What is it that makes you interested in a person? Looks? Personality? I can't understand why someone stays with someone just because they LOOK GOOD!!!!

Dead things...oh, wait, sorry, I read the question wrong.

Personality would have to be first, but if i only know their looks that would be a different story. And yes I would have to be attracted.

Looks catch me, personality and brains add to it.

a combo of a lot of things. I want it all

Because it's easier to put up with a good-looking jerk rather than an ugly one.

they have bags for that. Or as my grandfather used to tell me....bring 2 in case one falls off

I see what you're saying. To me, a person looks good if they have a good personality. Looks you in the eyes. Listens attentively. Feels comfortable with quietness too. Asks thoughtful questions. Indulges their own perceptions about life. Playful banter. Concern and care for others. Takes time to think things through. Impressions are visually powerful, though. So, like it or not, it is important to dress the way you feel and keep yourself reasonably clean. At first I thought you were talking about what kinds of things interest you. For me it is a love of reading, writing, arts, and good conversation. I must admit, though...you'd never catch me falling in love with a guy who has a lot of tatoos, overdresses, talks negatively, or dons a cowboy hat. It's predjudice, but it just is. We all have them.

Won't he smother that way?

looks catch my attention. attitude and personality will decide how long before my a.d.d. sets it.


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you can poke holes in it. just make sure you don't poke the holes while he is wearing it

Glad you added the last part, that would have been a great tragedy....

There has to be some sort of attraction of looks. But, a guys personality goes way further than his looks. The person they are inside is more important than anything. Accepting each others assets & faults. I enjoy being with someone who is just plain fun to be around. I like someone who actually enjoys doing some of the things that I enjoy as well as me enjoying his interest. It's a two way street. I don't want to be with someone who is so into themselves there's no room for me in their life. Being there for each other during the good & the bad times. Guess that'd be my dream guy!

I may notice the looks first, but if there isn't some intellect there, some ability to communicate, some non-mainstream thinking process going on, I'm going to get bored very quickly. I've actually met one person who had all that, too.

There has to be something beyond looks, otherwise, I'm not going to stay attracted to them.

Honest and concise.

Looks are a factor, sure... but I don't even have that down to some shopping list thing any more, the list would grow and then I'd lose it or get distract by someone that wasn't even on the list... f@*k the list.
I find beauty in sooo many different things these days. Heart and spirit matter most to me. Has to care about ppl (and actively demonstrate it). Has to want to see & play with the beauty in the world. "Introspective" needs to fit in there somewhere.
The more complicated and layered she is, makes her sparkle and shine all the more. She'd just have to have patience enuf to deal with a guy who gets frustrated with trying to figure her out...

Personality is number one for me.

There's something beyond personality, sex, and humor ... ? Those do it for me ...

Personality is a big factor for me but there is nothing that would make me stay with someone if I'm not happy with them.

But then if they can't hold a conversation then I'm out of there.....