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I swear, you guys do it to yourselves!
Friend at work, just got back into the dating thing. He's divorced, 2 kids. She and the kids are up in OK. He was venting at me as we were switching shifts about how much he is enjoying going out with this new gal, but he can't keep up with $80.00 evenings, roughly 4 days a week. Geez!!! I was totally appalled. When I asked him, he claimed dinner and a movie. Come to find out, he's taking her out to Olive Garden, various steakhouses, the pricey stuff and evening movies. This weekend he's taking her down to Galveston. When I asked why he didn't do the occassional Burger King and a matinee, he shrugged and said he didn't know. A nice dinner out is one thing. But you guys are setting yourself up to fail if you keep it up, especially when you don't actually live that way all of the time. If she's right for you, inexpensive won't kill her. You can have as much fun doing that as the pricey stuff, and save your wallet. And if she fusses over it, she's probably not the sort you want anyways. I'm still trying to figure out where he gets the money, since he's paying child support on top of it all. Shakes head. |
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sounds like she could be the type that thinks everything has to be high class. she selfish and greedy and he wants to please her but yet h has to put his foot down for once
geeze when my daughter dad got married his brother gave them a gift card to use at a resturant and she compalin that it wasent enough for the meal well geeze if she only got a cheaper plate they would had enough... his family cant stand her. as she has done other things for them to not like her more so he has slot coming if he hasent seen the dang lite yet |
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I swear, you guys do it to yourselves! Friend at work, just got back into the dating thing. He's divorced, 2 kids. She and the kids are up in OK. He was venting at me as we were switching shifts about how much he is enjoying going out with this new gal, but he can't keep up with $80.00 evenings, roughly 4 days a week. Geez!!! I was totally appalled. When I asked him, he claimed dinner and a movie. Come to find out, he's taking her out to Olive Garden, various steakhouses, the pricey stuff and evening movies. This weekend he's taking her down to Galveston. When I asked why he didn't do the occassional Burger King and a matinee, he shrugged and said he didn't know. A nice dinner out is one thing. But you guys are setting yourself up to fail if you keep it up, especially when you don't actually live that way all of the time. If she's right for you, inexpensive won't kill her. You can have as much fun doing that as the pricey stuff, and save your wallet. And if she fusses over it, she's probably not the sort you want anyways. I'm still trying to figure out where he gets the money, since he's paying child support on top of it all. Shakes head. Olive Garden pricey? I guess because my dad is a chef and owned a restaurant/bar. I think of Olive Garden as the McDonald's of Italian foods. I would never expect anyone to take me out four nights a week even to McDonald's, but a nice dinner at a nice place occasionally is nice. I agree the expense he is paying is beyond ridiculous, and no woman should go on dates four times a week, isn't that what the weekend is for? |
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There are so many cheaper options to go with. I live near Annapolis and spend a lot of time there. There are tons of small restaurants that are really good and not pricey at all. Some guys seem to have this idea that they have to take women out to pricey restaurants and spend lots of money on dates to make them happy. Then they whine about it later. Are we supposed to feel sorry for them?
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My Boyfriend and I take turns picking up the tab. Or every other weekend we switch houses and eat each others food! If one is short funds we try to help out no questions asked. it has worked out great.
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If 2 people enjoy being together there are alot of free things to do.
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If you constantly do the high end stuff, what do you do for the special occasions. I agree that if a woman is interested in a man, whatever you do is great!
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If 2 people enjoy being together there are alot of free things to do. Absolutely. Or even just cheap things. Just get more creative and find things to do that don't cost a lot. |
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Well over here the Olive Garden is considered cheap!!
I won't do fast food fates cause it all gives me gas!! Haha come on over to my place for dinner. Drinks a movie I'll cook. You bring the booze fun is had by all!!! 
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Hummmmm well the way I see it, it is his money and if he chooses to take her out to eat 7 nights a week and they go places every weekend that is his business.
Even though I do agree there are other things to do and myself I would not want to go out to eat 4 or more nights a week. But.... that is my choice. Sure we all can find stuff to do that don't cost a lot and would be just as enjoyable.... As long as one pays their bills and they are doing what they want too then so be it.... They just have to realize if one puts one on that pedestal they better be ready to keep them on it for as soon as you jerk it out from under them you could be history.............  
