Topic: should you stop talking to your ex because your girlfriend
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Thu 12/10/09 06:43 PM

If children are involved and it's stricly dealing with the children that is a common sense issue where two parents must communicate in many forms. If a new boyfriend/husband, or new girlfriend/wife is trying to get inbetween communication with the ex, this is not good, it is not there business to interrupt parental rights. Past flings, past ex's is always a debatable topic where you have to look at things with fine lines. Some say you should trust that they will be fine, since they did not work out and that is why they are an ex, othere's say well, they slept together what will stop them from doing it again, others say don't try to control your other partner as this is not right, and others say the ex should not be present in your life. The plain and simple truth is that if there are no children from this past relationship here is my opinion:
If two people love each other, no party will bring in possible influences that possibly could pose or ruin a relationship, thus the one who is "friends" with the ex and saying it's my right, is not looking after the relationship, but rather the their sole self. The vice is not good either, if you just lose the friend because the other person said so, they may try to stop all opposite sex friends, this is controlling and is not healthy for a relationship and it cann be perceived as abuse. I am pretty much saying use your common sense and just say do I want my current relationship to last or not? You will then have you answer, relationships are about give or take, but give and take is not about bringing potential harmful influences to your relationship. Truly perceive yourself in their shoes and think how you might feel. Talk about it, set agreements that both parties have to ablige to with the opposite sex or ex, it's not so hard, we are adults, not children.



i completely agree with you!!

unsure's photo
Thu 12/10/09 06:57 PM

I do what ever women tell me to doshocked

And you are single? HMMM I doubt you listen to your women very well..am I right?

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Thu 12/10/09 07:10 PM
I talk to many friends that are female and a few are ex girlfriends or my ex wife. It really depends on the nature of the relationship!

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Thu 12/10/09 07:12 PM

I do what ever women tell me to doshocked


rofl rofl :laughing: Now thats funny bro. :laughing: rofl rofl

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Fri 12/11/09 08:24 AM

Okay...I know not all of you keep your friendship alive after you broke up with your "once upon a time the love of your life" :cry: , but for those who still keep in touch with their ex's...would and should you let your current boy/girlfriend stop you from talking to your ex?


This happened to me not so long ago, his new girl shouted and cursed at me in public and told him to stop being friend with me, really embarassing; but my ex was nice, he sided with me and told her that he chosen his friends (girl or boy) anytime over her, until she learn not to be jealous and embarrass him anymore

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Fri 12/11/09 08:42 AM
If they have kids then a friendly relationship is expected, and even to me required. I wouldn't date a man who bad mouthed his children's mother because thats not right.

If they have no kids... there's no reason to continue a friendship other than one of them is having way too hard a time letting go. I don't hang onto exes as friends, I see no reason to do so when there are no kids involved.

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Sun 12/13/09 08:07 PM


If they have no kids... there's no reason to continue a friendship other than one of them is having way too hard a time letting go. I don't hang onto exes as friends, I see no reason to do so when there are no kids involved.


Nope...no kid involve, but we've been friend since the dinosours just started to roam d earth...and NOPE neither one of us had a hard time letting go...we were friend b4, and we still friend after we broke up (well till his new gf told him 2 stop talking 2 me), actually he introduced me 2 d 1 after him and 1 b4 him; seeee...not all break ups are nasty...and I don't have any female friends, that's why I stayed friend with him; and NO..sex not always the only option to be friend with some1...:smile: glasses shades

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Sun 12/13/09 08:16 PM

Okay...I know not all of you keep your friendship alive after you broke up with your "once upon a time the love of your life" :cry: , but for those who still keep in touch with their ex's...would and should you let your current boy/girlfriend stop you from talking to your ex?
:smile: There would definatly need to be a limit:smile:

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Mon 12/14/09 05:40 AM



If they have no kids... there's no reason to continue a friendship other than one of them is having way too hard a time letting go. I don't hang onto exes as friends, I see no reason to do so when there are no kids involved.


