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 Hello I must say you don't have many answers on your profile.
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so just wanted to get a opinion of sorts on verbal abuse. my so called boyfriend when he gets made or angry at me will cuss at me like for example i asked him if i could go out with friends and he replied through text message "do whatever you want im throwing up blood here so just go enjoy your damn self" granted hes in another state playing solider right now and i wasnt gonna go out if he was throwing up blood when he always talks to me he told at at one point in a text i told him i was gonna stay in and he was like "then be ignored i dont ****in care" it just seems when he gets angry he just cusses at me and thats not ok. and its not the b word ot anything its just the f word and gd word and blaming me for me bugging him oh and i got fired to day.. I've become an expert on this subject over the last 4 years, trust me, verbal abuse is the first step to someting worse, like a toxic relationship or domestic violence. End it now at the early stages. You're not quitting, you're just being safe. |
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Abuse is Abuse no matter how you look at it. When one no longer is allowed to think for themselves and go do the things they enjoy doing unless they have permission from someone they are in fact being controlled by the other. Which is just a form of abuse as well.
There is only one person that can stop the cycle and it is you! Until you see that you are worthy of someone that will treat you as and equal instead of a puppet they will continue to control you. Seriously find someone to talk to on building your self confidence up. Then you will be able to see the guilt trips he is playing on you and sad thing is your falling right into that trap. I assure you if this is all happening and your only dating it will only get worse as time goes along... |
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I would have him 'talk' to someone. Sometimes a guy is just stupid that way and maybe a little guidance can bring him around. In my day it was visit behind the barracks for a little attitude adjustment, especially if I thought you were the best thing that ever happened to him.
Otherwise, cut him loose. My 2 cents. |
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it will NEVER get any better...............it will only get WORSE!!
 Been there................. 
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it will NEVER get any better...............it will only get WORSE!! Been there................. very true 
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I hope things get better but that sure isn't what I have in mind when I think of love. Good Luck..........
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Sounds like a drama king.
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it will NEVER get any better...............it will only get WORSE!! Been there................. Couldn't have said it better |
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NOT that this is an excuse for how he treated you, but MAYBE he is stressed out being in the military and throwing up blood. It's not an excuse for taking it out on someone, but could be a reason
just a thought |
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NOT that this is an excuse for how he treated you, but MAYBE he is stressed out being in the military and throwing up blood. It's not an excuse for taking it out on someone, but could be a reason just a thought Yup. I think so too. Always two sides to a issue. |
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Does he act like this with others or just you? Sounds like he has some anger issues. Either way, there seems to be little or no respect in this relationship, and as time goes on it could progress to physical abuse. And growing up in alcoholic family, I can tell you that YES, verbal abuse scars worse and take a long time to heal. I am not going to give you advise, I think you already know the right answer. Good luck.
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NOT that this is an excuse for how he treated you, but MAYBE he is stressed out being in the military and throwing up blood. It's not an excuse for taking it out on someone, but could be a reason just a thought Hummm maybe I'm wrong but if I recall correctly think he just went in. Not saying that being in the Military is not stressful but I don't think it should be used as and excuse to verbal abuse anyone. If that is his plea then he needs to seek some help to get his emotions intact. |
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Abuse is Abuse no matter how you look at it. When one no longer is allowed to think for themselves and go do the things they enjoy doing unless they have permission from someone they are in fact being controlled by the other. Which is just a form of abuse as well. There is only one person that can stop the cycle and it is you! Until you see that you are worthy of someone that will treat you as and equal instead of a puppet they will continue to control you. Seriously find someone to talk to on building your self confidence up. Then you will be able to see the guilt trips he is playing on you and sad thing is your falling right into that trap. I assure you if this is all happening and your only dating it will only get worse as time goes along... 
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Interesting; I served in the military and never threw up blood. And no one should ever put up with any type of abuse be it verbal or physical. Get rid of him; you can do better.
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NOT that this is an excuse for how he treated you, but MAYBE he is stressed out being in the military and throwing up blood. It's not an excuse for taking it out on someone, but could be a reason just a thought Hummm maybe I'm wrong but if I recall correctly think he just went in. Not saying that being in the Military is not stressful but I don't think it should be used as and excuse to verbal abuse anyone. If that is his plea then he needs to seek some help to get his emotions intact. I agree that he is wrong...never an excuse for it. I don't know how long he has been in or why he is throwing up blood, but it could be a reason for his tension....still no excuse. I myself wouldn't put up with someone speaking to me that way or taking it out on me it's a Texas thang 
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Abuse is Abuse no matter how you look at it. When one no longer is allowed to think for themselves and go do the things they enjoy doing unless they have permission from someone they are in fact being controlled by the other. Which is just a form of abuse as well. There is only one person that can stop the cycle and it is you! Until you see that you are worthy of someone that will treat you as and equal instead of a puppet they will continue to control you. Seriously find someone to talk to on building your self confidence up. Then you will be able to see the guilt trips he is playing on you and sad thing is your falling right into that trap. I assure you if this is all happening and your only dating it will only get worse as time goes along...  Then again, some women are addicted to the abuse and wind up defending their abuser. |
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Edited by
franshade
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Mon 01/18/10 01:30 PM
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[ I find that picture so powerful that I post whenever I see a thread of comment regarding verbal abuse. Then again, some women are addicted to the abuse and wind up defending their abuser. For some strange reason I doubt anyone is addicted to any type of abuse, most victims don't or can't see their way out of it, therefore they stay. But I too have seen victims defend their abusers, as they are either used to the way they are being treated, think they deserve it, or in fear for their lives. |
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 Franshade, that's the cutest pic I've ever seen. |
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Who's baby is that, Fran?
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