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Edited by
Queene123
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Thu 04/29/10 11:07 AM
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Well over here the Olive Garden is considered cheap!! I won't do fast food fates cause it all gives me gas!! Haha come on over to my place for dinner. Drinks a movie I'll cook. You bring the booze fun is had by all!!! when olive garden first open here (geeze many moons ago) my mom and her ex bf and my daughter and my son all went and for a meal for 4 they only paid $30 that was really good as now im not sure for i havent been in there in ages they do have good food. there was this guy that i met on another dating site awhile back and he went out to eat for every meal.. have no clue how he was able to afford that... he took me out to dinner one nite it wasent fancy but it was a good place to go to for i had been there a few times before.... he had money he even drove a dang jag nice car but wasent impressed with the money. wasent even impressed of going out every day for a meal waste of money. he didnt think so |
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I say don't spend more than you can afford. Because if you get married she'll expect you to keep it up!! What's wrong with an evening fishing & a cookout? Heck I'd got for a sandwich!! Guess I'm an easy date!!
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Seems like "dinner and a movie" would get mighty boring too? Just sayin....
$.02 |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Thu 04/29/10 11:50 AM
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I swear, you guys do it to yourselves! Friend at work, just got back into the dating thing. He's divorced, 2 kids. She and the kids are up in OK. He was venting at me as we were switching shifts about how much he is enjoying going out with this new gal, but he can't keep up with $80.00 evenings, roughly 4 days a week. Geez!!! I was totally appalled. When I asked him, he claimed dinner and a movie. Come to find out, he's taking her out to Olive Garden, various steakhouses, the pricey stuff and evening movies. This weekend he's taking her down to Galveston. When I asked why he didn't do the occassional Burger King and a matinee, he shrugged and said he didn't know. A nice dinner out is one thing. But you guys are setting yourself up to fail if you keep it up, especially when you don't actually live that way all of the time. If she's right for you, inexpensive won't kill her. You can have as much fun doing that as the pricey stuff, and save your wallet. And if she fusses over it, she's probably not the sort you want anyways. I'm still trying to figure out where he gets the money, since he's paying child support on top of it all. Shakes head. $80 is cheap!!!! I wish!!! That would be lunch. When I go on dates we spend upwards of $300 depending on the restaurant and club. I can’t remember a time when less that $50 was ever spent on a date wherein a restaurant was involved. I took my girlfriend out last week and we spent way over $150 for dinner and wine alone. That being said, dating doesn't have to be expensive every time. I don't suggest cheap places like Olive Garden (which is like Burger King) or Burger King (which is like poison) because they are so unhealthy but a picnic and a hike is fun! If a guy tried to take me to Taco Bell or something, I wouldn't date him anyway. I don't eat fast food or Olive Garden type chains so I doubt my lifestyle would fit with someone who tortured their body with that crap. Hopefully, she is picking up the tab every other time as well. It's not all about the guy paying. I agree with you. If someone is spending outside of their budget then they are setting themselves up for destruction. PEOPLE should date within their means. |
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I swear, you guys do it to yourselves! Friend at work, just got back into the dating thing. He's divorced, 2 kids. She and the kids are up in OK. He was venting at me as we were switching shifts about how much he is enjoying going out with this new gal, but he can't keep up with $80.00 evenings, roughly 4 days a week. Geez!!! I was totally appalled. When I asked him, he claimed dinner and a movie. Come to find out, he's taking her out to Olive Garden, various steakhouses, the pricey stuff and evening movies. This weekend he's taking her down to Galveston. When I asked why he didn't do the occassional Burger King and a matinee, he shrugged and said he didn't know. A nice dinner out is one thing. But you guys are setting yourself up to fail if you keep it up, especially when you don't actually live that way all of the time. If she's right for you, inexpensive won't kill her. You can have as much fun doing that as the pricey stuff, and save your wallet. And if she fusses over it, she's probably not the sort you want anyways. I'm still trying to figure out where he gets the money, since he's paying child support on top of it all. Shakes head. $80 is cheap!!!! I wish!!! That would be lunch. When I go on dates we spend upwards of $300 depending on the restaurant and club. I can’t remember a time when less that $50 was ever spent on a date wherein a restaurant was involved. I took my girlfriend out last week and we spent way over $150 for dinner and wine alone. That being said, dating doesn't have to be expensive every time. I don't suggest cheap places like Olive Garden (which is like Burger King) or Burger King (which is like poison) because they are so unhealthy but a picnic and a hike is fun! If a guy tried to take me to Taco Bell or something, I wouldn't date him anyway. I don't eat fast food or Olive Garden type chains so I doubt my lifestyle would fit with someone who tortured their body with that crap. Hopefully, she is picking up the tab every other time as well. It's not all about the guy paying. I agree with you. If someone is spending outside of their budget then they are setting themselves up for destruction. PEOPLE should date within their means. paying that much is crazy.. i wouldnt allow or expect anyone to pay that much for my dinner .. i guess i can say that you like expensive taste...... even if a man had a coupon have on problem with that.. whats wrong saving some money by using coupons |
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We're out in the country, south of Dallas by about 30 minutes. Olive Garden, Johnny Carino's and the steakhouses in the area are our high end restaurants. Chili's and Applebees falls in the mid-range, with Whataburger, McD's, Burger King being the "cheap" stuff. It's easy to drop $50.00 for a 2 person meal at Olive Garden, and that's not including if folks buy wine and champagne. That's pricey, by my standards. Don't get me wrong, Olive Garden is absolutely delicious, but it's still a splurge.