Nope...no kid involve, but we've been friend since the dinosours just started to roam d earth...and NOPE neither one of us had a hard time letting go...we were friend b4, and we still friend after we broke up (well till his new gf told him 2 stop talking 2 me), actually he introduced me 2 d 1 after him and 1 b4 him; seeee...not all break ups are nasty...and I don't have any female friends, that's why I stayed friend with him; and NO..sex not always the only option to be friend with some1...:smile: glasses shades


In those rare instances the girl has to be willing to be my friend too so I can know that she's not up to anything. I don't have many female friends myself, but my exes are exes for a reason. There's one that I still see as a good friend, but if the love of my life asked me to limit contact because it made them uncomfortable in a respectful uncontrolling way I'd oblige.

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Mon 12/14/09 06:41 AM
Humm I talk to ex's if I happen to be in the same area as they are. Or if it is my kids dad but I have never keep them close enough that it would make another feel uncomfortable. noway Therefore they would never feel the need to ask me to stop talking to them for it is only on a few occasions that I do talk to and ex.

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Wed 12/16/09 07:06 PM

Humm I talk to ex's if I happen to be in the same area as they are. Or if it is my kids dad but I have never keep them close enough that it would make another feel uncomfortable. noway Therefore they would never feel the need to ask me to stop talking to them for it is only on a few occasions that I do talk to and ex.


Like I stated b4...we've been friend since b4 the dinosaurs roam d earth...bigsmile ; I don't think it's fair for her 2 tell him 2 kick his friends away...and she also have problems with other women who's only coworkers of his...what can I say...ahhhh....BITE me!!! :tongue: :smile: :banana: drinker

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Wed 12/16/09 07:25 PM








In those rare instances the girl has to be willing to be my friend too so I can know that she's not up to anything. I don't have many female friends myself, but my exes are exes for a reason. There's one that I still see as a good friend, but if the love of my life asked me to limit contact because it made them uncomfortable in a respectful uncontrolling way I'd oblige.


Try 2 ask her 2 be friend with me??? DON"T think so...she's ugly and crazy...I'd rather befriended with "no woman" then stupid screw-up in the head woman like her...NO WAY!!!indifferent ohwell....seeeee...even u still have 1 u still see as good friend...( we've been friend since b4 dinosaurs roam d earth..if u know what I mean); yeahhhh....I got 2 this topic cause she's not asking the respectful-uncontrolling way, ahhh... well...BITE ME!!!!!:smile: :banana: pitchfork frown drinker drinks drool spock

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Wed 12/16/09 08:20 PM

Okay...I know not all of you keep your friendship alive after you broke up with your "once upon a time the love of your life" :cry: , but for those who still keep in touch with their ex's...would and should you let your current boy/girlfriend stop you from talking to your ex?


Depends on whether or not you want to keep your current S/O.


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Wed 12/16/09 09:34 PM









In those rare instances the girl has to be willing to be my friend too so I can know that she's not up to anything. I don't have many female friends myself, but my exes are exes for a reason. There's one that I still see as a good friend, but if the love of my life asked me to limit contact because it made them uncomfortable in a respectful uncontrolling way I'd oblige.


Try 2 ask her 2 be friend with me??? DON"T think so...she's ugly and crazy...I'd rather befriended with "no woman" then stupid screw-up in the head woman like her...NO WAY!!!indifferent ohwell....seeeee...even u still have 1 u still see as good friend...( we've been friend since b4 dinosaurs roam d earth..if u know what I mean); yeahhhh....I got 2 this topic cause she's not asking the respectful-uncontrolling way, ahhh... well...BITE ME!!!!!:smile: :banana: pitchfork frown drinker drinks drool spock


Yeah the one I still see as a good friend was only ever really that...lol. We tried dating out of boredom and quickly decided against it.

The fact that you refuse to be friends with the girl he obviously cares about shows jealousy on your part too. If you had no feelings for him you might try to befriend her and show her that she has nothing to worry about. Do you ever consider that maybe your friend gives her a reason to be jealous behind closed doors?

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Thu 12/17/09 09:19 AM
Edited by Gizzy1 on Thu 12/17/09 09:23 AM














Yeah the one I still see as a good friend was only ever really that...lol. We tried dating out of boredom and quickly decided against it.

