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Topic: Where was this persons mind?
TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 07:34 AM
Your on a dating site right, and your kind of hoping this site will lead you to someone. Then you start posting on the forum hoping to have some kind of conversation with the people that are on there. Nothing wrong in that, we all do it. But everyone is looking at your pic, your a women, and your main pic is you breast feeding your child to where you can see everything but what the baby is feeding on.



So ladies, what would you actually be getting out of this by posting a pic like that on a dating site if you were the one doing it?


As a man, i'm confusedwhat

mssilverfox's photo
Sat 01/01/11 07:42 AM
I saw that picture too and was wondering what she was thinking..noway

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 08:18 AM
I seen this on the other site I'm on last night, this morning I looked at the thread and she don't have any pic up now.


I don't understand some peopleohwell

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 01/01/11 08:26 AM
slaphead Now that's funny. laugh

lulu24's photo
Sat 01/01/11 10:23 AM
i haven't seen the picture in question...but i nursed my kids everywhere i went, so it probably wouldn't bother me any.

AndyBgood's photo
Sat 01/01/11 10:26 AM
This is what she was thinking, "See, I put out! I am desperate, I also do not have much going on between my ears!"


See, I can read minds...

Not really cause I am guessing here!

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 10:36 AM

i haven't seen the picture in question...but i nursed my kids everywhere i went, so it probably wouldn't bother me any.


There is nothing wrong in that, but being on a dating site and using it as a main pic. Someone has a loose screwlaugh

no photo
Sat 01/01/11 10:40 AM
Did you try asking the person with the pic you're talking about?

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:17 AM

Did you try asking the person with the pic you're talking about?




Yeah i did, I asked her what she was expecting out of this. Never got an answer.

no photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:22 AM
Well, we can all guess, but only she's going to know the reason she used the picture.

msharmony's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:31 AM
perhaps the same reason some post pics of their cars or with their shirt off, it may be that she is proud of this particular bond with her child and wants to show it off,,,

no photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:34 AM

perhaps the same reason some post pics of their cars or with their shirt off, it may be that she is proud of this particular bond with her child and wants to show it off,,,


laugh I've definitely seen some men's profiles where they had several pictures of their cars, yet one or no pictures of themselves. That's something I'll never get.

msharmony's photo
Sat 01/01/11 11:49 AM


perhaps the same reason some post pics of their cars or with their shirt off, it may be that she is proud of this particular bond with her child and wants to show it off,,,


laugh I've definitely seen some men's profiles where they had several pictures of their cars, yet one or no pictures of themselves. That's something I'll never get.


lol, I just wonder if the ladies are permitted to post shirtless pics too,,laugh laugh laugh

no photo
Sat 01/01/11 01:17 PM
<....I think its pretty clear what Im communicating...

msharmony's photo
Sat 01/01/11 01:19 PM
Edited by msharmony on Sat 01/01/11 01:20 PM

Yep. Lots of gals dont realise they are communicating something with their pic, even when they state they want 'relationship'.

Men do the same. They dont realise that leading with sex/skin will communicate that they have an alternate priority to a 'relationship'.

Maybe its subconscious. dunno. Its pretty clear to me, so I dont understand people like that.


yeah, that whole first impressions thing can be a killer,,lol

talking about being a family man/woman and posting a pic with boobs out or falling over drunk in a bar

or talking about being health minded and posting a pic smoking a cigarette next to a keg,,,lol

I dont think people put alot of thought sometimes into how well their picture reflects their profile


or that most will probably receive them as the way their picture displays ,,,

AndyBgood's photo
Sat 01/01/11 02:54 PM
After seeing some of the responses here I can make a different guess from the male perspective. Either the kid is number one and any man in her life is number 2, or she is out for more kids!

Either way to me that is a, need I say it?



I will give a plural picture instead!

seamac's photo
Sat 01/01/11 06:01 PM
I am sorry, are we really talking a breast feeding pic on a dating web site????

Ok I get that if she is breast feeding, she is new and undrstandably and hopefully consumed by her new baby. So if she is in need of the chat and support we good people here can offer then a breast feeding pic would work in the right forum. If she is trolling for 'love' then The Shadow I am as confused as you are!


There is a time and place for everything!

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 06:42 PM

I am sorry, are we really talking a breast feeding pic on a dating web site????

Ok I get that if she is breast feeding, she is new and undrstandably and hopefully consumed by her new baby. So if she is in need of the chat and support we good people here can offer then a breast feeding pic would work in the right forum. If she is trolling for 'love' then The Shadow I am as confused as you are!


There is a time and place for everything!


Thats The thing though, she is not new to the site. I didn't know who it was till I looked at the profile and all her pics are like from ten years ago, other then the breast feeding pic. Either way whether she was trolling or not. Like you said, there is a time and place for everything.

seamac's photo
Sat 01/01/11 06:55 PM


I am sorry, are we really talking a breast feeding pic on a dating web site????

Ok I get that if she is breast feeding, she is new and undrstandably and hopefully consumed by her new baby. So if she is in need of the chat and support we good people here can offer then a breast feeding pic would work in the right forum. If she is trolling for 'love' then The Shadow I am as confused as you are!


There is a time and place for everything!


Thats The thing though, she is not new to the site. I didn't know who it was till I looked at the profile and all her pics are like from ten years ago, other then the breast feeding pic. Either way whether she was trolling or not. Like you said, there is a time and place for everything.



Well what else can I add? Have you thought to ask her? I just am thinking that if you know her pics from ten years ago, perhaps you could ask her "what is up with this pic" or words, kinder, to that effect.


I still say there is a time and place....for every purpose under heaven.

TheShadow's photo
Sat 01/01/11 07:09 PM
I did ask her what she was thinking, she didn't give an answer other then taking the pick off for the night. Later she put it back up so who knowsohwell

You can set it to where if you don't want to see the others person post, you have the option not to. At the same time though it doesn't delete her post either. So I chose not to see. It's not something that chose to look at and being on a forum, you can't get away from something like that when the person post a lot.

To sum this up, she is not a nice person either.


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