Sorry Melody, I about choked on my drink reading your response. I did a weekend run to South Carolina and back home, with hotels, food, and gas, and didn't spend that much money, and that was with 3 of us. Basic cost of living must be way higher there. I can't even fathom that amount except if it was a true vacation and one was playing and truly splurging. She's not paying and not offering, but does the driving. He was grumbling about never having had a woman treat him to dinner out. I did come back on him that if he was going to spend it, instead of finding fun, less expensive ways, it was his own fault, and I didn't want to hear later about women screwing him over. I most definitely agree that it's his decision and money, but I do resent when it comes back as an "all women are out for the money" comment. Even moreso when he's discussing needing to get a car. His priorities are out of touch with things. |
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We're out in the country, south of Dallas by about 30 minutes. Olive Garden, Johnny Carino's and the steakhouses in the area are our high end restaurants. Chili's and Applebees falls in the mid-range, with Whataburger, McD's, Burger King being the "cheap" stuff. It's easy to drop $50.00 for a 2 person meal at Olive Garden, and that's not including if folks buy wine and champagne. That's pricey, by my standards. Don't get me wrong, Olive Garden is absolutely delicious, but it's still a splurge. Sorry Melody, I about choked on my drink reading your response. I did a weekend run to South Carolina and back home, with hotels, food, and gas, and didn't spend that much money, and that was with 3 of us. Basic cost of living must be way higher there. I can't even fathom that amount except if it was a true vacation and one was playing and truly splurging. She's not paying and not offering, but does the driving. He was grumbling about never having had a woman treat him to dinner out. I did come back on him that if he was going to spend it, instead of finding fun, less expensive ways, it was his own fault, and I didn't want to hear later about women screwing him over. I most definitely agree that it's his decision and money, but I do resent when it comes back as an "all women are out for the money" comment. Even moreso when he's discussing needing to get a car. His priorities are out of touch with things. melody lives in california and yes over there is expensive the rents can be way over my limit.. even where im at. you can see some crazy rental prices |
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WOW! I must be a cheap date...I'm happy with a burger and a beer in the backyard!
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WOW! I must be a cheap date...I'm happy with a burger and a beer in the backyard! Lmao hey I'm with ya on that one myself it is nice to go out. But........not when one is spending way above their means to impress ya.... 
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I most definitely agree that it's his decision and money, but I do resent when it comes back as an "all women are out for the money" comment. Even moreso when he's discussing needing to get a car. His priorities are out of touch with things. It's sad he's never had a woman treat him to dinner or events -- my rule of thumb is "whoever asks - pays". Many times I have wanted to attend Broadway shows or go to the opening of a new 5 star restaurant - so I invite someone to go with me and the night is my treat. I also resent that some men think women date for the money. Well, they don't actually get "money" but are in benefit of luxurious outings. If a woman never offers to pay then the statement might be true. Shame on anyone that continues dating out of their financial comfort zone. I imagine it would be hard to listen to him complain when he does nothing to change the situation - especially if he has kids or upcoming expenses (like a car). Yes, Equus, the cost of living is higher in Sacramento. There are plenty of midrange restaurants; however, eating out is an adventure to me. Once a week is all I allow in my diet for restaurant food so I like to eat at high-end places and really soak in culture and fine dining. People can easily find a manageable budget for eating out though. I guess if you added up eating out 3 or 4 times a week then it would equal about the same amount of money spent at one of my favorite places. The cost is equal – just spent differently.
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