The fact that you refuse to be friends with the girl he obviously cares about shows jealousy on your part too. If you had no feelings for him you might try to befriend her and show her that she has nothing to worry about. Do you ever consider that maybe your friend gives her a reason to be jealous behind closed doors?


I never tried 2 date him again after the break-up not even out of boredom, he's only just a good friend no more then that,do I wanna sleep with him again...NO WAY!!! he's too FAT now (so as she)...yikes sick I'd prefer sleeping with HOT handsome guys or sexy pretty girls..worth it...pitchfork ( I guess that's explain how I feel about him). OH NO!!! Jealousy is NOT in my idea of having FUN...no ma'am...I don' get jealous..cause I'm used to the life of getting whatever I want kind of lives...it's just a true good friendhip hard to get..still I'm not jealous of anything.. or any1.
I refuse to be friend with her cause she's a complete moron, she got jealous with every women not only me, even those old women who smile at him for no reason frustrated ; and I explaind 2 her the situation but she doesn't want to listen and as far as what he told her I don't care (not there 2 shut his mouth)...I'm too busy having fun and doing whatever I want...PARTIES and SHOPPINGS are more fun then hang out with some crazy women drinker drinks tongue2

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Thu 12/17/09 01:25 PM















Yeah the one I still see as a good friend was only ever really that...lol. We tried dating out of boredom and quickly decided against it.

The fact that you refuse to be friends with the girl he obviously cares about shows jealousy on your part too. If you had no feelings for him you might try to befriend her and show her that she has nothing to worry about. Do you ever consider that maybe your friend gives her a reason to be jealous behind closed doors?


I never tried 2 date him again after the break-up not even out of boredom, he's only just a good friend no more then that,do I wanna sleep with him again...NO WAY!!! he's too FAT now (so as she)...yikes sick I'd prefer sleeping with HOT handsome guys or sexy pretty girls..worth it...pitchfork ( I guess that's explain how I feel about him). OH NO!!! Jealousy is NOT in my idea of having FUN...no ma'am...I don' get jealous..cause I'm used to the life of getting whatever I want kind of lives...it's just a true good friendhip hard to get..still I'm not jealous of anything.. or any1.
I refuse to be friend with her cause she's a complete moron, she got jealous with every women not only me, even those old women who smile at him for no reason frustrated ; and I explaind 2 her the situation but she doesn't want to listen and as far as what he told her I don't care (not there 2 shut his mouth)...I'm too busy having fun and doing whatever I want...PARTIES and SHOPPINGS are more fun then hang out with some crazy women drinker drinks tongue2




You're not a very good friend to him anyway...lol. Calling him fat and his girlfriend? You don't seem very nice.

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Wed 12/23/09 11:29 AM







You're not a very good friend to him anyway...lol. Calling him fat and his girlfriend? You don't seem very nice.


I never said I was nice anyway, and they don't call me meany for no reason....soooo..BITE ME!!!bigsmile tongue2 pitchfork, and as far as calling him FAT...it's a fact, and I even let him know about it, and his gf...good thing I only call her FAT, and not call her anything else meaner then that...and as far as I concern u just want to nag... so if u don't know the fact don't get involve, I was only asking 4 opinions not looking for somebody to preach at me and tangle in the word argument with stranger.

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Thu 12/24/09 08:41 PM
I think when you start dating a new person, you should stop talking to all spirits who died over two hundred years ago.

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Thu 12/24/09 11:09 PM
If you have children then you will need to talk to an ex, enough said.
I have tried so hard to be friends with ex's but it never works they want to continue the relationship. It is very frustrating and I think they are throwing a friendship away which they will later regret. sad2

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Fri 12/25/09 03:06 AM


I would never allow someone to dictate who and what I can do in my life. I am great friends with my EX and well if someone I was dating told me that he didnt' want me to talk to him anymore.

The first reaction would be don't make me choose, second would be pity.
They must have such a low self esteem issue that they can't realize I am with them because I want to be, and I am not with my EX because I don't want to be.


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I totally agree....it's a sign of insecurity, and who wants that?:angry: