I like the idea of meeting someone online,then the small talk through emailing, then if it clicks maybe meeting for lunch or a walk. But how far is too far? I have seen alot of post about couple that look to be in there mid to late 30's or even older meeting online then developing a relationship. I can be optimistic but, I chatted with someone who was listed a living within an hour and it was emailed to me that the distance may be too far for anything to develop,(she said). Is that a bad thing for people in there 20's. I know i'm not in any position to relocate but that doesn't mean i wouldn't travel for a couple hour drive(4) to go on a date with someone. I understand that younger people in my age group may not consider a long distance email friend someone they could potentually date. Maybe its to early to tell... What does anybody think about this, your opinions are appreciated!

Wow!

An hour was too far?

I used to drive an hour just to get to work.

But, I asked my ex to marry me when I was living in Texas and she was living in Alaska.

We were married for 12 years. She moved to Texas.

Humm all depends if it is only friendships or relationships???????????

The heading says friendship but then you talk about relationship. So which one are you asking about?

As far as friendship distance does not matter to me....

As far as relationship to me I'm not willing to do the LDR. Due to I will not relocate I have my house here, my kids, & my grand kids as well as my family.

If they don't live within a driving distance that we could actually be around each other on a regular basis then they live too far away. Myself I want someone that lives within the same area and we can actually do things together.

I know that many do the LDR and it works for them that is great. I have tried it more then once to me if I'm going to be alone all the time then I might as well be single. JMO

Everything depends on the people..
I wanted to make great friends but have ended up engaged to a wonderful man..
Now the problem with that is he lives in America and I am in Australia.

Truthfully I wouldnt reccomend that far, but it happened and thats cool we deal with it and it sucks.. Any long distance relationship takes commitment and work.

I would much rather see him sometimes then not have him at all, he is worth all the trouble we go through.

But really any relatonship does.

I guess if you make it clear in your profile that you are willing to travel and hour or so, that way anyone who is interest know you will try.

But really just make friends with everyone and take it from there, if you meet someone you really like, hope that she is close and work out what you are going to do..

It all depends on what priority you
give to love.
You can make yourself a billion rules
about distance.
Of course, you will make them alone.

I'll sum this up in a nutshell ....
it is very rare that an LDR will ever work.
For a relationship to truely grow, it takes being up front and personal. Distance makes things too clandestine for involved parties.

Meeting someone online, friendship or relationship alike, should always have the benefits of good effect to the persons involved regardless of age group they belong to. It shouldn't be actually about the question of how far is the distance between the two of them, rather the question should be how far could the two of them tolerate this online dating thing. How far can their time and effort afford this set up? How far can their financial status support the set up? These can only be answered by the two persons involved though.

Well for me ,
Enjoy talking to people far away ...
different background , Each has a story to tell
about ones life ....

You can be friends with anyone anywhere around the globe
(really you can )

But in terms of Having a relationship then i believe
you wanna be near that person
Do stuff together, like what Kristi said

but for me all the cute guys online who are date-able are far way
Bummer !

The title of your thread says friendship, yet your actual post seems to be talking about more. If I'm just getting to know a friend (not dating) then distance doesn't matter. If I actually want to date them, they'd probably need to be less than an hour away, as we have some of the worst traffic in the country around here and an hour's distance can often be a lot more. I'd actually prefer them to be much closer than that.

Friendship has no bounds.There`s a saying that your friends are the ones you choose and your family is what your stuck into lol. If its just about friendship then i have global friends, if its a girl and there`s an oppurtunity to develop that friendship into something Special then nothing at all matters.If this lady is THE lady then i would be an adventure ride of a life time to go meet her ofcourse i am not thinking about other logistical dynamics of Long distance just acting on the impluse.

I don't think distance in miles causes nearly the threat to a relationship as much as the distance in emotional comittment to each other can.
You can live right next door to somebody and not have it work.
You can be miles apart and still very close. Its all how treat what you have and how you show it that matters.

if you are friends with someone you met online and you go for lunch is it a date or just friends? if you end up getting closer to someone and you went out to lunch with them in the past wouldnt you consider the past lunches dating?....... thats what i mean with the relationship talk :)

Thats true, Imy man is a loooong way away, but he still shares my life, I talk to him for anywhere up to 8 hours a day, longer if I could stay awake. He knows everything i do and i know what he is doing.
We talk and share our lives constantly yep there is distance but I never feel like he is far away.

But it will be so much better when he is here. 6 weeks and 1 day till I see him for 10 weeks ..soooooo cool

QUOTED: "if you are friends with someone you met online and you go for lunch is it a date or just friends? if you end up getting closer to someone and you went out to lunch with them in the past wouldnt you consider the past lunches dating?....... thats what i mean with the relationship talk :)"

It's just lunch and it's a testing ground to discover wether or not you two will 1. Mesh, 2. be compatable.

Take time to listen what the other person is asking or talking about.
What kind of questions are they asking?
What are they talking about?

If someone lives within an hour of driving, that's not considered long distance by today's standards. Sounds to me as though the person might have an attraction to somebody close by and cannot get their attention, so they're compensating ... but being narrow minded.

If they're telling you "it's too far" ... you're getting the brush off.

each person has to know their boundaries and respect anothers. what you are capable of doing, driving four hours for instance, and what the other is capable of doing, may not be the same. perhaps the other person doesn't need a friendship that far away. if they are purely looking for someone for regular dating, you should respect their distance criteria.

online can erase the miles, yet if you, or they, are not in position to eventually make a move when a deep relationship develops, you will quickly be jolted back into reality.

Thats Wonderful I am really happy for you.
I bet this 6 weeks and I day is going to go by very slowly!

^^this...no amount of distance or time has ever changed how my heart feels about a friend! Saw a friend during spring break that I lost contact with 12 years ago & nothing had changed as far as that friendship was concerned except we had a lot of catching up to do :)

5 years ago I moved 4 hrs away from all of my friends, but we are still friends. We don't see each other as much, but the bonds are still there. I have had both of my bffs for 20 years now and lost contact with one of them several times and we always find each other again. IME distance has no affect on love (friendly or romantic).

If I'm friends with someone and meet them as friends, it's not a date.

It is draggin by soooo slowly, but the 10 weeks will fly..

Ditto, just friends having lunch is all it was to start if a relationship develops and you take it to the next step then it would be dating........