise and GREAT communication skills. Roll up your sleeves ...

It takes 2 baby, to make a dream come true ...

Usually, it is the JUNK, not the love that got in the way.

Got CPR ???!!!

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I believe being in love is falling in love when the same person over and over

Romeo,

My first husband and I were high school sweethearts who married and after 4 years, divorced. As time went by, at first, there were so many raw and intense feelings inside of both of us we could not bear the sight of each other. Now, 14 years later, we are very good friends. Because of the history that we share and how deeply we loved, still love, one another, it would be easy to go back to him. But because of circumstances beyond our control, we chose to remain away from one another. But, we still love one another.

As a woman, I don't think she means you have to make her fall in love with you again. I think she meant she needs to feel that you are in love her and she is in love with you, to rekindle those feelings of love she first felt for you when your relationship was good.

In my opinion, when you love someone that love will always be there, through the good and the bad. Whether it is sustainable or not, it is something that has to be nurtured and tended to.

I think that it is up to you both to decide if those feeling can be rekindled and are able to get past the valleys and the lows, but I think that you two will always love one another.


This is just my humble opinion.

Infidelity and abuse aside, I think people fall out of love because as they grow older and hopefully wiser the things that they want change. Things get hectic careers, children, etc...There just doesn't seem to be as much time for each other as there once was. And contrary to popular belief I don't think absence makes the heart grow fonder it just makes you feel neglected. Can you fall back in love with someone? Probably not. But that isn't to say that you can't grow to love the person they have become now.

that applies to everything in life. i agree with this 1,000,000%


i also believe that this is why true love is searched for, so damn hard. most people want this feeling.

I thank everyone for posting

We're still friends , we talk about our kids and

We have said to each other that we have love for each other

And will always be there , I doubt we'll ever be together again

Since we both did a lot of damage to our relationship

She's happy in a relationship and i'm ok being single

So i guess things are good , I was just remembering things we said to

each other one time and i started this thread

Thanks again guys!

I went back because I had never fallen out of love with him. I left because I couldn't handle his drugging and drinking, then I finally just got over it and do not think I have truly fallen in love since. It took me 20 years to fall out of love with him though.

It's possible, but you have to keep in mind that the same issues that drove the two of your apart may very well return the second time around as well. If nothing else, those issues might appear even stronger as well.