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So I met this really nice guy on POF. I went on two dates but no sparks. How do I tell him I am not really in to him without hurting him. He has made it clear he really likes me and that has made it harder for me to tell him. Normally I would avoid him so he takes a hint but he was a really nice guy who deserves better then that. It is just not always easy to do what's right. Any suggestions?
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Exactly that....
"You are a really lovely man....however, you are not 'it' for me...thankyou for the wonderful opportunity to meet you and learn of you....goodbye." |
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Hummmmmm the truth your a sweet guy but the feelings are just not there for me as they are for you. Truth always prevails better then a lie...........
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Just tell him as politely as you can, and move on. Life is way too short to waste.
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Tell him how you feel, maybe give him a little more time! |
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Being a guy and if this guy has some common sense Jess642's reply is right on. However, if this guy is a moron, and it sounds like he is nutty because after two dates he REALLY likes you, you might have to take bigger steps.
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Jess is right.. You just say it nicely... Of course when I have I've gotten called names so don't be surprised but if he really is a nice guy he'll understand...
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The best (but probably most difficult) way to handle it is to be upfront and tactful - you think he has many excellent qualities, etc etc etc, but there just isn't the 'chemistry', 'spark', 'magic' that's a vital part of making a relationship bloom. You wish him well blah blah blah you know he'll make some lady very happy blah blah blah and ... cut the string. Being quick and clean is preferable to slow and drawn out. He'll get over it.
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I like you, but I don't "LIKE YOU" like you.
So even though you are very nice, we have to stop seeing each other. I hope you understand and I wish you all the best but I really think it will be best if we do not see each other. Good luck in your search! 
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I agree with those who say to be nice in the break-up.
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I like you, but I don't "LIKE YOU" like you. So even though you are very nice, we have to stop seeing each other. I hope you understand and I wish you all the best but I really think it will be best if we do not see each other. Good luck in your search! but.....but....but....  I really LIKE YOU, Like you....   |
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I asked my sweetheart and he and I agree...Just tell them they are an awesome person but there just isnt any chemistry. Better to let him know now then later.
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I agree with all the previous posts. However, I do have to ask, are sparks suppose to happen instantly? Isn't it good that they aren't there right away, that way you can become friends? Love isn't built on two dates, it is built on friendship.
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I agree with all the previous posts. However, I do have to ask, are sparks suppose to happen instantly? Isn't it good that they aren't there right away, that way you can become friends? Love isn't built on two dates, it is built on friendship. I don't know Tami, I mean you make a good point... Usually we feel chemistry right away but we see how well that's worked for most of us...  Maybe more time is needed... I don't know I am not good at dating or relationships.. 
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I like you, but I don't "LIKE YOU" like you. So even though you are very nice, we have to stop seeing each other. I hope you understand and I wish you all the best but I really think it will be best if we do not see each other. Good luck in your search! but.....but....but.... I really LIKE YOU, Like you....  RIGHT best be prepared for this response.... Then you can mumble - "I'm really sorry"...as you run for the hills!
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I agree with all the previous posts. However, I do have to ask, are sparks suppose to happen instantly? Isn't it good that they aren't there right away, that way you can become friends? Love isn't built on two dates, it is built on friendship. I don't know Tami, I mean you make a good point... Usually we feel chemistry right away but we see how well that's worked for most of us... Maybe more time is needed... I don't know I am not good at dating or relationships.. That is kind of what I was getting at. If it happens too quickly, it usually doesn't work. As you mentioned, look at most of us I'm not good at it either, I just thought it made sense. |
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I agree with all the previous posts. However, I do have to ask, are sparks suppose to happen instantly? Isn't it good that they aren't there right away, that way you can become friends? Love isn't built on two dates, it is built on friendship. I don't know Tami, I mean you make a good point... Usually we feel chemistry right away but we see how well that's worked for most of us... Maybe more time is needed... I don't know I am not good at dating or relationships.. That is kind of what I was getting at. If it happens too quickly, it usually doesn't work. As you mentioned, look at most of us I'm not good at it either, I just thought it made sense. Yep, you have a great point... So if I ever go out on a date again, unless they make me want to throw up, I'll try again..
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Yep, you have a great point... So if I ever go out on a date again, unless they make me want to throw up, I'll try again.. I agree. I will do the same if I EVER get a date. Forget the again
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Yep, you have a great point... So if I ever go out on a date again, unless they make me want to throw up, I'll try again.. I agree. I will do the same if I EVER get a date. Forget the again Have you had a date within the last year? |
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Yep, you have a great point... So if I ever go out on a date again, unless they make me want to throw up, I'll try again.. I agree. I will do the same if I EVER get a date. Forget the again Have you had a date within the last year? Give me two months and I can say no...
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